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I’m confused I might be gay

Homosexuality in Islam

I want to get married one day, but problem is I might be gay. I can't focus on anything I'm always thinking i might be gay. I remember having an attraction to girls when I was a kid, in fact, I still remember the faces of the girls I had crushes on. The same sex attraction started in 8th grade I wasn't worrying about it back too much then. The weird part about it is I had crushes on girls in middle school too. I started noticing the same sex attraction more in the 11 grade I still had crushes on girls in high school it just wasn't as common as before. This is what bothers me. What happened to the Opposite sex attraction? I can't tell if I'm attracted to a girl or not. If I see an anime girl  half naked I get aroused for some reason. I don't find woman bodies repulsive. I never had a girlfriend because, well, I went to school with my brother so he would snitch on me for sure. I will say this I'm currently in College right now I think I might have a crush on this girl I don't know why she seems special to me sadly she is not Muslim so I can't marry her I do want to have sex with her. The thing is I don't know if she attractive to me, but she feels really special to me. I do get this different feeling towards women, but they feel different compared to the same sex attraction. I start feeling sad when I find a man attractive since I know it's haram in Islam. I need to start praying so Allah can guide me to the right path. I do read verses of the Quran and I'm interested in the stories of the prophets of Islam. If you guys can help me InshAllah figure this out  I would appreciate it. I do want to marry a good Muslim girl one day so we both can have kids and live a happy life. You know what it feels good writing all this down because this is always stuck in my head. It bothers me I can't thinking that I might be gay.

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  1. It sounds to me like you are MAYBE bi-sexual at best - but not gay. If you were gay, you wouldn't feel any attraction towards women. But you do, so...you're not gay.

    There's nothing wrong with finding people of either gender attractive - I can admit when I see a beautiful woman...it doesn't mean I want to marry her and sleep with her, lol.

    Just relax and stop worrying so much. You are attracted to women, so you're not gay.

  2. As Salaamu Alaykum

    First of all you have to pray 5 Time in a Day(because how will Allah help one Muslim if he dont worship Allah) and second allways recite the Al - Quran and Ausobillah and other dhikr (but of course in Arabic) nad Homosexuality is forbidden in Islam if you think you have feeling to one Boy then seperate your self from him and now about that with you want to have sexual Intercourse with a Girl.I think you too know that ,this is Haraam too.In Islam there is nothing like a Frindship with a Girl,you can talk to her like how are you and that kind but no small talks,flirting and too not to much laughing with Girls.
    Only in marriage that relationnship is allow(but of course only with Women / Girls and of course she have to be a Believer.)

    Here some Ayat and some Hadith.

    “And (remember) Loot (Lot), when he said to his people: ‘Do you commit the worst sin such as none preceding you has committed in the ‘Aalameen (mankind and jinn)?

    81. ‘Verily, you practise your lusts on men instead of women. Nay, but you are a people transgressing beyond bounds (by committing great sins).’

    82. And the answer of his people was only that they said: ‘Drive them out of your town, these are indeed men who want to be pure (from sins)!’

    83. Then We saved him and his family, except his wife; she was of those who remained behind (in the torment).

    84. And We rained down on them a rain (of stones). Then see what was the end of the Mujrimoon (criminals, polytheists and sinners)”

    [al-A’raaf 7:80-84]

    “Verily, by your life (O Muhammad), in their wild intoxication, they were wandering blindly.

    73. So As‑Saihah (torment — awful cry) overtook them at the time of sunrise.

    74. And We turned (the towns of Sodom in Palestine) upside down and rained down on them stones of baked clay.

    75. Surely, in this are signs for those who see (or understand or learn the lessons from the Signs of Allaah).

    76. And verily, they (the cities) were right on the highroad (from Makkah to Syria, i.e. the place where the Dead Sea is now)”

    [al-Hijr 15:72-76]

    al-Tirmidhi (1456), Abu Dawood (4462)and Ibn Maajah (2561) narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Whoever you find doing the action of the people of Loot, execute the one who does it and the one to whom it is done.”. Classed as saheeh in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

    Ahmad (2915) narrated from Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Prophet of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “May Allaah curse the one who does the action of the people of Loot, may Allaah curse the one who does the action of the people of Loot,” three times. This was classed as hasan by Shu’ayb al-Arna’oot in Tahqeeq al-Musnad.

  3. We are all different in what appeals to us sexually. What is important is that what we do is within the confines of Islamic principles.

    I assume you are a man. You stated you do respond sexually on some level to certain types of women. Perhaps that is the type of woman you should seek out for marriage. Some men and women don't respond to the opposite sex as others do. Some people are instantly attracted to highly intelligent, or artsy or very beautiful types. Some tall women find shorter men adorable. Some very handsome men immediately are taken in by very smart brainy women.

    Do not act on any questionable desires you think you may have. Shaitaan is very busy in this world. He delights when we cross the boundaries Allah has laid out for us. Shaitaan has been so successful, that nowadays, it is wrong to speak out publicly against homosexuality. Two men or two women can get legally married to one another. A married man can even have a mistress in some cultures. But a man who wants a second wife for excellent reasons has to do so without the government knowing.

  4. OP: This is what bothers me. What happened to the Opposite sex attraction? I can't tell if I'm attracted to a girl or not. If I see an anime girl half naked I get aroused for some reason. I don't find woman bodies repulsive. I never had a girlfriend because, well, I went to school with my brother so he would snitch on me for sure. I will say this I'm currently in College right now I think I might have a crush on this girl I don't know why she seems special to me sadly she is not Muslim so I can't marry her I do want to have sex with her. The thing is I don't know if she attractive to me, but she feels really special to me

    What thoughts come to your mind when you feel attracted to a man or a woman?

  5. Well it took a long time to be posted 🙂

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