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In laws creating problems between me and my husband

Unhappy marriage

Assalamu Alaikum

I'm a Middle class house wife from india. my MIL speaks to me softly but with double meaning. Then backbiting against me in front of my husband. After that every time husband and me had quarrel. So i decided not to see my MIL face. But my husband wanted forcefully to meet his mother. go for a family hangout with his mother and his two sisters (i had fear about these three woman in my heart too because the way they speaks to me which i never revealed ) for that reason he stop talking to me because i did a unlawful thing according to him.

We are married for 2 years had a 1 year daughter. My marriage was a mistake because my in laws including my husband never prayed don't know any surah which i came to know after marriage. Lying is just simple thing to them. They are very stingy too asking for my spendings can cause a great argument with my husband. Still some time he is good to me, Goes for Jumma salah. But whenever my in laws interfere everything got damage, husband start arguments and even lies to support his family. i told him "i never want to split you from your family but please don't force me to mix with those people who are not adjustable to me." but he never heard.

Day by day my husband treating me bad, doing every thing what I dislike, talking like non believers. Stop speaking for 1-2 weeks for any simple reason which is more painful.

Nowadays I have no love for my husband but want to save my marriage because of my daughter please tell something what to do.

PeaSe


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  1. Salaam sister

    Where do you live in India or UK?
    My in laws also made my life difficult I use to live with them and i left after three months Alhumdhililah no children. Please make lots of dua for guidance as to what you should do. Divorce is very painful and even more so in India due to cultural views. If you have support and can handle that then this may be an option.

  2. OP: Day by day my husband treating me bad, doing every thing what I dislike, talking like non believers. Stop speaking for 1-2 weeks for any simple reason which is more painful.............Nowadays I have no love for my husband but want to save my marriage because of my daughter please tell something what to do.

    What do you mean "my husband is doing every thing what I dislike, talking like non believers"? Can you imagine yout brother leaving you and your mother for his wife?

    If some one says bad things about you, you should not feel bad if you THINK they are wrong. Treat your mother in law and sisters in law nicely, sooner or later they may change.

  3. Divorce is not answer, he is your husband honor him even when not deserve. God will reward you.

    I almost went through something similar, his family was involve in Jinn and he has gambling addiction mixed with prostitution involvement. His sisters made my life terrible because we are from different cultures, they did all they could to seperate us. His family blame his ex wife called her crazy but I see now it's not ex wife it is his family, but he allowed in marriage. I understand what you are going through.

    Don't allow your marriage to be destroy, pray, fast and ask God for help.

    My sister guidance and wisdom are important in your marriage. You are his wife use your rights to bring him closer to God.
    As of his family don't allow or show their actions or words affect you, avoid deep conversations, make sure they understand it is your marriage, your husband, not their marriage. Never talk anything negative to your husband about his family, remember love is greater.

    You should seek counseling together.

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