Seeking Allah’s help to solve all problems in my marriage.
O you who believe: Fear Allah as He should be feared and do not die except as Muslims. Hold fast, all of you, to the Rope of Allah and do not be divided, and remember Allah's blessing upon you, for you were enemies and he brought your hearts together until you became brothers by His blessing, and you were on the edge of a pit of fire and He saved you from it. In this way, Allah clarifies His signs to you that you be guided. (Quran 3 102-103)
Assalam O Aalaikum,
I have been married for almost 4 years now. It was an arranged marriage and my husband belongs to a family where his mother is a convert to Islam. Sadly, she isn’t a practising Muslim. My father-in-law passed away before my marriage and my husband has not been brought up in an Islamic Environment/manner (deen, Iman, Namaz/Salah etc). However, he is a wonderful human being and whatever I tell him about Islam he tries to inculcate it but I need to keep pushing him though.
My problem is that within 4 months into our marriage, he was diagnosed with diabetes. Since then, either he or I have been facing health problems one after another. Also, we are unable to have a baby and my treatment fell through as well. All our efforts have been in vain and these problems don’t seem to recede at all. Allah knows best but I am seeking some light to move forward. I was looking for some advice for my problems on this forum.
May Allah bless us all. Amin
Aisahkhan.
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Salaams Sister Aisahkhan
Sorry for the troubles you are experiencing in your life. My advice to you would be to continue seeking the help of ALLAH through dua's and salaah.
Do not be hasty in expecting your du'as or wishes to be fulfilled. Things happen according to the wish of Allah. If a prayer is delayed in being answered, then that is what is best for us at the time. If it is not answered in this world, then it is kept for the Aakhirah, where its rewards will benefit us.
Remember every person in this world is tested at some time in their life, it is a means of our stages being elevated and sins being washed away. Though this is a very sad time for you and your husband, turn towards Allah SWT in prayer. Read salaah daily and beg allah for his mercy and assistance.
Recite Prophet Zakariya Alaihisalam's dua (in the Holy Quran) "Rabbi habli mil ladunka zur-riatan tayebatan innaka sameeud dua" (Surah Ale Imran) as many times as possible after each Salah, InshAllah Allah tala will grant you with pious children.
Be patient on the difficulties you are facing and turn to Allah SWT in prayer, since He is the one who has all the power to make things better.If our life is in accordance to the wish of Allah,surely he will accept our duas and his help will be with us.
Rumaysa
Asslamu alaikum warhamthallhi wrbkathuhu my dear sister,
Be strong sister, Allah(swt) will turn his back on his servants. He's testing your patience, and you should be trying to prove that you can face any difficulties that life throws at you. Inshallah, i hope that Allah(swt) will bless you with a baby, and cure your husband's health. My mother is also diabetic, so i have to get her health checks and all thought, her diabetes is not serious in any way. Help you husband as much as you can, be there for him through the good and the bad. Always follow the examples of the Mothers of the Believers.
As for having a baby, if allah(swt) wills it will happen sis, if not, then Alhamtillah, Allah(swt) has done it for a good reason, and you should accept that. Did Ayesha(RA) have a child?? but stil, she was a true beleiver and a great scholar. Keep making Dhikr, and Inshallah, i hope everything works out for you.
As salamu alaykum sister Aisah,
I think these will be helpful for you and your husband, insha´Allah. Be an example for your husband, 1) perform prayers regularly; 2) recite morning and evening supplications; 3) start everything in Allah’s Name and seek Allah’s Protection and Refuge before taking a bath; 4) put your trust in Allah, invoke Him always and keep away from sins. With time he will follow you, insha´Allah.
There is a Sunnah tradition from Muhammad of reading them over the sick or before sleeping and they are also considered a healing. The al-Mu'awwidhitayn (Arabic المعوذتين), sometimes translated as "Verses of refuge", is an Arabic term referring to the last two suras (chapters) of the Qur'an viz. al-Falaq and an-Nas
“Put your hand on the part of your body where you feel pain and say ‘Bismillah (in the name of Allah) three times, then say seven times,
A`udhu bi `izzat-illah wa qudratihi min sharri ma ajid wa uhadhir (I seek refuge in the glory and power of Allah from the evil of what I feel and worry about).”
A`udhu bi kalimat Allah al-tammah min kulli shaytanin wa hammah wa min kulli `aynin lammah (I seek refuge in the perfect words of Allah, from every devil and every poisonous reptile, and from every evil eye)’”
Allahumma Rabban-nas, adh-hibil-ba's, washfi, Antash-Shafee, la shifa'a, ilia shifa'uk, shifa'an la yughadiru saqaman. (O Allah, Lord of mankind! Remove this disease and cure him. You are the Great Curer, there is no cure but through You that leaves behind no disease.)" (Bukhari and Muslim)
I would highly recommend you to study the Names and Attributes of Allah(swt), you will feel what I mean when you begin to study them, insha´Allah.
All my Unconditional Love, Respect and Support,
María
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Just a little info for you there is a tablet known as dimaxol for type 2 diabetes google it. I took it and my diabetes has reversed.keep praying for a child remember when you try too hard you are under too much stress and that is not too good for conception.best of luck and may Allah grant your wish. amen
sister anna wats that drug can u pls mail me ???? i too am a 22 yr old girl with diabetes type 2.
ill be very grateful if u can tell me the details sister
jazakallah
Faryas89,
Please refrain from taking any drug without consulting your doctor first.
SisterZ
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aoa , i love my husband
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Wael
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