Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Intimacy in a long-distance marriage?


I work in Saudi Arabia. Praise be to Allaah, I adhere to the Sunnah as much as possible and I offer prayers regularly in the mosque, praise be to Allaah. This is the first time that I have left my family behind, because of the children's schooling. When I talk to my wife over the Internet (audio and visual), I sometimes ask her to show me part of her body, and this causes intense sexual provocation which I cannot resist, so I masturbate with my hand to ward off this desire. Does this come under the heading of the verse “Except from their wives” [al-Mu’minoon 23:6] or of enjoying one’s wife? Please note that I am aware that masturbation is haraam, but this is my wife whom I am looking at. What should I do? Please advise me, may Allaah reward you with good.


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  1. This is Haram .there is no excuse for this evil action. We must fast read quran daily at all times do zikr .Then when the heart is clean it will reflect.All your sences will be aligned. But if we are looking at other women, Internet, socializing with opposite sex ,movies, food that's doubtful .Then what do you expect? Thats why we are tested everyday and only the true believers stand out from the weak.We should always evaluate ourselves and keep punctual in are amals.Know this masterbation cause ejaculating .So all those semen will testify?That's why Allah is the best of judges.My friend we are here to procreate and make pious offspring. WE ARE NOT HERE FOR FUN AND GAMES AND HAVE SEX ON ARE MIND .THAT MEANS WE NEED TO BUILD ARE IMAN SO ALLAH CAN BE HAPP WIT US.

    • raul, your comment makes no sense. The brother is not talking about viewing strange women, but his own wife. Sex between husband and wife is a barakah.

      Wael Editor

  2. Asalam

    What you are looking for is Fatwah
    this forum is not the place to get answers

    Wa Salam

  3. "Please note that I am aware that masturbation is haraam"

    Actually there is no evidence for that.

    I don't see anything forbidden in what you have described, but it's not wise. Anything on the internet can be hacked or intercepted by a skilled hacker. Also, it may stir up desires in you that would lead you to haram.

    Wael Editor

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