Dua for exams, being teased and little things that affect a persons life
Assalama-laikum Muslim Brothers and Sisters, How are you? I live in America ,and Alhumdullah I found your website and it helped me think that you can help me because you are the one to guide me through my problems. I have two things that I am contacing you about...
1.) I had an exam that I took last week ,I studied hard ,but my parents always stated work hard and make a dua inshallah it will come true. Iwould like to ask you can you tell me a dua that I can do very well and get top marks on my exam please..
2.) I am in 11th grade mashaAllah ,and I am really short about "5.1". Everyone teases me that I should be atleast "5.6/"5.7. Even my mom worries so much about this situation. Alot of people say it is genetics,but to me it isn't.
I belive in Allah and as Muslim Brothers and Sisters you all are very close to Allah as well. I have also tried doing yoga and other excercises,but it was no use. I pray every night to Allah "please make me tall",but I feel that I can only solve my problems by asking someone who is close to Allah. Can you please tell me a dua for this pronblem please.
Dear Professor I know you do not know me ,but I have a strong feeling that Allah is telling me that you are the one to help me. Please undstand I need your help. You have a close bonding with Allah please help me. I will be waiting for your reply.Is there any dua I can read please tell me how my problem can be solved
May Allah bless you and give you every happiness for whuch you desire to have.
Jazakal-khair
Allah-fiz
-huda
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Salaam Huda.
1. First please realise that dua is not like inputting information into a machine - we cannot control what Allah swt decides - it is ultimately His will dear little sister. So there is no 'magic' dua that will give you top marks. Ask Allah swt to help you with the exams and to help you to do well and take the means as well. So do revise and review your work and keep up to date.
And also do not let it take over your life - make sure you give yourself time to relax and don't stress too much - it will affect your grades.
And most importantly realise that exams are important - they will help you be successful in this life with a career and gaining knowledge. But that's where it ends dear little sister - in this life only. Whereas remembering Allah and doing good works give you success in this life and the next life. So keep that in perspective and don't miss prayers due to work or anything. It is a struggle but it is one which is worth it! I am studying currently as well so I do know how it mind-boggling it can be. Hang in there and take a step back and remind yourself why you are here as well!
So:
- Ask Allah swt to help you and put Barakah in your time - make dua.
- Take the means - work hard
- Keep your perspective and try not to over stress.
- Do your best and leave the rest up to Allah swt.
Here is a link on dua.
http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/dua-in-islam/how-to-make-dua/
Please also read link on good duas to recite before revision & exams - the site offers lots of good tips:
http://islamgreatreligion.wordpress.com/2011/05/07/prayers-dua-for-studies-and-exams/
2) As for your height - I know it worries you because people tease you. My advice for you honestly would be to ignore them. The truth is even if you were taller they would always find something else to tease you about. It is just how things work in secondary schools. Accept yourself and love yourself for the way you are. As long as you are healthy then Alhumdulilah that is the most important thing. You are beautiful just the way you are MashaAllah sister so please accept that fact.
Let me tell you something I was teased mercilessly throughout my teen years at school. Not just by kids my age but even adults! I had fuzzy hair as a teen so I got teased because of that. So typically what did I do - try to change it. I came in a few months later with braided slick hair - and I still got teased about that too. It was always something. It was only some years later I now look back and realise there was nothing wrong with me at all. Its just kids and some adults will always say things. And they often target those who are shy or who are insecure about themselves.
So please realise there is nothing wrong with being short or tall or anything like this - and honestly no matter what you do if someone is going to tease you they will make up anything in order to tease you. It was only after I got older, put hijab on and moved out of my teen years that I finally was at peace with myself Alhumdulilah. Be thankful to Allah - some people dont have legs or can't walk or move.
You are still young so you may grow anyway InshaAllah. But if you are really worried its health related then do visit your doctor.
- Ignore what the people are saying and hold your head up high.
- Thank Allah regularly for the blessings He has bestowed on you. One way is to recite Surah Ar Rahman regularly.
Sara
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Dear Sister Sara ,may Allah(swt) bless you with everything you desire to have...Your right I shouldn't stress my self out for a exam because my real exam will be after life. Thank You for hat advice.Also you told me to ignore people. This is what I can not do Sister Sara... It's easy to ignorestarangers because there not your family,but when your own family states this than what shouldI do? My younger sister is taller than,and that supurises everyone.. My mom went through alot because she was dark skinned from her in laws,and now sheis worried about me being short. She always tells me' you may be happy the way you are,butthe world does not think the way ou do'... She also tells me nobody likes short girls.... My grandmother never liked my mom becauseshewas dark skinned ,and I dont want my mother to go through the same thing because I am short. Please sister understand if you were jn m place what would yo do??? Would you like your mom having to hear critcism because she was dak skinned and now her daugjter being short....
Allah (swt) has given so much Allhumdullah and now I just want this little thing to come true as well. I want to be tall not just for myself ,but for my mom ....... My mom has given me so much and bear through so... many rough times in her life,and now I dont want her to suffer anything because of me
Asalaam alaikum Sister Huda,
Humbled and frightened are the emotions that pass through me in reading this post. Humility that a young person would ask me for advice directly. Yet fear, because I am no one to rely on. For it is none other than Allah (swt) that is the Center of Everything and He is the Ultimate Source of Love and Mercy. All praises and requests are His.
In this thought, I was speaking to an Islamic scholar and he echoed the advice that my grandmother taught me: whenever you 'thank' or 'ask' of someone, keep in mind that your gratitude is truly for Allah (swt) instead, because we are all His creations. The same is when you are seeking help, as to remember that it is He who is the Greatest Helper.
I say these things because this is an aspect of your supplication that you need to instill in your heart through sincerity and focus. Another person said that it's not the length of dua that we recite, but the true belief we have in our hearts for each and every word and our actions that we use to call on Allah (swt). For if we truly had certainty (yaqeen), even our utterance of "Bismillah," would bring our duas to fruition in this world and the hereafter. The secret of prayer is not just in the words, but in the true belief in them.
How do we see this manifested? Look here at this verse of those who had knowledge.
So we see that the knowledge you are given, the work you do with that knowledge and your degree of faith are all gifts from Allah (swt). So study in a steadfast manner, yet do not deny yourself the beauty of the Qur'an. Engage in both aspects throughout your life and the manifestation of astute knowledge and how to apply it will come, Insha'allah.
Use this verse to supplicate for an increase in knowledge.
However, look at the two above verses carefully. The first step is acknowledgement and praise of Allah (swt). Keep this in mind when you pray to Him. Glorification of Him is the key to our existence and supplications.
Moving onto your issue of height. I would advise you to keep with the yoga. The long term benefits on your body will prove useful and you may be able to gain a few cm here and there. Maybe 1/2 an inch or a full inch in time. You never know.
Women also have the advantage of wearing shoes with thicker heels. Avoid high heels that are uncomfortable and distort your foot, because it will result in problems later on. Yet, cushioned sandals and nicely cushioned running shoes will give you a temporary boost. Avoid the ones that make too much noise when you walk to keep within modesty, as well.
I know you want to be taller permanently, though. Sister, as in the above verse, you must understand that your height size is a gift from Allah (swt). How so? Let me give you an example. When the first supersonic planes were being developed, many men lined up to for the opportunities to fly them. All of the men who were over 5"10, began blacking out at low Gs. Surprisingly, the shorter men, 5'6"-5"8", were not blacking out and were able to sustain higher Gs. How could this be so? It had to do with the concentration of mass over a smaller, but denser area per square inch.
The shorter men were passing with flying colors, while the tall men could not. Race car drivers experience the same benefit by being shorter, as well, in the environment of higher gravity forces.
This shows us that for every person, there is a role and that our height, skin color and superficial appearances bear little effect on our status in this world and in the next. For Allah (swt) has us all line up in ju'mah prayer, young and old, tall and short, rich and poor. This is the Wisdom of Allah (swt). He is showing us what matters to Him the most is piety and obedience.
I have several friends whose wives are your height. All of them are noteworthy due to their social involvement in the ummah, their work and the way they are raising their families. It does not escape me that the taller women of the community do not bear as much notice as these shorter women. I think it may be because either subconsciously or consciously, they have worked harder to prove themselves. Maybe they saw their height proportion as an opportunity to do even more or perhaps, it is truly the love of Allah (swt) that moves them and height issues were left by the wayside.
As another person once said, we're all the same height when we're lying in the grave. Rest assure however, that these issues will be unimportant once you leave high school and go to college, Insha'allah.
You have asked for a dua, but I am always drawn to the duas of humility, asking forgiveness and seeking amnesty from Allah (swt). You see, another aspect of prayer is abasing yourself before Him and knowing the Greatness of Allah (swt).
In the Name of Allah, the Beneficent, the Merciful.
I ask forgiveness of Allah, (who is) "There is no god save He,"
ever-living, eternal, beneficent, merciful, owner of might and
majesty. I beseech Him to accept my repentance, the repentance of a
servant - insignificant, submissive, destitute, needy, worried and,
helpless, seeking protection, who, on his own, neither can win or lose,
nor die, nor live, nor come to life again.
Oh Allah! I run away (to You) from an insatiable self, unremorseful
heart, useless intelligence, unaccorded prayer and unfulfilled
request.
Oh Allah! I beseech You for ease in the wake of distress, joy after
sorrow, comfort coming after hardship.
Oh Allah! whatever facility I have is from You. I ask for Your
forgiveness and I turn repentant unto You.
If you need any further help, please fee free to reply. Yet remember, all thanks are to Him. May Allah (swt) bless you immensely.
Jazzakala-khair Professor X.. you have guided me through my struggle which I very much apperciate... You are right it is up to Allah(swt) to decide about my growth.. You know Professor X a person always has struggles but this does not mean you should be discouraged. I have beleief in Allah (swt)...About the heels I want my height to be natural not a false ststic. Professor X please make a dua for me ....
Thank you
Everyone pray for me my result is on 15 june
Sister I am 5'2. i dont consider myself short- i consider myself the perfect height that Allah has choosen to provide for me.
Who cares what other people and the world think and even your family (they seem to have issues anyways from the past about skin colour which is pointless- so dont buy into that you are not good enough nonsense.)- i will say it again other people's opinions of you DONT MATTER. when they say you are short- tell them I am perfect the way I am, and say it with confidence girl! I mean real confidence, and trust me no one will bother you. But if you are inscure, everyone sees it and they will stop.
Assalamualikum
Dear Huda don't be upset. Your size is perfect. I am a Bangladeshi. Most of my female acquaintance are
5 feet in height. They are doing good job, get married , get honor from their own family as well as in laws family. Some female i have seen 5'3" , having fair complexion, higher educated, getting good job , but neglected by their husband , by in laws. So it should have to clear to you that height , complexion is not the matter. So you should think about your study, think about your career and finally in my realization give thanks to Allah to give birth in a Muslim family. Now you are a muslim , Allah choose you to be a muslim, it is the main issue. Say me which will be better , if you were 5'5" tall, pretty enough, every one praises you , but you were not a muslim or your present situation which you have now 5'1" tall, a muslim pious girl?
life is a short period of time.just neglet the teasing of them .take in one ear and it in other.you just consentrate on your studies because u r thing their teasing thats y u r not getting good marks and don't get badwa
insha allah u will one day come up in your life