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Istikhara dream – does this mean I can’t be with her?

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Dream and Reality

As salam alaykum,

I am 26yrs old and want to get married to someone, we both really like each other and so I did istikhara. On the third night I had a dream that we were in some sort of restaurant and she peed her pants and on the floor, I could tell she was embarrassed and I tried to cover her and guide her to the bathroom, it seemed no one noticed. I said "Dont worry i will clean it up, everything is ok".
I woke up confused and after looking up interpretations from 'Ibn Sirin book of dreams' it said it could be "It also means a marriage to an unsuitable or a non-compatible person." after reading that i felt that she wasn't the one.

My father also had a dream where he saw I was with a different girl in a white hijab but her face was blurry and that he saw girl one with her arms crossed and looking upset.

It makes me incredibly sad that I think I cant be with some I love and its giving me a lot of anxiety, but my trust in Allah is greater and inshallah i want to do the right thing.

Please tell me your thoughts on this?

Kind regards,



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3 Responses »

  1. Tell me how does the girl make you feel?
    How does she act and feel as a person
    Istaqarra was always a confusing thing for me

  2. The best thing u can do is to leave the girl and find another one .

  3. That's not how istikhara works. You don't get special dreams or see shades of color or anything like that. After praying istikhara, Allah will make the correct path easy for you and the incorrect path difficult.

    You shoudl look up how istikhara is prayed and how to use it. There are plenty of great resources online, and I think there is even a reference on this site.

    Basically it works like this:

    Form a question in your mind, and make a decision. Yes, make the decision before you pray istikhara.

    Then just live your life normally. If your decision was a good one, then it will become easier to achieve. If it was wrong or bad for you, you'll find obstacles in your path. It's up to you to pay attention to what is happening in your life and how it relates to the decision that is bothering you. If you find that your decision is leading you to difficulty, you should change your behavior.

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