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Is my nikah really valid and am I his wife?

Interactions between the engaged couple

My sister is in a relationship before marriage!

Few days ago my boyfriend asked me if I accept him as my husband or not. I said yes thrice and then he told me that if the intentions are true then it is considered that ur nikah is valid. So later he also said that he accept me as his wife and now he says that our nikah is valid. Is it really valid if our intentions for nikah are true?

Peace Lover.

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  1. Assalam o alaykum wr wb, the person in the picture is burhanuddin of bohra sect, i beleive thisnpic was taken in hyderabad,reshills where i abode now presently ..

    WELL CERTAINLY UR NIKAH IS NOT VALID AS UR BF IS BLABBERING he is surely after u for lust . U need a witness,wali and sermon in ur nikah without this ur nikah is not valid these prerequisites are stated in quran at several places .

    Imagine at a point of time he broke up and says u that its all over , what proof do u have that u were married ? Ponder over this and if u need anything else replynme back .

  2. Assalamu'alaikum,

    Sister, this man has lied. You are not married. Islam has a Nikaah and Nikaah has conditions for its validity. If you have to marry him, it has to happen through Nikaah.

    He seems to be lying in order to make halaal what Allah Has Declared Haraam. Beware!

    Abu Abdul Bari Editor

  3. Assalaamu'alaikum Wa Rahmatoullaahi Wa Barakaatuh...

    Respected Sister Peace Love i second what Sister Nabeela said. Its all true, your so-called BF is playing with you. Its difficult to accept this but its true...

    May Allah Azza Wajal help you to see the truth and guide both of you on the right path.

    Be careful Sister...

    Allah Ta'ala know best...

    Assalaamu'alaikum Wa Rahmatoullaahi Wa Barakaatuh...

  4. Salaam sister,

    This is not a valid Nikah, and this boy has either misled you or has not learned enough about Islam and Nikah to be aware of what consititutes a valid Nikah. We don't have enough information to make a judgement regarding his intentions - it may be that he has heard from peers that this is an "ok" way to make a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship acceptable (many myths exist in any young social group), or it may be that he is trying to mislead you in order to satisfy his desires.

    Either way, this is not a halal relationship. The two of you are not married, and not mahram, so should not be spending time together in this way. I would suggest that you read more about Nikah and Islam, and inform him that your relationship is not appropriate. If his intentions are honourable, he would then be able to approach you and your family in an acceptable way, to ask for marriage.

    Midnightmoon editor

  5. Assalam'alaykum,

    Yup I believe that man has lied and tried to manipulate your mind. Every sane human will know that marriage is more than just asking a woman/man " will you be my wife/husband ? " and boom they are married. It obviously has several requirements and procedures to follow and so Islamically, you need a wali (father), witnessess and mahr without which your marriage would be invalid/void. Futhermore, having boyfriend is forbidden in Islam, it'll only lead to destruction, time will show. Therefore, if you both are so committed to each other then go ahead and marry. Let him and his family approach your parents and get their permission, and then do it in Islamic way insha'Allah. If its impossible, then you must stop this relationship once and for all. Easier said than done, yes, but you really don't want to deal with Allah's wrath and curse now do you ?. So take heed before Allah's punishment comes to you and then you will not be helped.

    To say it simply, you are not married and that man is dangerous. Becarefull.

  6. Salaam sister,

    i think this guy is watching too many hindi movies. he is just lying to you and making a fool out of you. please run for your life. just saying as a sister 🙂

  7. assalamalaiku,
    1st of all you are defyting Allah by having a boy friernd and then keeping rehular contact then interacting with him personally and the end result is you are maintaining a haram relationship and this is the biggest blunder you are doing and now he tricks you in to this delusion may be next step he says that intercourse is pending from long time let us enjoy as both are husband and wife.
    O sister this is the real world pls ask yr BF to come back and see the lifr as Islam says-
    Correspondence between the sexes is not permissible, because that provokes temptation and usually results in evil. If a man corresponds with a non-mahram woman in letters that are not seen by anyone else, that leads to many evils.
    As for the love that stems from repeated looking, haraam mixing or correspondence, the one who does that is sinning to the extent that he does haraam things in his relationship and love.
    Islam forbids a woman to be alone with a man who is not her mahram because of the fitnah (temptation) and bad things that result from that, such as attachment and the desire to look and touch, etc.
    It is not permissible for any person to correspond with a woman who is not his mahram, because of the temptation involved in that. The person may think that there is no temptation, but the shaytaan will keep trying until he tempts him through her, and tempts her through him.
    as long as you maintain this relationship you will in constant cirse of Alah and which is a great los and ebery minute the angels will be writting your Good and bad and you spoiling yr guture MAY BE HE CAN TURN BACK IF HE FINDS YOUR REVERSAL TO AVOID HARAM RELATIONSHIP AND THEN YOU GET A SHOCK FACE DEPRESSION ETC.

  8. as salamualaikum

    sry to say sis he is lieing with you...

    be carefull sis...

  9. yes he seems to be watching toooo many hindi movies and thinking himself to be sharukh khan. 🙂

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