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Is premarital sex forgiveable in Islam?

Book about major sins in Islam by M.I Siddiqui

I had premarital sex a while ago and I asked Allah for forgiveness but I feel like its eating me alive. I can't talk about it to anyone. I don't want to break my mother's heart and tell her. And I don't want to be asked about it on the day of judgement. So I stopped. Then I felt the need to go back and I did it again & again. Please help me get some closure to this. I want to know if Allah will forgive me or if everything I do now is pointless and I have no hope. I am becoming more knowledgable about my religion and i pray 5 times a day. I will not return to the sin again.

Samira


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  1. Asak,

    Girl friend / boy friend is major sin in Islam.

    So you struggle to survive and when no-one else is around, Allah can Hear your cry, your guilt, your despair and your desperation from the inner depths of your heart and your soul. Despite, you having broken Allah’s Laws, He(swt) wants you to pick yourself up again. Turn back to Allah now and do sincere tawbah (repentance). He(swt) is waiting for you to ask of Him (swt). Allah says in the Qur’an in Surah Az-Zumar, Verse 53, “Do not despair of God’s mercy; He will forgive you of all your sins”.

    Throw out the bad seeds and remove all traces of the thorny stem that spread so deep within your soul. Plant a single seed of goodness and the new flowers will begin to blossom again. Listen to your conscience, ‘that’ is the good thought that will help you smile once more – just accept the call of Allah and turn back to him through sincere Tawbah.

    So, my sister check yourselves every night before you sleep. Ask yourself this: ‘What did I do today that was wrong? And what can I do now to put things right?’

    Nip it in the bud, don’t let that ‘glance’ turn to ‘despair’

    • Assalaamualaikam

      I've edited your post slightly. The sister is clearly regretting her actions and we should try to support her to change and move past such things, rather than saying things which might be distressing. The rest of your advice was very good though, JazakAllah khair.

      Midnightmoon
      IslamicAnswers.com editor

  2. FIRST AO FALL FEEL SHY OF DOING THESE SIN THEN ASK ALLAH 2 FORGIVE U. IF U GET THESE THOUGHTS RECITE THESE AYATH OUZBILLAH HI MINASH SAYTHAN AAMANTHU BILLAH HI VARASOOLIH.

  3. Assalium alaikum. Yes what you did was wrong However dont let shaitan win twice. Allah is all loving and merciful if you sincerely repent Allah will forgive you and Allah says many times in the quaran shareef and it is highlighted in many Hadith .Allah wants us to come back so please all is not lost Just do not repeat your mistake and apart from prayer read Surah yasin every day and night and tasbih of astagfar and darood shareef this will help to calm you down and feel at peace eventually

  4. We don't live in Islamic societies anymore and the world has become more tempting then it ever was, but in our hearts we can all differentiate between good and bad. I'm no scholar but in my opinion we are humans and we will make mistakes aND as long as we continue to understand the difference between good and bad, regret the bad things and get humbled by the goodness and seek forgiveness from Allah for sins with intentions and resolve to not return to them we should be good.
    There is no sin bigger than His forgiveness.

  5. Salam.Allah is all forgiving.As long as you make tauba before you die for all sins .We are not perfect but committing Adultry and other major sins we should avoid but its hard when the poor child isnt brought up in Islamic enviroment.Nevertheless we keep on learning till death.You must not ponder or think what is past or speak about past sins.Then we are putting ourselves in trouble!!!!Shaitan who is ever present will always come and whisper or remind you so you can be ruined.The onlyway quran zikr .SO TURN YOUR LIFE AROUND AND BECOME BLESSED IN THIS WORLD.ATTEND ISLAMIC LECTURES MAKE FRIENDS WITH SISTERS HELP THE COMMUNITY .ATTHE SAME TIME THINK OF YOUR CAREER SO YOU CAN BE INDEPENTANT.DONT GET MARRIED UNTIL YOU UNDERSTAND THE WOMENS RIGHTS AND WHAT SHARIA SAYS AND HOW PROPHET MUHAMMAD TREATED HIS WIVES.YOU SHOULD KNOW WHAT ISLAM YOU FOLLOW THATS IMPORTANT .THERE IS TOO MUCH CONFUSION DUE TO THE LACK OF KNOWLEDGE.YOU SHOULD BE A SUNNI MUSLIM WHO FOLLOWS ONE OF THE 4 MAJOR IMAMS EG . IMAM SHAFI IMAM HANIFA IMAM HANBAL IMAM MALIK.THEY ARE ALL CORRECT BUT CHOOSE 1.THESE WERE THE LEARNED MAN WHO WERE EXAMPLES OF PIETY AND LOVE FOR PROPHET.THEY NEW THAT PROBLEMS AND QUESTIONS IN THE PEOPLE WOULD ARISE .EG.ON DIVORCE WILL ADOPTION ABORTION BLOOD TRANSFUSION ORGAN DONOTING LIFE SUPPORT.THE LIST GOES ON ..SO THATS WHY WE HAVE THESE IMAMS .

  6. Assalamualaiko sister

    The only sin that is not forgivable is associating partners with God/disbelieve

    So, Yes sex is forgivable if one repents. Just like any other sin, be it big or small repentance is always the way.

    First and for most repent sister, as you do not know if reading this article will be the last thing you do in your life. Death has no time / age it can come any time, so repent now ans ask Allah for forgiveness.

    Every body is susceptible to doing mistakes, but the best among the wrongdoers are those who are quick to repent every time they recognize the have wronged themselves.. and Allah surely love those who are quick to repent and return to him

    The reason you go back and do it again is because you have not taken the vaccination for that, which is "Marriage". You are sexually active sister and it is hard to unlearn that once you have started. So best is solve it the Halal way. Make lots of duaa as Allah has promised to help those who want to protect themselves from zina.

    Work hard to get married, a Halal relationship in which you will be able fulfill your desires and emotional needs and also get rewards for that as well. What is better than that sister. Look for a good husband who can help you be closer to Allah, and start making a good Muslim family with him. :).

    I am with opinion of keeping your past for yourself. So you do not need to volunteer to talk about your past, do not let your past disturb your future.

    May Allah make things easy for you

  7. Hi sister
    Allah will forgive all the sin except associating partners to him.
    So hopeful. In the meantime ;
    1. Keep asking forgiveness isthigfar
    2. Give sizeable charity secretly . Because charity open the door
    3. Ask Duaa for marriage life.

  8. My dear , first thing that should be done is to hide your sins and just discuss it with Allah swt.
    Allah swt is ALL forgiving ALL merciful , Do not despair of Allah's mercy cause he himself has said MY MERCY EMBRACES ALL THINGS. His mercy is limitless , timeless and eternal. Seek forgiveness with true heart and be strong to not commit that sin again. Make your tauba sound. Make more tauba as much as you can , Wallahi your Lord is so merciful he'll get you rid of that guilt and will gift you with peace . Allah swt is raheem.

    Read quran with translation so you can know your creator more well.
    Here for you :
    And those who do not invoke with Allah another deity or kill the soul which Allah has forbidden [to be killed], except by right, and do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse. And whoever should do that will meet a penalty.

    Multiplied for him is the punishment on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein humiliated -

    EXCEPT for those who REPENT, BELIEVE and do RIGHTEOUS work. For them Allah will replace their evil deeds with good. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful.

    And he who repents and does righteousness does indeed turn to Allah with [accepted] repentance.

    May Allah swt guide you. <3

  9. Yes sister. Zina is forgiven by Allah Ta'ala. Only Shirk is not forgiven as it is the biggest sin. We humans sin so much but we have been given the opportunity to repent. Ask as much forgiveness from Allah Ta'ala as possible. Dear sister you should focus your mind onto something creative. Get absorbed in study or work.These days it is a trend to do internships during study. Go for it. Volunteer somewhere. And please try to avoid lustful thoughts. Sex is very powerful and it's hard to leave it suddenly. The best thing for you is to get married. I don't know your age but if you are elder than 18 than try finding a spouse for yourself or ask your elders to do so. Get married its sunnah and it shouldn't be delayed. It saves us from many sins and gives us the chance to fulfill our desires. I hope you get my point. May Allah Ta'ala bless you. Ameen.

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