Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Is his secret marriage valid?

Secret relationships are a bad idea

Not that I'm in the habit of taking advice from church billboards, but in this case they have a point. Secret relationships are always a mistake.

My brother, 42 y/o, is married for 19 yrs to a Muslimah, 48 y/o. They have a Christian maid, 37 y/o, for 3 yrs.

Without his wife knowing, he brought the maid to the mosque. She was surprised when imam told her to say the shahada. She did and after that they were married. Imam asked my bro to recite a Quranic verse for his dowry. He said he wants to avoid zina that's why he married the maid. His wife still doesn't know and they live in one house.

Maid is now pregnant so my bro sent her to the province to her folks and he sends her monthly expenses. His wife still doesn't know until now. He said he will divorce the maid after she gives birth but will still provide expenses for the child. He doesn't want to divorce his first wife. She is the kindest soul I have ever met, but my bro said she no longer satisfies him in bed.

I feel guilty for not telling my sis-in-law but I can't do anything. My bro has to be the one to tell her.

Is his nikkah to the maid valid? Did it meet all the requirements? The maid's family still doesn't know the father of the child is my bro. The maid is keeping it from them.

ayamac

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  1. OP: He said he wants to avoid zina that's why he married the maid. ....Maid is now pregnant........ He said he will divorce the maid after she gives birth..... She is the kindest soul I have ever met, but my bro said she no longer satisfies him in bed. Is his nikkah to the maid valid? Did it meet all the requirements? The maid's family still doesn't know the father of the child is my bro. The maid is keeping it from them.

    Looks like your religious brother married the Maid just to have sex with her and to avoid zina. His first wife is a kindest soul who no longer can sexually satisfy your brother. Your brother now wants to divorce this maid. If Nikah is not valid, your brother committed a crime. After he divorces the maid, are you going to find him another woman to marry your brother secretly to sexually satisfy him.

  2. What a mess ! You must ask mufti MENK or a mufti in this situation because it's the kids that suffer....This guy is weak because the reality is we cannot be around estranged women regardless maid secutary etc.. your playing with fire.....and SHAITAN is ever present waiting. Every learned muslim knows that a 2nd look and it becomes zina with the eyes...The purpose of a man's tool is to bring pious children into this world and to prepare a strong seed that will face a great battle oneday. ...Other them this The prophet gave 2 advices. Hold on to your tongue and remain silent.If you going to talk say something that is only good .and the other IS TO HOLD ON TO YOUR PRIVATE PART.....SISTER FOUNDATION IN ISLAM HAS TO BE CORRECT.IF THIS IS NOT CORRECT THEN EVERYTHING BECOMES A FAILURE REGARDLESS HOW WEALTHY OR INTELLIGENT A PERSON THINKS HE IS...FINALLY I WILL FINISH OF SAYING THAT SUCCESS IN BOTH OF THE WORLD'S IS ONLY IN OBEYING ALLAH'S COMMANDMENTS AND IMPLEMENTING THE TEACHINGS PROPHET MUHAMMAD PBUH. .

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