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If two people who aren’t married do anything relating to sex…

Whispers in the night

Assalamu Alakum,

Brothers and sisters in Islam, I have a complicated question.

if two people who aren't married do anything relating to sex,

1.Do they exchange spirits by just doing sexual related things

2. Should they get married to each other.

please, I need answers to the question

Shy_talkative


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  1. As-salaam Alaekum,
    I met a sister i love to choose as a future wife. We were both young as to get married so early as she was eighteen when i met her and i was Twenty-four as at the time (2015). She's verse in Quranic and Islamic etiquettes (Idadih) yet, she always request for sex and when i tell her about the effect she consider me as her husband despite we are not married lawfully. She do think i don't care nor love her when i turn her request down. Please, what can i do because i am tired of this kind of love.

    I tried to free her perhaps, she'd see someone else to give to her what she needs but she wouldn't leave me alone. Very aggressive and quarrelsome. She vow to marry me. I need idayah on this. It's really gotten into my nerves. Now, i've lost my job and the problem she poise seem increasing.

    • This sister is confused. How can she be versed in Quran and Sunnah and yet think that she can have sex outside of marriage? There is no such thing as "considering someone as your husband" without legal nikah. This is a trap of Shaytan.

      You have two options, brother. One is to go to the sister's family with a marriage proposal, and try to marry her. The other is to cut off contact with her completely. Change your phone number, deactivate your social media page, keep away from her completely. May Allah help you stay on the path of Islam and purity.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. Sorry, I did not add that the zaniya needs to wait before marrying and they both must repent.

    "Ibn Qudaamah (may Allah have mercy on him) said:

    If a woman commits zina, it is not permissible for the one who is aware of that to marry her, unless two conditions are met:

    1. That her ‘iddah has ended; if she became pregnant as a result of zina, then her ‘iddah ends when she gives birth, and it is not permissible to marry her before that.

    2. That she should repent from zina.

    He also said:

    If these two conditions are met, it is permissible for her to marry the zaani or someone else, according to most of the scholars, including Abu Bakr, ‘Umar, Ibn ‘Umar, Ibn ‘Abbaas, Jaabir, Sa‘eed ibn al-Musayyab, Jaabir ibn Zayd, ‘Ata’, al-Hasan, ‘Ikrimah, az-Zuhri, ath-Thawri, ash-Shaafa‘i, Ibn al-Mundhir, and ashaab ar-ra’y. End quote.

    Al-Mughni, 7/108, 109"

    It is not permissible to marry a zaani or zaaniyah unless they have repented: https://islamqa.info/en/85335

  3. Hello,
    If two of you r involved in doing sex and want to make this relationship legitimate, you can marry and recite Astaghfirullah, Allah will forgive you both and shower his blessings upon you.

  4. Sister, Islam is simple to those righteous and even simple for the sinners except for few major sins.

    You don't exchange souls

    You don't need to marry unless you wish to.

    But for doing so which is a major sin one should repent and if under Islamic ruling, has bear the punishment of 100 beatings. However if the sin is committed and feeling regret for the one committed, Allahs doors are open sister

  5. Waaleikum salam warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

    No, they do not exchange spirits.

    They do not have to marry if they do not want to. If they want to, they can marry as long as the girls wali approves, there are two witnesses, etc.

    One who has commited zina needs to repent. The punishement for zina in the grave is extremely severe.

    https://youtu.be/KTUo8g7Da2M

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