Marriage – destiny or in my hand?
Asslamoalaikum sir
note:-my english is weak.
I am 28 yr old and still un-married, because of that my father always scolds me, using abuse words for me and behaves badly with my mom and sister.
He says that I refused a proposal and that's why my marriage is not fixed, he tortures us mentally, doesn't give us money, food etc, he is a very bad person. We lived in my maternal grandfather's home since 23yr. The past is past but I want my future to be good.
I want to know: is marriage in my destiny or in my hand or is it already fixed. Please explain as I'm very troubled.
jjgpt
Anabia
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Your English is not weak. Its very good. Don't put yourself down.
You're 28...I was freaking out at that age as well about why I'm not getting married?..when will I have my happy ending? Am I getting too old..??
And the answer is,..It will happen when Allah wills it inshAllah. You will get your happy ending as long as you keep Him with you and in your heart at all times. And no, you're not getting old. So many girls these days are getting married at 30-31..even later then that...So don't stress.
As far as your dad is concerned...He is wrong in what he says. So just smile and ignore. Know that Allah loves you and he will look after you always. And when you get married you will forget about your past inshAllah.
So ignore your dad. (some parents just don't have a clue).
Trust in Allah. (Make him your best friend)
Stay positive.
Keep your Imaan strong.
Take care
~Hugs~
Hello Sister,
I have read your letter and simply I would say, just have faith on Allah and what i sees Inshallah very soon you will get married, only you have to take mature step toward marriage, such as don't select someone special for yourself, only select a person who comes first, money, fame, love grows as women honours her life partner, forget about past and keep on praying to Allah and ask Allah that you would not be selective for someone special but a person who would prefer more realistic, religious, respectable, fear for day of judgement, pray five times namaz, pay zakat to the needy, and see the how Allah will listen to deed.
Regards
Sayeed
ASSALAMAKLAIKUM-
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peace be upon u brothers and sisters , i wish u r doing well , may Allah bless all of u , concern my sister's qestion about marriage i want to say that to be in 28 , it means u r still young and trust me sister marriage is destiny and fate , if Allah the almighty make u still single until now be sure that allah chose and give people his servant the best so u have to be satisfied and pray more and more and ask allah pious husband help u to do ur islamic ritual , and be ur shelter , ultimately God bless u sister and may allah guide u to the right path Ameen