I want to marry him but my mother is considering other proposals
Aoa ..
I met a boy in my university during an event then we became friends, our friendship last for 3 years during this friendship we care our every experience which we had in our life. He is very kind and generous to me, we both start to like each other but couldn't say a word. He always guide me the right path. In sep 2014 he proposed me and promised me that he will talk to his parents. After six months my brother become aware of our relation and talk to him. The boy assure my brother that he will come to our with proper proposal and will not harm me. My mother and brother only knew about him at home. The boy's father has two wives his first wife is ill since 20 years thats why he did second marriage, my mother has only problem with his 2 mothers she always says me you will get a tough life. The boy is 2 years elder than me .
My brother doesn't have any problem, he personally met him and I told him every single thing. Our relationship is very pure and has strong bond, we together face many difficulties but then again we come close.
I did istikhara as well and I had a positive sign. My mother start searching my proposals and tomorrow one family is coming to see me. I told my mother and brother my istikhara sign but my mother said me that it's not necessary that if your istikhara is right than that boy will be in your (naseeb). But when I told my brother he said trust allah. Please guide me I am very depressed please.
mahnoor ayesha
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Sister,
In the end of the day, it does not matter who comes to your home to propose for your hand in marriage. If you are not happy and that is not what you want, then you simply say "no". Islamically you cannot be forced to marry anyone not of your choosing.
If this brother is sincerely interested in making you his wife, let your brother tell him to come and ask for your hand in a proper manner. Maybe if your family have an opportunity to see and speak with him, they will see his character and possibly rethink their stance.
Salam
Salam sister.
Does your mother have a proposal for you or just rejecting this good guy hoping a better one will come soon.
The one who is getting married is you, so if you like the guy do whatever you can to get the approval of your mother. You can use your relatives and others to help you convince your mother.
Your mother will understand in the end if she see you defending your choice strongly. If you do not mind marrying any man ??
think and act, hope its not too late
assalamualikum...sister mahnoor i can understand ur feelings as i am going through same situation...the guy i want to marry is very good religious but my mom is not agreeng...but if your isteqhara is positive as u have mentioned then trust allahh he will sure make some way out inashallahh....