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Losing my hair, can I wear extensions?

Clip-in hair extensions. These are often made of human hair imported from China or India.

Clip-in hair extensions. These are often made of human hair imported from China or India.

Salamu aleikum dear Wael,

I'm married, 23 years young and wearing the hijab. Over the last 2 years, I have lost a considerable amount of my hair. It is still long, but thinner and less appealing. Would it be permissible to wear hair extensions in Islam? Everywhere I go, people pick on my hair and even my husband noticed as my mother in law insulted it, too. To make the hair look more attractive for my husband and the mahrams? Provided that the hijab is applied?

Secondly, would a belly piercing be allowed in order to arouse the husband? Just for him? In the presence of other ladies, the woman will never show her belly and put it out (the piercing).

Thank you very much, god bless you.

Sister Sabrina-Zahra, new convert

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  1. asalamu alaikum,
    i would not advise you to wear an extension cos its similar to wigs cos prophet muhammad(pbuh) cusres whoever wears a wig.

    , it should be made clear that it is permissible for women only to pierce their ears as a form of enhancing their beauty. The proof of this permission is based on the Hadith of Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, when he prayed on the day of `Eid and came with Bilal, his Companion, he ordered the women to pay Zakah, and some of them took their earrings off and threw it (donated it) to the Prophet. (Reported in Bukhari)

    As to the piercing of the nose, it isn't allowed for both sexes because it is a type of deformation to Allah's creation.

    Focusing more on the question in point, Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada, states:

    "According to the teachings of Islam, our body - including all of our physical faculties - is a trust from Allah and we are required to protect and preserve it according to the best of our ability. Consequently, we are not allowed to alter or tamper with our physical faculties unnecessarily; we are only permitted to interfere with them in order to correct a natural deformity or repair or remedy an ailment. Any other form of interference or tampering with our body is akin to altering Allah's creation which has been condemned in the Qur'an.

    We read in the Qur'an that Satan, the accursed one, has pledged to Allah that he will be tirelessly working to lead humans unto ways of perdition and self-destruction: ""¦ aAnd I will surely lead them astray, and arouse desires in them, and command them and they will cut the cattle's ears, and I will surely command them and they will change Allah's creation.' Whoever chooses the Devil for a friend instead of Allah is assuredly a loser, and his loss is manifest." (An-Nisa': 119)

    While reflecting on the above verse, we must also read the following statements of Allah in the Qur'an: "There is no altering Allah's creation." (Ar-Rum: 30); "And do not cast yourselves into destruction by your own hands." (Al-Baqarah: 195).

    In light of the above, body piercing, tattooing, branding, etc. all fall in the category of unnecessary interference, alteration and mutilation of Allah's creation. Therefore, no Muslim, who is conscious of his religion, should ever contemplate such activities.

    • Salam
      What about CLIP-on neon colored hair extensions to wear just during the time at school or at the grocery store? (yes, i have no husband and dont plan on getting one).

  2. salam!
    sister why dont u go to the docter? u have to go to the docter and get some medical help.
    I advise u to go a.s.a.p because if u dont get medical help now u'll lose more hair.

    • Yes, I second this. Your first priority must be to determine the medical reason behind losing your hair. It could be a symptom of a serious illness. You need to see a doctor right away.

  3. The loss of hair is a common issue among women and men and sometimes it can appear there is nothing you're able to do. Nowadays there are however large numbers of hair loss remedies available and you will find solutions to help you feel more at ease. Hair loss isn't a thing you've to cope with on your own and with help you should be able to unearth some thing that's suitable for your needs.Treatment is something that not many people are aware of. Discovering what you require is some thing that requires a modest amount of knowledge and usually some research. You've got to talk to a medical expert to discover the trigger obviously, but once you have that under control, you'll be able to think of choices for treatment.

  4. Use BB Pine Tar. Works like a charm. Only at buaty warehouse. If you can't get ur pause on it then try Doo Groo medicated hair vitalizer. commonly at sallys and walmar.

    About pleasing ur husband and i knooowww this is going to sound extremely none Muslime-ee but A) Take gymnastics class/ strectch mutiple time a day B) Stop by victoria's secret or fedricks at hollywood C) take belly dancing classes D) slip viagra in his food (partly joking)

    personally i always wanted and still do want to get my eyebrow and belly button peirced but thnx to the girl who replied to ur question i am having second thoughts. plus i want to put clip on extension in my hair but i guess i am gonna have to keep puttin em on and off. But if it is to please Allah than it aint that bad 🙂

    • yazzy, pls comment on ur advise. I am loosing her and am really cautious on using new products. Is your advise from personal experience, pls dont mind me asking.
      Many thanks

      • Salam!
        I would love to give you a reply and honored by your request for one. I used pine tar to encourage hair growth. Contionous and regulary use of pine tar and/or DooGroo Medicated hair revitalizer have in my experience gotten my hair to grow. The only reason I do not use the former currently is because the smell is quite pugnent. Make sure it is BB Pine Tar as they have the better one over others such as Dax (as I have tried). If your hair loss seems to be inremediable, I would suggest starting with the latter, Doo Groo. It is availabe in Walmart and Sallys where as pine tar is usually only at the black beauty supply stores. Also try hair vitamins such ad Biotin 1000mcg (micromiligram) per capsule- not the 5000mcg. As always check with a pharmascist or higher if the vitamin will counter anything you are taking. As I type this from my phone, please forgive all typing mistakes. Best results inchalah!

        • Oh, also if you are worried about alergic reactions to hair products, test them by applying a small amount of the product to the inside of the elbow and leave for 24-48 hrs. This is the correct technique when checking for adverse reactions to hair dye.

  5. try getting fake belly button peircing try hot topic icings or diversity (tattoo shop) (yes i purposely look for ways to get around the rules; it's sad)
    *sorry bout my earlier spelling*
    Peace be with you xD

  6. I am 13 and were the hijab Alhamdulillah. I wonder if i can wear coloured hair extensions just to look good in front of mahram and relatives???

  7. Assalamu alaikum,
    There are many ways you can please your husband without bordering what is not permissible. Sister, you can thicken your hair and grow your hair with many products besides hair extensions. Your best bet is to go to the doctor and find out what can medically be done to help your situation. Also, you need to eat eggs, chicken, cheese, and coconut. Your hair is protein. The more protein you consume the better your results will be. Also, try massaging the mustard oil in your hair every few days and leave on overnight at minimum. Don't pull hair too tightly when putting on hijab. Try to stay away from ponytails or tight braids. Never brush your hair when wet. Use a wide tooth comb when hair is wet to detangle. Don't scrub your hair with the towel when drying. Gently pat dry and try to keep all heat and chemical forces away from your hair since it is in such a delicate state. Limit your shampooing to as little as possible and make sure you use a good hair restorative moisturizing conditioner. You can also put coconut milk in hair for the day. Massage your scalp with mustard oil, almond oil, or alma as much as possible. If I were you, I would start massaging my scalp with oil every night for at least 15-20 minutes. Put henna on your hair at least once a month. Get enough sleep, don't stress too much, and try to stimulate your blood cells with exercise. When you are in home alone give your hair as much a break as possible from the scarf. Your hair needs to breathe and be free for movement.
    Most importantly, make dua. Ask Allah swt to give you your request concerning hair for the pleasure and enjoyment of your husband alone.
    Inshallah, Allah swt will make everything easy for you and grant you your request.

    • Sister AIsha, I really felt some relief in reading your m ail as I have been loosing hair for a year now too. I really appreciate your advise. I also believe I am mentally strong to overcome this issue, but need to push at the gp. Alot of money is going into food etc to improve my health and hair. I was looking at the post above about using BB pine Tar, not sure whether to try. Can you advise further on what sort of shampoo and conditioners you would recommend?
      Jzk Allah Pls keep me in your dua s sisters

  8. Assalamu alaikum,

    I know it's very depressing to see your hair falling. I think for a woman, hair is the most precious thing when it comes to appearance. I also believe that hair extensions are not only forbidden in Islam but they are also an invited hassle. Imagine yourself getting tangled between your real hair and extensions, it might damage the hair you already have. I also think that hair extension cause tension in your hair and it's an unnatural volume or weight that you put on your hair and head. Might give you stress in return.

    Oh, and if your husband is a true lover, he'd love you with and without hair. I hope you have a healthy relation with him. Hair extensions attract me a lot, but I think we must do a research first. Go to a doctor first, get some medical help and see what you need to do. But if hair extension makes you comfortable, then go for it.

  9. Assalamu alaikum, my sister has suffered from cancer at a very young age and has lost some of her beautiful hair due to this illness. The doctors have told us that she can go ahead and live a healthy life and get married as she has been cancer free for several yrs. My parents want her to be married off but who would ever want to marry a partially bold girl under these circumstances can it be permissible to go for hair extensions as long as we notify the future potential husband of her shortcomings prior to marriage. She wears hijab in front of non mahrams.

    • Wa'alaykumsalam,

      Basically, hair extensions are prohibited in Islam.

      Asma’ bint Abi Bakr said: A woman came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “O Messenger of Allaah, I have a daughter who is newly married, and she had the measles and her hair fell out. Can I give her hair extensions?” He said: “Allaah has cursed the one who fixes hair extensions and the one who has that done.”

      According to many scholars, it is forbidden, no matter what the reason is, but Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said it is permissible if the head is bald otherwise it is forbidden.

      Shaykh Ibn Uthaymeen said: “A wig is forbidden as it is considered as joining the hair even if this is not joining hair (in reality) because it shows the head of the woman as if it is longer than it actually is, so it resembles joining hair and the Prophet cursed the woman who joins the hair and the woman to whom the hair is joined. However, if there is no hair on the woman’s head like if she is bald, then it is permissible to use a wig in order to conceal this defect, because it is permissible to remove deficiencies. It is for this reason that the Prophet said to the person whose nose was cut in a battle to replace it with a golden nose, and this is like if someone has a curved nose and he wants to straighten it, or he wants to remove a black spot (in his skin) for example; then all this is permissible. However, if it was not to remove a defect, like performing tattoos and plucking the eyebrows, then this is forbidden.In which case, the use of a wig is forbidden even if it is with the permission of the husband and his pleasure because there is no consideration for permission or pleasure of the husband in what Allaah has forbidden.”

      Conditions and Differences on using hair extension or wigs:

      1. The scholars agree that if the extensions orwig is made from human hair then they are not permissible to wear.

      2. If the hair comes from non-human sources[ pure animal] then the scholars differed over the permissibility of wearing such things :
      *. The Hanafi’s considered it permissible as related on behalf of Abu Yusuf
      *. The Maliki’s considered it forbidden
      *. The Shafi’s allowed it but only for a woman’s husband
      *. The Hanabalis took the same opinion as the Malikis except there is another statement, attributed to them, that considers it disliked

      3. If the source of the hair is impure then the scholars agreed that it is forbidden

      4. If the hair is synthetic then the scholars considered it permissible.

      And Allah knows best.

  10. is it forbidden even if its under he jab veil ..i am a cancer patient i lost my hair after radiation its growing back now but like a boy and one part is not growing any more ,,i wanna do it for my self i dont feel good any more when i look in the mirror can you help me thanks

    • Doha, Assalamualaikum,

      May Allah Heal you totally and forgive your sins for your struggle. As you have read above, it ia haraam to use extensions.

      So, please have some more patience until your hair grows. And in sha Allah, it will grow beautifully. I know a lady who was in a similar situation and lost all her hair. She wore a scarf for some months, even when at home. But now her hair has grown well. In sha Allah, it will be true for you, too. You have had so much patience, just some more, in sha Allah... May Allah Reward you.

      Abu Abdul Bari Editor

  11. Yall i don’t understand, i want to wear weave (extensions) but i braid it with my natural hair, but i wear the hijab i just want to please my self i will show it only to my family and thats it, they know its fake and i will not wear it around anybody else but family, is it still haram?

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