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Istikhara for second marriage

An airplane smoking and falling apart just after takeoff from Stockholm in 2007. The airplane returned to the runway safely.
An airplane smoking and falling apart just after takeoff from Stockholm in 2007. The airplane returned to the runway safely.

Question:

I am 49 years old. My sister did istakhara for me. The purpose was to see if a second marriage is good for me or not. She saw me in an airplane with smoke coming out of it. What does it mean?

Wael's Answer:

Dear Brother, As-salamu alaykum wa Rahmatullah,

I am not a dream expert, but it's quite obvious to me that a smoking airplane is a bad sign, don't you think? How much clearer can it get?

You should also pray istikhara for yourself, and if the answer is not clear then you can do it again, up to seven times if necessary. And please lose this idea that istikhara is just about getting a dream. People always seem to want a vivid dream or a clear sign, as if Allah is speaking to them directly, but that is not the goal of istikhara.

Please see the excellent article on this website, Istikhara Questions and Answers, which explains as follows:

It is not necessary that you get a dream or even a "feeling". Rather, the istikhara is a prayer that Allah guide you towards that which is best (khayr) for you. If you do the prayer of guidance (istikhara) with the proper manners, the most important of which is to truly consign the matter to Allah and suspend your own inclinations, then Allah will make events unfold in the direction that is the best for your worldly and next-worldly affairs.

In other words you pray Istikhara, truly giving up your own desires in this matter and leaving the decision to Allah. Then you continue with your daily affairs and make your choices, following your heart and trusting that Allah is guiding you to the best path for your life.

And Allah knows best.

If any readers have some additional advice for this questioner, I invite you to post your comments below.

(O Allah), Guide us to the straight path; The path of those whom you have favored; Not those with whom you are angry; Nor those who go astray.

Best regards,

Wael Abdelgawad
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6 Responses »

  1. "I am not a dream expert, but it's quite obvious to me that a smoking airplane is a bad sign, don't you think? How much clearer can it get?"
    Wael, you had me dying of laughter on this one. Wallah I haven't laughed like this in more then 5 months or more. But am very grateful for your input on istikhara.

  2. hello i have read what you have wrote i mean im not sure this seems like a bad sign i think you
    should do istikhara yourself as well as praying 5 times a day and pray to allah for a new life if you want to move on go ahead with a second marriage with positive mind inshallah belive and pray to allah it will happen. Allah is the Name of the Lord, the Exalted The Most Mercifull, the Most Beneficient .

  3. i have looked one men to marry but nuo idea so ihave done istikhara soplease help me

    • rabiya, keep on making salat and dua'. Also, we have some posts on this website about how to find a spouse. Do a search and you may find some useful advice.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  4. As salam mu alaikum

    • Wa alaykum as-salam. Please register and submit your question as a separate post, and please write in English if you can.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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