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Istikhara to choose between marriage proposals

English Translation of the Dua for Istikhaarah

Dua for Istikhaarah

I did second marriage with a lady after my wife's death. Only Nikah was done. She was still living with her brother and sister. Over phone after a lengthy discussion I divorced her 3 times. The matter was over. I had two new proposals. When I did Istikhara, I heard the name of the divorced lady. My sister in law was telling my sister by the name of the divorced lady that she is coming back. I did Istikhara again and again for the new proposals, After suhoor I slept and "NONE OF THEM" came to my mind. I am confused. Please guide me.


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  1. Dear Brother,

    As for the woman you have divorced 3 times, you have to remember that since you have divorced her 3 times you can't marry her again (unless she marries another man and then they get divorced). So don't think about her and move on.

    As for the result from Istikhara, don't just depend to see a result in a dream, rather make an informed decision based on advise from knowledgeable people and go ahead and marry which ever one you find better suited. If it is meant to happen it will happen else it will not. The result of Istikhara is not always from a dream.

    May Allah grant you a righteous spouse.

    • I did istikhara for about more than 3 times regarding the selection of
      subjects for my future studies. I didn't see any Dream but when my father
      did, he saw a dream that Me, dad and mom were entering
      Masjid- al - Haram but the gate keeper stopped us. He asked about the big bag
      i was holding. My father said that these are my daughter's books. The guard
      looked into the bag and asked us to leave the bag if we want to enter the
      masjid. We placed the bag near the huge gate and entered the Masjid- al -
      Kindly tell me the interpretation as i have only one day left for the selection of subjects.

      • Assalaamualaikam

        Istikhara is not based on dream interpretation. Please read our published articles for more information.

        Midnightmoon editor

  2. Assalaamualaikam

    Firstly, istikhara isn't based on dream interpretation. Please read our articles on istikhara to learn more about it.

    Secondly, you don't absolutely have to marry any of these women. Think about their deen and character, whether they are compatible with you in terms of values and common goals, pray istikhara for guidance, and follow your own conclusions (so long as they're halal). If you don't want to marry them, then don't. If you're having regrets about divorcing your previous wife, it may be worth speaking with a scholar about the nature of your divorce - if you gave a triple divorce all at once, there are some schools of thought which would view this as a single divorce, in which case reconciliation may be possible, although this is not a universal view so it would be important to clarify your position with someone experienced in such matters.

    Midnightmoon editor

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