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I’m 14 and in love with my cousin forever help me

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Salam, I need help,

i really like my cousin, ever since I was 12 I've been feeling these weird things whenever I was around him, but I just dismissed it. Then slowly as I hit puberty I realised that I like him. I'm not used feeling like this when I was growing  up my mother and father always told me to shield my eyes from harm things. I feel disgusted with myself for likening my own blood relative but at the same time I can't help it. I tried to make him notice me, he sometimes did when we were alone by accident, like once we alone in the kitchen out of nowhere he asked me if I was a virgin I was so shocked I slapped him. And I told his older sister, but I never told anyone how I felt.  I feel the harder and longer I conceal this feeling the more my desire for him grows.I need help I have tried everything and now I have got to the point where I am really scared I might do something haram or commit sin, and marriage is waaaay out of the question first of all I'm too young and second I like him a lot but not enough to marry

please advise me



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  1. Ur doing very big sin please don't go that way ....
    Read quran and fallow namaz .
    Ur in teenage this type of thoughts are common ..
    There are more articles for what happened in teenage , what they want, what is the good thoughts for you and your family ( available in online)
    U want to change ur mind
    First thing think about ur life and surroundings ...
    If you behave like this I can't ignore ur self ...
    Each and every second very painful you can't see face in ur life , if u try to see him u feel very very bad can't tolerate it ,because he is ur cousin with blood bonding relationship...

    Ur a teenage girl , please try to understand situation , it's a age related problem (hormones),
    Be positive ,study will be helpful for you about hormones and understand what happened to you...then u feel better soon and also u feel shame on you...
    So understand ur life is on bad path please
    Change ur self . I will praying for you ....
    Allah always with you tc

  2. Assalaamalaikum.

    You'll need the dua of Prophet Yusuf (peace be upon him):

    Rabbi fatira alssamawati waalardi anta waliyyee fee alddunya waalakhirati tawaffanee musliman waalhiqnee bialssaliheen (Surah Yousuf: 101).
    My Lord! Originator of the heavens and the earth! You are my my Wali (Protector, Helper, Supporter, Guardian, God, Lord.) in this world and in the Hereafter. Cause me to die as a Muslim (the one submitting to Your Will), and join me with the righteous”

    Rabbi alssijnu ahabbu ilayya mimma yadAAoonanee ilayhi wailla tasrif AAannee kaydahunna asbu ilayhinna waakun mina aljahileen (Surah Yusuf ,verse 33)
    My Lord! the prison house is dearer to me than that to which they invite me;and if Thou turn not away their device from me, I will yearn towards them and become (one) of the ignorant.

  3. This a tough case...shaitan will keep whispering and play with your emotions knowing your weakness. ..He wants you to mess up and be cursed by the angels!!!!solution is to keep away from by not looking at him and that only comes with IMAN..Salat and reading quran and being with practicing muslims will save you and your future future children....your education and understanding what life is really about is far important then getting all sprung up.....So many young kids lIves are spoiled in this situation...especially drugs alcohol and offspring out of wedlock. May Allah protect your innocence

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