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I’m 16 and want to die

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Assalam u Alaikum!

I'm 16 year old from Pak. When I was a kid my mother used to love me a lot, I always used to stick to her. I used to do all the things she wanted. But as now I'm grown my likes n dislikes have been changed and my mom is not loving me the way she used to love even we have came across so many arguments. Few days ago I argued with my mother coz of a lady who said bad things about my elder sister and my mom didn't say anything to her even she's blaming my sister and when I said to my mother not to do this she started abusing me and got angry she also imprecate me I'm really tired of all these things. I don't know what to do I want to die 🙁 :/

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  1. OP: Few days ago I argued with my mother coz of a lady who said bad things about my elder sister and my mom didn't say anything to her even she's blaming my sister and when I said to my mother not to do this she started abusing me and got angry.

    So what your mom has likes and dislikes that are different from your likes and dislikes. You have to make a choice between keeping peace or winning arguments.

  2. As salaam Aleikum,

    I'm sorry about how you feel. Usually when we are young we are happy to follow those who influence us, good or bad. We sometimes don't take note of wrong or right fully. As we grow I om, and particularly in our teens, we start to assert and voice out own opinion. This is perfectly normal and healthy as long as you learn to do this respectfully. I am sure your mother did the same in her teens.

    Always be respectful and living towards your parents. But if they are wrong it is good to correct them gently & with respect. There is no need to argue if you have a difference of opinion, try to discuss respectfully.

    I am pretty sure your mother loves you and that she herself may also find it challenging to understand you fully. Keep the peace and inshAllah you will find a balance as you grow up.

  3. Assalamualikum!
    are you mad?
    you know life is so much precious .
    you just need a frnd whom you can share you worries and you cant understand your mother's problem ok
    you should try to understand that why she didnt reply that lady ok
    and you are immature ok dont think like this ok

  4. Few days ago I argued with my mother coz of a lady who said bad things about my elder sister and my mom didn't say anything to her even she's blaming my sister and when I said to my mother not to do this she started abusing me and got angry.

    its sad that you want to die when i or you not sure how much better deeds is a head of you in akhira.
    your mother lived this dunya before you were born so she is more wiser than you are thinking/
    However mum can be wrong sometimes to correct there is no need of argument but you need politely to tell mum not this way but this way and i am sure straight away she will make some changes.
    your mum loves you more than you are imaging but you may not realise today or tomorrow but time will come when you see every think differently.
    please allow your mum to deal with this issues politely as she is doing no need for arguing.
    And lastly please i felt very sad and scary that you want to die as Muslim nation suicide ideation or attempts are very dangerous and evil deeds and you will be holded accountable for your soul so please keep your self out of trouble and look for help before you think to do such harm to your self. may Allah help us undestand his nim'a that he is please up on us

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