Is it haram to chat online with my love?
Assalam-o-Alaikum,
My name is Rida and i am a 17 years old muslim girl. i wanted some guidance.
well i m in love with a muslim guy who was my class fellow for 6 months we were not talking to each other before and we were just like strangers but after when our class finished i left that institute but one day the guy proposed me on my yahoo id.
i didnt know who gave him this id then when he proposed me i rejected him bcz i knew that it is haram in Islam but he insisted too much and said that we would never meet neither do anything wrong but just to accept his proposal bcz he loves me alot and he would not marry any girl except me.
again i rejected but he continued insisting then i was also every night seeing him in dreams and was thinking about him all the time then i accepted his proposal and now we both love each other alot we never met neither shake hands but only talk in chat and that is also type chat not voice but again i m feeling guilty talking to him although i aslo love him.
plz plz plz tell me anyone if it is haram in islam? to talk with my loved one in chat?
- Rida
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Salaam Rida.
MashaAllah that this a concern for you. Yes, Islamically you should not be talking to him on chat or facebook etc. This is how it starts dear sister.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah that the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah has decreed for every son of Adam his share of zina, which he will inevitably commit. The zina of the eyes is looking, the zina of the tongue is speaking, one may wish and desire, and the private parts confirm that or deny it.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5889; Muslim, 2657.
It is not permissible for the Muslim to long for the things that lead to zina, such as kissing, being alone, touching and looking, for all these things are haraam and lead to the greater evil which is zina.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And come not near to unlawful sex. Verily, it is a Faahishah (i.e. anything that transgresses its limits: a great sin, and an evil way that leads one to hell unless Allaah Forgives him)”
[al-Isra’ 17:32]
Speaking or socialising with the opposite sex unecessarily often leads to development of feelings. As it has in your case. This then can lead to sweet talk which is zina of the tongue and is a sin. Shaytaan then easily tricks people into getting closer to zina (meeting alone, touching etc) until they commit zina.
It is now a more difficult situation as you now have feelings for this young man and if (God forbid) your parents reject him it will cause you unecessary pain. This is why it is so important to involve them before you set your heart on someone. But regardless you need to stop talking to him. If he wants your hand in marriage he should approach you the correct way - by speaking to your parents. Then and only then can he speak to you (while they are present). I know this seems really strict dear sister, but Allah swt knows us best and this is for our protection. Ask him to contact you and propose the correct way. If he doesnt then his intentions are not pure and you are better off without him dear sister. Keep yourself safe little sis and make sincere tawbah for your mistake. I pray that Allah protects you/
Ameen
Also sister please be safe online.
Sara
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
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Great response sister mashallah allah guide us all ameen
But do u know if its haram to chat with a girl thats lik 6 years older then u n u consider her like ur sis n wats the ruling if shes 2 years older but u also consider her like ur sis n we only talk about halal stuff. please help -thanks
Jazakum Allahu khayran
Brother Mohammed, this whole "consider her your sis" stuff is false. If someone is not your mahrem, then you cannot make her so. You must observe the standards of Islam, no matter how well you feel you know someone.
Wael
IslamicAnwers.com Editor
Wat do you mean by that?
of course she can call her her sister
all muslim women and all women are sisters in islam because we all came from one mother: Eve
aRandomMuslim, If you read my comment again, you'll see that I was addressing brother Mohammed, who wants to know if he can consider a non-mahrem woman his sister in order to chat with her freely.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
If he talks with the 6 years old girl considering her his sister then what ???
Like my question is can we talk to younger ppl than us nd treat them like our brothers and sisters ???
There is nothing wrong with interacting with a 6 year old child. The matter of refraining from interaction with the opposite sex becomes important after puberty.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Hi sister, I was wonderin that even if you never ever meet your boyfriend but just chat, then is it still haram? I'm confused at the moment.
What if I am just speaking to a male friend with no intentions of leading to other feelings because I already have nikaah with my fiancé? I don't speak to him often just from time to time we have casual conversations and my fiancé does not mind because he understands we are just friends.
Lena, in my opinion it's a bad idea. There is usually some element of attraction between men and women who claim to be "friends', and it can lead to something sinful in the future. And even if your fiance says he does not mind, it probably bothers him on some level.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
AOA,
You must put an end to this once and for all. It's complete fantasy and reality is fair more straightforward and albeit boring- it is real. It is quite ridiculous to develop such a commitment to someone completely unknown and so on. However you are young and at least you sought advice.
From a safety aspect, you know nothing of the true identity of this individual and bearing in mind your age, this person could be anyone with a sinister mitve perhaps. At the very least, your mind and thoughts have been corrupted as Editor Sara pointed out.
At your age, focus on your own self as an individual. Outline your goals and set to achieve them. Yes you Insha'Allah wil be married but not like this.
All this modern day social networking is evil and a fastrack system to corrupt people especially the youth.
Don't be giving out any kind of personal information and in general never share your private intimate thoughts. Reserve this for your future husband. Wait for your appointed time and your parents may help you employ a more respectable and traditional method of finding a spouse.
All the best and may Allah guide you rightly,
R
Asslam-o-aliakum
i thank both of you for your these kind advices
i will act upon this and will try to keep myself safe
Although i want him so much but i will do this for my safety
once again thank you
thank you so much
e-dua
May Allah help us Ameen Sum Ameen
May Allah protect us from bad people Ameen sum Ameen
Assalam walaikum sis or brother
I m Zohra and I have a question .
I m in love with a boy he too loves me .we used to chat daily but then we came to realise that chatting is also haram if he is non haram . But we both love each other and we are not so elder that we could approach to parents for our nikah . So can be keep love for each other and pray to Allah to unite as in future?
So nice to know that both of you realize that it’s not appropriate to talk too long. Allah will reward you for that. As far as marriage, if you are over 18 then you can get married. If you are 17, you need legal permission from your parents (signatures) in the western country.
salaamonyou muslimah.
sister, you cant have a "love" if you are not married, because to love someone, you have to be close to them, physically&emotionally, love is not just the animalistic attraction between the opposite sexes, love is when you have a physical&emotional bond with a person, and since this is the case, you cant love anyone ecxept someone who is your husband.
because getting too close to someone is unlawfull.
a muslim woman can only love her husband, and a muslim man can only love his wife.
also sister, a guy who proposed to you without even knowing you is either making a fool out of you, or he cant controll his animalistic feelings.
you dont propose to someone who you dont know, unless your parents say he is suitable for you.
Allaah ma'ak
Well, they are right. If he truly loves you, then ask him to propose to you the proper way and work on having a bond through marriage, as that is what ALLAH(swt) prescribes for us.
Try to keep things spiritual when you speak. It is not haram to talk to the opposite sex, but if you feel
that you love him, then avoid talking to him because if you feel you love him than that feeling can convince you to do things that are haram and you want your union to be blessed by ALLAH(swt)...trust me, it hurts when you make mistakes and it's hard to deal with the consequences as well.
However, you CAN love someone that you do not know. If you couldn't than arranged marriages would never work. Parents often allow the two "suitors" to meet and talk to each other on several occasions before the marriage takes place and people often do feel that they love each other before the physical and emotional experiences of marriage have taken place. Remember ALLAH(swt) is capable of all things. If it is HIS will that you two be together, things will blossom. Ask ALLAH(swt) for forgiveness. ALLAH(swt) says that he doesn't hold ignorance against you. if you did not know, ask HIM for mercy and go about things the right way. If you did, then still ALLAH(swt) says do not despair of his mercy, so ask for forgiveness and go about things the right way, and pray that HE (swt) blesses your union and that the two of you grow in faith and love by the grace of ALLAH(swt).
I think u are wrong bro... bcz love is halal in islam... but obviously within islamic circle
Salam rida
Allah apko hamesha khush rakhay.u r a true lover.Allah ham sab ko aisa jazba de ameen.
Regards
Haroon
Hi,
I think he is truly into you. If he loves you, he will go too you in every case to deserve you. I believe, he will necessary contact your parents. I hope for you he is the right one and will overcome all the difficulties for you.
Love,
Aryana
Asalam a leikum
yes, i am 17 years old and girls around me in my school everywhere have been committing physical sins with their boyfriends, not just platonic. My own number got leaked by my best friend,she gave it to a guy friend of hers without my consent. And this guy started to text me saying that he'll never meet me, he loves me because of what I am from inside and doesn't feel lust at all, he saw me somewhere and he fell in love with me, thats what he told me. And he wont marry any other girl except me. I don't think that one should trust any guy in a society like we are living, no matter how many promises he makes. Tries to do sweet talk because Islam is what always, always guides us to the right path. It protects women is v v practical. Slowly slowly this guy you talk to will start convincing you to meet him which I also noticed is the way the guys side track girls and it will lead to you becoming his prey. I have seen many girls ruining their lives due to this silly trust they put on total strangers. I advice u to tell him to ask your hand from your parents. If he doesnt then there will be your anwer.
Salam sister, good response but just a word of advice, try to stay away from thows girls ur talking about especially the ones that commit physical sin estughfir Allah
They r a bad influence just try to convince them to leave this reched path allah yihdeena salam
Assalamu aleykum . I wanted to ask a question about my 18 year old year old cousin.
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Salam,
please I need some advice.. I'm 15 and there is a friend of mine (she is a girl) and told me that one of our classmates loved me... he is her guyfriend.
So.. first I rejected.. I rejected even telling if I liked him too or not.
But my friend kept on insisting that I must say what my feelings are, so I ended up telling her that i sort of liked him too...but again I refused talking, chating or meeting him.. But she just kept advicing me again that there is absloutly nothing wrong with chating with him, she told me that me and him have to know each other... so I ended up chating with him for few months (Which i REALLY feel guilty about) untill I dicided to tell my mother who asked me to stop chating with him.. It did take me a while to stop but I did...
now I'm really worried... I'm affraid anyone would know that I used to talk to him.. I'm affraid Allah won't forgive me...I'm afriad I would return to talking to him again 🙁 he is in my same class and I do fell like I have feelings for him.. and I always pray that Allah would join us one day as a husband and wife with our parents permision and that Allah would keep us joined by every thing good and keep us away from sins..
please help me ... I don't want to return to talking to him.. but I'm afraid that I would fall weak if he starts talking to me.
Assalam O Alaikum Laila,
Masha Allah you did the right thing, your friend was absolutely wrong (please don't hang around with the wrong crowd; spend time with sisters who are on deen iA). Islam doesn't permit friendship with opposite gender and often it leads to further haram acts which are strictly forbidden for us Muslims. Don't worry too much about past sins, you should repent and thank Allah (swt) for protecting you from committing major sins like entering into boyfriend/girlfriend relationship which mostly leads to physical haram relationships. Concentrate on your studies and when you are bit more mature than think of marriage iA. Month of Ramadan is leaving us very quickly, so make the most of it and pray for forgiveness but at the same time plead with Allah (swt) to give you strength to keep on the right path and become the best Muslimah.
Muhammad1982,
Editor, IslamicAnswers.com
Salam;
Thanks Alot for the answer..but i have another question:
what about chating with relatives? Like me and my cousins ( boys and girls) are friends and when ever the family meets we join each other and talk.. we even chat on the internet.. Our parents does know about it... And my intensions towards my male cousins are tottaly pure.. I mean I don't love them or we don't talk dirty.. we just talk about normal things ( we are mostly joking) .. they are older than me .. what if we make a group chat or even talk on private chat? does it make a differnce? Or is it a sin? because I don't know.. it's not like we talk abut haram things or so but at the same time some people say it's wrong..
I need some help..
Thank You,
A.O.A! Laila
I m 16
U know what I have got kind of same condition but My in my Case I used to talk to my cousin and U know that when gender of opposite sex talk with each other they got the feelings too! But in my case,He dont have any feelings for me but I have. But when I think of fear of Allah(swt) i Stop thinking of him and Ask forgiveness from him!
I dont want to fall in love with him as he is Na-Mehram for me.! We r cousins so we meet in family's occasions but I didnt talk to him infront but I talk much on Texting! Is that Haraam to have feelings for someone?
Sara, it's not haram to have feelings, but it's haram to have personal, intimate relationships with men. Stay away from your cousin and minimize your interaction with him.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Laila: what about chating with relatives? ...... we even chat on the internet.. Our parents does know about it... And my intensions towards my male cousins are tottaly pure.. I mean I don't love them or we don't talk dirty.. we just talk about normal things ( we are mostly joking) .. they are older than me ..
Why your parents don't know about this? You cousins may be waiting for some signals from you. Why do you think Islam does not allow talking with na-mahrams?
Wassalam !
I am urwa and I am 15 years old.I have a guy friend in my class.we were friends before 3 years but due to some miss understanding I stopped to response him in class.he had also same response.but after 3 years one day he sent me a message in my I.d that he wants to talk me.I did not give any response but he also dispatched me a message from my another class mate that there is something serious.when I read his message so he was sorrow and told me that a girl in my class divered his mind against me because she doesnt want that he makes me friend
and there was not my mistake.
Now he often send me messages and one day he placed a chocolate in my pouch when I was in assembly.as like previous days he can't talk me face to face but always smiles to see me.
I have not any feelings about him .I just consider him a friend such as other class mate.plz !plz! plz ! Guide me that is it right to reply his messages and accept his gifts.
Assalaamualaikam
By the age of 15 or so, it's not really appropriate for boys and girls to be close friends with each other. I'd recommend that you avoid being friends with him - be polite, but don't chat or spend free time together.
If you keep some distance, inshaAllah he should respect that, but if he doesn't then you may need to spell it out to him that he is not your mahram, therefore you cannot be involved in a friendship with him.
I'd also advise politely declining his gifts. It's not appropriate for a non-mahram to go around giving you presents. Plus, he doesn't have any right to be going into your personal belongings for any reason. If he tries to give you anything else, politely say that you're sorry but you can't accept his gifts as he is not your mahram so it wouldn't be appropriate.
Sometimes, boys can say that they want to talk or be friends because they're interested in having a relationship with you. If he says this, stick to Islamic guidance. Tell him that he is welcome to approach your father with a proposal for marriage, but that you are not going to compromise your values by getting involved with him in any other way. Any guy who isn't prepared to respect you and respect himself by doing things the right way, isn't worth considering.
Your late teens can be a difficult time to navigate gender relations, especially if you are in a mixed environment. It might be helpful to join an Islamic study group and ensure you have female friends who are pious and of good character, to help you stay strong and keep to Islamic guidance. If you can, it may be a good idea to consider a move to a single-sex school or college, ideally an Islamic one - there's a lot of evidence that girls attending single-sex schools do well academically, as well as avoiding unnecessary contact with boys. If you don't already wear hijab, it would be a good idea to start reading about the role of hijab and modest dressing, and consider whether you want to start wearing hijab.
If you need more advice, please submit a new post for publication.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
thank you to guide my ways. I am going to make return the same chocolate which he gave me and will also send him this fatwa.
may Allah! Make me steadfast on my right decisions.
ASSALAM O ALAIKUM People.
I AM AT THAT STAGE OF LIFE WHERE I DONT EVEN KNOW TO WHOM I SHOULD SEEK HELP.
I AM SO OBSESSED.
IDK HAT TO DO.
I CAN'T STOP MYSELF FROM TALKING TO MY COUSIN.
HES JUST NOT MY COUSIN, HE MEANT SOMETHING ELSE FOR ME.
WALLAHY, THAT'S HARAAM, BUT STILL ...
PLEASE HELP ME OUT.
I DONT EVEN ANY ACTIVITY TO BUSY MYSELF AND FORGET TO LOOK AT MY CELLPHONE. HOW I SHOULD INSULT HIM FOR MAKING ME SUCH A FOOL I'AM RIGHT NOW,
I ACT MATURE BUT IAM THE BIGGEST FOOL U'LL EVER MEET.
PLEASE PRAY FOR ME THAT ALLAH FORGIVE ME PLEASE.
PLZ.PLZ.PLZ.PLZ.
I THINK I'LL BE DIE SOON. BUT I DONT WANT TO DIE AT THE STAGE WHERE MT ALLAH AND MY PARENTS ARE NOT EVEN CONVENCED.
PLEASE MAKE DUAA FOR ME.
GRATEFUL.
baslamualaikum warahmathullah.:-)
im 18 yrs old guy. when i was in my 12 i got fallen in love with a girl and my evil mind made me to think badly and we then sometimes talkd very rude. eventhough i was in deep love. when we both came to know we were in an evil path we decided to get seprated. we both still love eachother .in fear of allah .we are unable to talk openly. we stopped all contacts .we unfriend evn un fb.. but sometimes .may be once in a month or 2 month we use to chat. means .fortunately or unfortunately . for a while we chat then ll stop. but when we chat ww just share about our presnt condtion.. fine with studies..etc..some casual toks...is that haram... those talks.. im getting disapointed .
and chatting with our cousins .class mates are considerd as haram.
Yes aby one who is not your mehram is haram
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Salam alikum
Is chting n loving with our cousins r also sin??
Plzzz help me
Yes
Assalam o alaikum sisters i am jihadha and i am 17 years old....i am in love with my class fellow...but i havent propose him yet....and he has no idea of loving me....but i love him alot...i dont know what to do? I feel guilty to see him... because our islam is not allowed to see un mahram man....very awkward moment...plz plz give me a good solution
jihadha, you might be a bit young to get married - I don't know where you are from or what the tradition is in your culture - but if you think you are of marriageable age then tell your parents and ask them to approach the boy's parents to see if he might be interested in marriage. If you're not ready for that then stay away from the boy and do not seek any kind of relationship or association with him, as it will only lead to sin and problems.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
John Pierre, I'm not sure what you are getting at exactly, but there are two important points here: 1. Muslims do not engage in relationships or dating before marriage, or even in close friendships with the opposite sex. 2. A Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man under any circumstances. So there is no reason or benefit in you sending a Muslim woman smiley faces or chatting with her online or offline. There is no need to get to know her.
As far as belly dancing in Arabian countries or whatever, that is all haram too. But our standards in Islam are set by the Quran and the teachings of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), not according to what some of the Arabs do.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Ok You are right.
Salam..i am a 20 year old medicine student.i have been friends with a fellow colleague of mine.we have been talking for almost an year...and i have become really attached to her and want to marry her.but i am the youngest in my family and my financial situation does not allow me for marriage.what should i do?please please help me.how should i wait?
I have the same situation. What we do
ASSALAMUALKUM.........my frnd is in relation wid a guy shes 13 just.............and there is this frnd of mine who says me to tell a guy that go tell him i love him and try to convince him.....so i wanna ask that is it gunnah to talk to opposite sex even if u have no wrong intentions?
Wa alaykum as-salam. What you are describing ARE wrong intentions. Telling a guy that you love him, getting in relationships at the age of 13, this is haram and useless, and will only lead to worse sins. It is acceptable to talk to the opposite sex for necessary things, not for silliness like this. Wait until you are older and can get properly married. Stay away from boys until then.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
It is not allowed at all to talk to a male for female and to a female for a male except for if serious or important matter.
Is it haram if we talk about studies / chat about studies with opposite gender??
Yu dint reply me
see, i do chat with a non muslim boys, like to be in relationships before marriage because i feel free and satisfied .....i mean is this so important to get married?, does that one piece of paper really matters after which a man feels he owns you?guys is this fare to have sex with an unknown man at first night after a bloody arranged marriage.....we just got this one life ,cant we live it in a way we want to?
You know na that sex is a natural strive and its like hunger how could you just ignore it?
i mean two main sex exist in this world which attracts each other how can you be in safe mode all the time and sometimes ts not in your hand to mold situations.
Allah have created this beautiful world for us and even this sex urge which is unstoppable ...we just have one life span ....Y cant we live it happily?
Please do reply ASAP m waiting...
By the way m 21 years old girl
stranger, you are very confused. Marriage not just a piece of paper. It is a commitment between two people to love each other, support each other, raise children together, and to share the best and worst of life, come what may. Will your sex partners make that commitment? No, they will take what they want and move on. If you get pregnant they will abandon you and leave you to deal with the shame and struggle by yourself.
Let's compare:
Marriage (I mean a good marriage Insha'Allah):
* Get blessings from Allah and approval of the society.
* Have someone you loves you through thick and thin.
* Pool your resources to achieve financial success.
* Have children and raise them together happily.
* Have someone beside you in your old age.
Zinaa (fornication, sex without marriage):
* Get cursed by Allah and the condemnation of society.
* Unwanted pregnancy is a constant worry; if it happens, it's disastrous.
* Likely to catch a sexually transmitted disease.
* The other person may abandon you at any time.
* The other person offers you no financial support, no pooling of resources, no working together for success.
* The other person will not be there to help you when you are sick, unemployed, weary.
* End up your life elderly and alone.
* Face the punishment of Allah in the aakhirah.
If, after all that you still think that zinaa is a "happy life", and if you feel no shame in disobeying Allah, then do as you wish, and live with the consequences.
Need I say more?
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
So RUDE man...when did I said that I practice zina...nd this is the only way to have a happy life..I was talking about socialization and healthy relationships.... I must tell you that I belongs to a very pious sayed family..nd have firm Faith in Allah...I born broughtup in a society were no Muslim home exist except ours..but I never get influenced...I do keep fasts in Ramadan...As a student of mass comm I do interact with a lot of people and I have many guy friends is that bad?
I was saying that having sex at very first night after aarranged Marriage make us feel like a prostitute....u won't believe that my own maternal aunt faced marital rape at first night... No women wants to live with a man who raped her..but she has to because He was her so called husband whom she was first time...is this ok?yeah y not...but being in a relationship(specifically that one which won't make a girl pregnant) with a guy for years or and get married is not ok....that's so Hippocratic!
Mr wael,respectfully m saying that the society we r living in is so phallus and to promote this patriarchy they put restrictions on women..nd so do u..
According to me Islam is the most liberal and civilized religion so plz dnt complicate it dude!
You didn't say that you commit zinaa, but you are clearly advocating for sex before marriage. You talked about the "unstoppable sex urge" and living happily without marriage.
You are obviously advocating zinaa. To make such an argument is to defy Allah and discard the Islamic way of life.
I am not complicating anything, sister. I am simply telling you that Islam allows sexual relations only between husband and wife, period. No exceptions.
It is not required to have sex the first night after marriage, and it is not allowed for the husband to force himself. What happened to your aunt is unfortunate and is against Islam. A Muslim husband should strive to imitate the character of the Prophet. He was kind and sweet with his wives and children. He never abused any of them.
He also never had a "relationship" with a woman outside of marriage.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Read this post and see if you still think the open relationship, free sex lifestyle is so appealing:
My sins are making me depressed
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
AOA
i love a girl n often do chat with her, and sometimes we met in the presence of our parents. I haven't told her that i love her and never did that such type of talk with her.i just wanna know that if it permissible to talk to her. I m 20 and she is 17 now. We never met alone
I love a girl. I am uni student & she's also. Both of us never saw each other by face to face, never want to meet before nikah, I am a boy but still I am saying this I don't want to meet her before our nikah.... . But she thinks it haram to chat with a stranger even though she also love me.. My first question is.. islam is not a strict religion so why there r replys like it's haram to chat with a girl etc. I know I am sincere with her I want to do nikah with her and almighty Allah knows ur inside feeling,,,,,,,, ur replies shows extremism ...
But if ur answer is to contact with her parents yeah I am ready to contact with them, but it seems little strange to u that girl says her parents that I love a boy at this age? . Although it's unnecessary to tell them now......
**IN THE END ISLAM IS NOT A STRICT RELIGION WE MAKE IT **
In 2012 when I was 12 I liked a guy and I think I liked him very much and he liked me too and very much but he always used to msg me that talk to mehate this girl boy talking thing and then falling love and then getting married I want to make everything pure and don't want to do all these things but maybe he don't understand me or maybe I don't understand him I fear that what if I'm hurting someone? blah blah
And this continued till I was about to turn 14 then I changed my sim and my mother knew about it all and it was miserable that he used to send messages and my phone was not personal and I had to show each msg to my mom it was miserable but then he left my school and slowly slowly I forgot but Still I liked him I liked him till 2015 but then eventually I totally forget about him in 2015 now my life was completely changed I forgot about all those memories and my life was chilling and without any tesion I became a chill kid but again at the of 2015 he started messignin Me again I started feeling miserable again but a bit less he continued messaging but I didn';t really cared that much and I ignored it but then I started feeling sad and that I am cruel that someone loves me and I don't even care about them I never replied him because I knew that a simple hello will lead to big things like hell but I still felt sad deep down he said that I want to marry you but I didn't said anything because I never wanted to talk but no body would understand this why I'm not replying because I never want to say even yes in mssgss but know body understands it they think I'm stupid but there is a thing which kills me every day that but now I like him because he likes me nothing more and I told about my mother that he used to message Me again my mother said to block him everywhere and I did but I fear what If I loss him or his love or what if no guy is going to love me as he do
But I don't want to involve in anything wrong I just want to ignore him for the sake of Allah if he is right he will do the right things and I really hate this boy girl talking thing
And then getting married
I want to make everything pure
And I dont want to do all these things maybe he don't understand me or I don't understand I fear what If I'm hurting someone?