Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Marriage decided by parents


‎السَّلاَمُ عَلَيْكُمْ

I have a question. If a guy wants to marry the lady of his choice but the parents wants him to marry another lady, what would be the law if he goes against the parent's wishes? Is it a great sin if he follows his choice?

One of the biggest/greatest sin is no disobey our parents, what would be the consequences for this situation?

Would appreciate your opinion on the matter.
Thank you.


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  1. Will disobeying tour parents in something unislamic, immoral or illegal also count as disobedience, do you think?

    Islam allows no compulsion in religion. While parents can offer their views and advice, one can not force adult kids to abide by it. The right to decide who you marry, both male and females, is an Islamic right. After all it is your life. Muslim parents who know even the basics of Islam, must not force unto the children their wishes. Therefore, no there is no sin in choosing ones own spouse.

    Judging from this board, many people are forced, pressurized, or emotionally blackmailed into marrying the parents choice. This is wrong indicative of a clash between culture and islam. So the choice is yours. Your life.

  2. Salam,

    As far as I'm aware, disobeying your parents is not considered a major sin such as murder, false testimony, rape, etc.

    And let's say you obeyed them and married their choice, what would then stop you from divorcing that woman on the grounds that you cannot maintain the limits of Allah in that marriage?

    If you can, I would like to see the source that makes you feel that disobeying parents is a big deal.

  3. Asalam Alekum

    Your future is your responsibility, and by choosing the right spouse for marriage you should ask Allah for guidance , make ( istikhara )for who to marry, your parents have no right to force you.

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