Islamic marriage advice and family advice

I’m afraid of Allah’s anger for breaking an oath

Cover of the Holy Quran

Quran Al-Kareem

What should one do to Expiate for breaking a relation with a sibling by putting a hand on the Quran in order to prevent facing ALLAH (S.W)'s curse.

I swore to cut my relation with my sister.

I did that as i always felt that my sister (Who is married) doesn't treats me like other siblings . When ever even if shes happy if i make fun of anything or joke with her about anything she always scold me and tells me to shut up and says to me that im irritating her...

Well What is done is done . I did't knew about the punishment of Allah about Breaking a Tied realtion. But For Allah I want to Repent or pay kafara to prevent Allah's Anger I read that if someone breaks an oath they have to fast three days or give food to 10 poor people or free a slave. And i also read that breaking or cutting a relation that Allah made is a 7th major Sin and the one who does that , Can not Enter Jannah/ Heaven. I mean what to do NOW. I think that makes TWO major Sins.

1. PUTTING THE HAND ON QURAN AND ADMITING TO BREAKING THE RELATION. ( SOMEHOW AN OATH THAT I HAVE TO BREAK AND PAY KAFFARA FOR NOT FACING THE ANGER OR AHZAAB OR CURSE OF ALLAH ALMIGHTY)

2. BREAKING/CUTTING A RELATION THAT ALLAH ALMIGHTY JOINED/TIED (
7TH MAJOR SIN OF ALL TIME )

What Should I Do Now Please Help Someone... I just didn't knew the punishment before taking this step... Im so Afraid of Allah's Anger...SOMEONE!... PLEASE!...

- Fahad

Advertisements

Tagged as: , , ,

2 Responses »

  1. Assalaamualaykum Brother Fahad,

    You write: "I read that if someone breaks an oath they have to fast three days or give food to 10 poor people or free a slave."

    These are all great things to do and you are a very perceptive soul to be considering them. However, if your joking and "making fun" is all in good spirit and you are not "making fun" of an actual human being, you are not the one in the wrong here! Your sister is breaking the relation if she is being harsh and irritable with you. In the future, please don't take such extreme measures as putting your hand on the Quran and swearing about something like this, but now that it's done, Allah is surely not going to punish you for "unbreaking" the relation!

    Best,

    Nor

  2. What you did is not Islamic. Putting your hand on the Qu'ran gives what you say no more value than if you just said it. Although you made an oath to avoid your sister, you can always negate the oath and make contact with her. That is because it is unIslamic to severe ties with family unless that family member is some kind of criminal or involved in very bad haram behavior (like a satanist or something). Even if someone is difficult or annoying, it is best to keep relations with that family member while keeping a distance and when around them to remind them of good behavior qualities they should aspire to. I would suggest that you first ask Allah to forgive you for doing what you did, which is some kind of bidah. Then proceed to reach out to your sister and apologize to her for not staying in touch with her. Unless she has done some kind of bad deed, it seems from what you said that you may be the one to be avoided. People are different. Some people are serious and don't like practical jokes. Some people are easy going and can tolerate "college boy" behavior, bad manners and faux pas more than others. Some people are formal and others are casual. This does not take anything away from any of those people. If you are in your sister's home and she wants a certain tone set, it is your obligation to respect that. Her marriage status has nothing to do with it. From what you wrote, you said you "feel" your sister does not like you, that she has reprimanded you when you make fun. That indicates that maybe you have some personal growth to work on. Did you ever talk to your sister about how she makes you feel? Did you consider maybe you are annoying to her? Relationships are two-way streets.

Leave a Response