No marraige proposals and obesity; has someone performed black magic?
Marriage Proposal
I suspect that somebody has done magic on me. I am in my late 20's and there is no sign of marriage. My mother reads wazifas that people tell her to but nothing happens and even the marriage bureau people back out after showing only one or two proposals and unfortunately most of them aren't even worth considering.
SECOND QUESTION
I know people will find this stupid but can somebody be made fat and unattractive through magic? As I myself am very fat and people tell me to diet but I fail to do it as I keep thinking about some thing tasty to eat. And because of my weight no body finds me attractive. Can this be a form of sihr ( magic) ? So again let me make my question more clear .... Can one be made unattractive and fat by magic?
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Salaam
my dear sister
where are you come back to reality i've got about a stone in weight to loose but that does not stop proposals from comming
secondly sister if you have a problem with your weight do something about it join the gym and go daily and excerise for a min of hour drink lots of water if you can go for walks when it comes to food you need to look at how you look at food don't just stuff it down taste it eat it slowly listen to your stomach and stop when full don't not eat what you like but eat it in smaller portions and taste it and enjoy it more and DO NOT STARVE YOURSELF it does not help you to lose the weight in fact it helps you to keep it on BUT MOST IMPORTANTLY OF ALL if your gona lose weight do it for yourself not anyone else and try to better the person inside and your emaan
try this for a month and see the results and trust me it will work couse i have pcos and i struggle this works
oh and rishteh thing be yourself it will happen when your ready but that does not mean you sit back and expect it to happen you have to do in order for it to happen
allah hafiz
But my weight has stopped my proposals from coming sister fouzia ! Nobody is willing to accept me because of this physical appearance.
Dear sis ,
salam,
dont know about your marriage stuff but for obesity you are under the magic of 'food'.
you can simply undo the magic by eating sensibly and excercising.
remember what Prophet said about eating habits. the rule of 1/3 . one third food, one third water and one third air. follow this and inshallah you will not only see benefits in health but also get lots of reward for following sunnah.
May Allah make it easy for you.
You are right friend! Please pray for me that my will power becomes strong enough so I can lead a healthy lifestyle.
ASSALAMALAIKUM
My mother reads wazifas-'YOUR MAJOR PROBLEM IS IN THIS MORE THAN[IF MAGIC]IS DONE ALSO THIS IS MORE GREATER CRIME WHERE ALLAH PULLS BACK THE REHMATH DUE TO FOLLOWING SECTARIAN WAZIFAS WHICH ARE THE DEVASTATING AMAL OF MUSLIMS IN INDIA PAK AND BANGALADESH-
YOUR IMAN IS LOWT DUE TO THIS AND U TEND TO FALL MORE AND MORE IN A DITCH IF MAJIC IS THERE IT WILL EFFECT EASILY
CANCEL ALL THE WAZFISA AND ASKING EVERY TOM DICK AND HARRY TO SY WHT TO READ-READ ONLY QURAN AS MANY TIMES AT HOME AND ASK ALLAH ONLY DONT EVEN THINK OR STEP IN ANY SHRINE SO THAT YOU GET ALLAH ON YR SIDE-
I KNOW WAZIFA READING PARTIES HOMES AND THEIR BELIEF THIS IS MORE LIKE INVITING MAJOR DAMAGING AND DEVASTATING COSEQUENCES THAN THE MAGIC ITSELF AND THAT ADDS TO THE PROBLEM BY BECOMING A SITTING DUCK BY SENDING AWAY THE BLESSINGS OF ALLAH-FROM THE HOUSE ITSELF THEN WHERE IS THE SECURITY-
Serve Allah &Shun Taghoot 16:36
THIS VERSE APPLIES TO US FOR OUR TAGHOOTS WE HAVE MADE -
THE ARABS TAGHOOT WERE ALSO PIOUS PEOPLE WHO DIED AND THE ARABS MADE THEM INTERCESSORS WITH ALLAH AND AURGUED WITH NABI SALALAHUALAIHIWASALAM AS THEY DIDNT WANT THE MEDIATORS WITH ALLAH LIKE OUR DURGHA SAINTS TO BE RENOUNCED FOR THE SAKE OF ISLAMS CALL-“And when it is said to them:’Follow what Allah has revealed !’ They say: ’Nay! We will follow what we found our fathers following.
’ What! Even though their fathers were void of wisdom and guidance?” (2:170)
“Just in the same manner,whenever We sent a Warner before you to any town,the wealthy ones among them said: ’Surely we found our fathers following a certain way and we will certainly follow in their footsteps.” (43:23)
THE MECCANS USED TO DO URS AND FUNCTIONS OF THEIR INTERCESSORS LIKE WALIS OF TODAY-OUR BELOVED PROPHET STOPPED THEM FROM DOING THIS SHIRK-THEY REPLIED—-
They say: ’Nay! We will follow what we found our fathers following.
Many people who use such forms of supplication hold the belief that dead saints can hear and they have the power to influence lives. This is a clear negation or kufr of the following verses:Lo! thou canst not make the dead to hear, nor canst thou make the deaf to hear the call when they have turned to flee; [An-Naml 27:80]
For verily thou (Muhammad) canst not make the dead to hear, nor canst thou make the deaf to hear the call when they have turned to flee. [Ar-Room 30:52]
Nor are the living equal with the dead. Lo! Allah maketh whom He will to hear. Thou canst not reach those who are in the graves. [Fatir 35:22] [Translation by M. Pickthall]
TO COMBAT THE EFFECT OF MAGIC IF THERE IS ANY- IN YOUR CASE THEN FOLLOW THIS-
1ST IS TO SAVE FROM SHIRK THEN PLEAD WITH ALLAH -
MAKE YOUR SELF ONLY ONE WHO SEEKS ALLAH'S HELP BY READING QURAN-AND THE LAST3 SURAHS
ALL THE TIME AND SHUN OTHER ROUTES -ALLAH WILL HELP YOU IN ALL RESPECTS-
REGARDS
Well I didn't mean my family visits babas but there are many duas in the Quran which one can read in the form of wazifa. I think there's nothing wrong in it as we are reading something which is given in the Quran in the right order. It has nothing to do with peer faqeer or magic. I think you misunderstood my sentence in which I said my mother reads wazaifs as she doesn't do chillas etc God forbid ! They are Quranic verses so what's wrong in reading or reciting them?
THEN IT IS GOOD FOR YOU AND ALLAH WILL INSHALLAH HELP YOU AND DONT LOOSE HOEP THIS WORLD IS ONE SIDE ALLAH WITH YOU ONE ONE SIDE FOR U ARE LOGING TO SETTLE IN LIFE THE HALAL AND SUNNAH WAY THEN NO BODY CAN BE YOUR OBSTACLE AS LONG AS YOU HOLD ON TO THE ROPE OF ALLAH-
Allaah says: "And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope ofAllaah (i.e., this Qur'an), and be not divided among yourselves."Surah Aali-`Imraan [3:103]
Thank you Jazak Allah
There are no wazifas in Islam, only duas and nothing more.
Assalaamualaikam
If you are unhappy with your weight, cut out unhealthy foods and increase your activity levels. It takes willpower but you can focus on small achievable steps towards your goal. If this by itself doesn't work, your doctor can check to make sure there isn't a hormone imbalance - if there is then that can be treated.
You mention that the men suggested to you haven't been worth considering - it might be worth reviewing that approach. Nobody alive today is perfect, and you may find that by giving someone a chance you may find a good connection. I don't know what your rejections are based on, but maybe review those and think "is that truly important to me to the point where I would refuse to consider someone without it?" - eg if you are focusing on location, previous marriage, job, physical appearance, you may need to reconsider. The essentials are deen and character - if a man has both, maybe try to look past other issues to see if there's room for compromise?
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
Walekumassalam! By not worth considering means even those people accuse me of my weight! I am sure you must be thinking this lady must be really ugly that no body is accepting her but I am not ugly. It's just I don't understand why nobody can look beyond my weight. So I wanted to find out if I am a victim of sihr or I am not.
Unfortunately, today the physic counts a lot in this world where models etc are in magazines, tv etc and men tend to prefer slim style, I don't say all but I m sure a lot. I am 99% sure u are not under magic. As above said, it's magic of food, I know it's hard to loose weight, it's a long term fight, so you should reduce some fat and sweet food but that's not anough, u will not loose weight without excerice, or very very slowly. U must do some exercises to burn. Forget about sihir.
Sister,
Losing weight is not an easy task for anyone. The fact of the matter is, we live in a world where how we look matters to the opposite sex...a lot. You need to make a commitment to yourself to lose the weight. I lost 50 lbs by eating right and exercising daily. I got myself a treadmill and started walking slowly until I was able to build up my stamina. That treadmill is an amazing tool to lose weight. As far a food goes...you have to stop the fast food, the cookies, cakes and all the junk food including drinks like Pepsi. Eat healthy, no processed foods. The reality is, you have to want this. You have to have the mindset that you are going to be healthy and you are going to be successful. It isn't easy and as a matter of fact, I have put 20 of those lbs back on to date. Took me a year to lose it and three years to put 20 lbs back on. I hate it. I feel and see it yet I just don't have the motivation I did before to get going. I keep talking to myself but alas my mojo is no where to be found. When you yourself find your mojo, you can and will do it. Once you get started and you see the lbs drop, you will want to work even harder. I honestly don't believe black magic has anything to do with your weight...it is about what you are putting into your body and lack of exercise (Allah hu Alem). Make an appointment with your physician to check your thyroids as well because if not functioning properly, that in itself can cause you to put on weight.
Salam
Dear sister najah, hope u find ur mojo real soon :)I'm sure it couldn't have gone far
Thanks, I am trying!
assalamualikum!
I advise you to follow atkins diet .I work at a nutrition center cum pharmacy in UAE I have seen people losing weight folloing this and also there are many natural fat burners without any side effects( e.g. garcina. Combogia_ Inuli acts as appeti suppresant and curbs cravings )A combination of diet exercise and natural weight loss supplements will surely help you. And take a note atkins has many tasty products in its list. There are also very strong fat burners like lipo 6 search online there is a tons of info avilable.But as a first read I suggest you to read SUGAR SWEET POISON in this the author, a lawyer explains how he lost 40 kg over weight .for this he studied anatomy and physiology and biochemestry .in this he explains why and how body gets obese ant how toget fit. In a terminology that every body can understand.
Take care bye!
Salam sister,
Why dont you look for someone who is also overweight. He should not reject you then. And then you can both loose weight together after marriage.
Maybe even ask for feedback from the rejectors. Is there any other factors other then your weight which they dislike in you?
I really dont understand this disgusting attitude of men, some men are so ugly and old yet the seek a preety slim bride! What should happen to these girls who are ugly should they remain unmarried for the rest of their lives.
People should seek compatible spouces in terms of looks and character. It is reasonable for a good looking person to look for a goodlooking wife or husband but an unattractive person shouldnt be seeking a drop dead gorgeous girl or guy! But sadly it seems today even to our muslim brothers beauty is everything! Mashallah you have been blessed with beauty just deal with your weight issue then inshallah many will come running!
Many ppl will tell you that you are paranoid for thinking about black magic. Unfortunately it is extremely common and CAN cause your symptoms.
However You may or may NOT have it.
Here is my advice sister.
-seek out ways to reduce weight
-seek out ways to get married
AAAND DO THE FOLLOWING :
-put All your trust in Allah that ONLY HE will bring any good to you or allow a hardship to pass over you
-stick like glue to your 5 prayers
-do all your sunnah plus duha plus tahajjud-Very important
-do your morning n evening azkar
-give sadaqa
-do hajj if you are able or umrah asking Allah for solution
-Read surah every 3 days in your home and eat 7 dates first thing in morning as per sunnah and if fasting break your fast with 7 datea
-recite surah fatiha n ayah kursi n surah falaq n surah naas ALOT
-when you finish reciting baqarah and the above surahs go blow in water that you will drink and olive oil. Then drink from this water daily and apply this olive oil all over body daily and also drink from it
-cupping is highly highly recommended in sunnah. It rids ourselces of toxins in body.
-make dua daily at the accepted times: after azan n begore iqama. Before fajr. Etc. You can research this online.
-fast 2x a week as per sunnah
Assalaamualaikam
Please could you provide evidence from Islamic texts to support your recommendations of blowing on water and cupping?
As far as I am aware there is no evidence to support these practices, so if you could provide some I would appreciate it, as we all need to ensure our advice is based on good Islamic principles - we need to try to avoid superstitious practices, and we should be striving to improve our knowledge of Islam.
Midnightmoon
IslamicAnswers.com editor
Yes! ..1).First go to a psychologist dealing with eating disorders to train your mind and behavior regarding food ,exercise and other habits
2) take a job where u need to work in a standing position and carry things as well.
3)your prayer shouldn't be done by the mother. its NOT her marriage. You need to pray regularly,cover your head, and read the quranic protections as advised above after every 5 salats. So contact the local Raqui ..if u need further assistance. May God Almighty Guide all to use their common senses. Thanks!!!
Best Wishes!!!
A lot of times superstition leads us to think that this may have happened on us or that.... but if we make some small changes Im sure we can see a drastic difference.
Why dont u start doing things that are small but you know you can commit too? Maybe going to the gym once a week then gradually increasing, trying to get a trainer if u cud afford, and there are tons of blogs and apps with groups that monitor progress for this (work out routines, foods, etc)
good luck
I totally understand your problem. I understand how frustrating it is. I am a Hindu but going through the same problem.
Guys come, see me, talk to me and say they like to go ahead and marry me. Then they just vanish. Sometimes, it also happened that things came till engagement and broke up. I am damn frustrated and have had this feeling that I will never get married. When I tell my parents about my this feeling they convince me and make me agree to see another guy. But deep inside I feel I am not destined to get married. Recently, a priest told my father that someone has done black magic on me so that I never get married. I do not know whether I should believe it or not.
I want to know if you have found any solution. Please share.
It probably is black magic or probably not. You should go to an Imam first and ask for advise. Also, the writer of this article also thought black magic was done on her:
http://www.jewishjournal.com/my_pakistan/item/black_magic_woman_in_karachi_20110710
I know one girl, she was chubby but she looked so pretty.. she didn't have that many proposals and her mother was constantly worried. She became over 28 years old but probably less than 31, then she got such a good proposal and go married and is now happy mashallah.. so sometimes, for some people, they just find their prince charming really early in life and like this woman I knew, she found one a little late.. Maybe with you it is not black magic, try to slim down (I hate the fact that men nowadays only find women attractive by their weight.. they should start looking at their personalities instead!) that girl I'm talking about, had the most sweetest personality, always smiling, she was so attractive.. I'm just shocked why not that many men proposed to her.. if I had an older brother, I would've definitely asked my mom to propose to her...
so have patience and try to loose a little weight.. if u keep this mindset that I want to loose for certain purpose, i'm sure if Allah's willing your weight will be normal again.. just have faith..
good luck.
PS: I'm over 25 years too, and don't get that good proposals and I've good body according to my relatives .. i don't understand why I don't get proposals either that are worth considering, after reading so many articles on black magic, i feel like I might be inflicted by it too...