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Catholic man in love with a Muslim Girl and want to marry her

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Hi I am in a situation. I am a Catholic man and in love with a Muslim girl. We both love each other very much and just cannot think of spending our lives with someone else.

I am willing to revert to Islam, and have even enrolled myself recently. The problem is that she is too scared to tell her parents.

I know that if she happens to marry someone else, it will not be a successful marriage as she had tried to hurt herself earlier when her parents only spoke about a proposal.

As per her parents, they know me as a very close friend of hers and have even mentioned that only I can understand and handle her.

I need your advice on how can I go about things. Should I speak to her sister who is also a friend of mine?

I just have my mom, and I have told her about this girl and my intentions to accept Islam. She was a bit upset earlier, but now she speaks to this girl as if she is her daughter.

Please brothers and sisters, I need your advice. Thank you.

- jos16777


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  1. Dear jos,

    Thank you for writing to us.
    I am glad that you are considering Islam. But I want to know how sincere your intention is.

    Do you believe that Allah is The Only God Worthy of Worship? Do you believe in Prophethood of Muhammad Peace be upon him?

    If you do, you're on track, otherwise, there wouldn't be any difference between your Religion now, and then.
    And a Muslim lady is not allowed to marry any non Muslim.

    If you do not yet believe in it, then I suggest you to read and learn about Islam and its beliefs, before considering converting to Islam.

    When you are ready, you can profess the Testimony that there is none Worthy of Worship but Allah and Muhammad Peace be upon him is His Messenger, and then, you could slowly approach the girl's family and who their confidence. When they accept you as a Muslim, I believe it will be easier for them to give their daughter to you then, than now.

    I pray that Allah fills your heart with Peace and Guidance of the true path

    Best Regards,
    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. jos16777

    I am a revert to Islam from christianity.

    What is really happening is that Allah is leading you. Read the Qu'ran. Study. It is my view that any christian that reads the Qu'ran with an open mind will see the truth. For me, as I christian I had doubts of my faith then. When I began to study, the closeness I felt to God was magnified immeasurably and replaced with a profound closeness to Allah. The voice of reason in your head is Allah! As a Christian, you are worshiping Allah, but you do not see Him clearly. Submit to Him fully. You will know the difference if you truly submit.

    Regarding this woman, she is sinning by being close to you. If you truly respect her and submit to the will of Allah, you CANNOT remain friends. I know this will be difficult. There is little chance the two of you can be together, and NONE if you do not truly submit to Allah for the right reasons. If you love her, you must think of what is best for her. She needs a pious Muslim husband, a leader (Imam) in her marriage. Islam is a way of life. A commitment to Allah and your soul, the same is true for her, for her soul. We do not know the will of Allah. He may want you to be together. He may be taking the mischief Shaytaan is making through your mutual affection and flipping it to glorify Him, and guiding you to Him. Seek His will.

    If you love her as you claim, you are putting her at risk of hellfire. One if the most blessed and rewarded things two people who love each other can do is be apart for the sake of Allah, to please Him and follow His will.

    AmericanMuslim
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  3. Aoa brother

    how you are ..im happy to hear you would lile to convert to islam.as for being a catholic once myself i.am now a muslim girl.in islam muslim men can marry christians.but muslim women im afaird can not.marry.a christian man.this is forbidden by the sake.and will of allah.havent you read the.quran yet i dont think she is happy with telling her parents becas she knows the truth already dear brother that they will not allowed it to happen..i really hope you make right choice may allah guide you.and keep you safe .allah.haffiz

  4. Hello ,

    My friend I am glad you are deciding to become a muslim. The most important thing is to do it because you sincerely believe in Islam, and not because you love her.

    Also, my friend a word to the woman you are with, if she afraid of her parents now and doesn't stand up for you, I question if she will stand up for you later. If she really loves you and wants to be with you then she will ask right away, despite parents.

    Don't play games with someone who is too shy around their parents, if she lves you she needs to introduce you as a love interest and you need to sit dwn with her parents. It seems they already know you, so I am guessing it won't be that shocking for the family to hear your intention as they do nt love under a rock.

    So if you are sincere about islam, learn and see if this faith s for you, and then seek her hand in marriage.

    Wish you all the best, and inshallah hope it goes well.

    • She probably fears their denial for the reason that jos is not a Muslim.
      If he approaches the parents as a Muslim man, I am sure this fear won't be there insha Allah. Then insha Allah, they will readily agree, as they already know that he understands their daughter well. Allah Knows Best

      Muhammad Waseem
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. Hey

    Did you now that if you want to become a Muslim god will give you many chances
    But it's funny how you to be a Muslim while thanking of a girl it's not right watches harme LOL=D
    I don't now how to spell that anyway you have to and try to go to god's house. Once you go there and come back to were you live all things you did that are very wrong will be gone god will make you like a new born baby and you can start you life again as a Muslim and you can go to the girl you but not to her to her
    Parents and ask for her hand. I mean to ask for her hand like you want to marry her tell her parents wat you've been through and hopefully you will marry her by=)

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