Can married men continue to chat with girls on MSN?
Assalamu Alaikum,
I would like to know if it is appropritate for a man to always be chatting with women on msn messenger and so on when he is married.
In my opinion and according to the shariah it is totally haraam but the person does not think so. I am a bit disappointed and frustrated because he doesnt seem to care what I think.
As a Muslim I would like to ask your advice and what's the halaal (right thing) to do.
Jazakallah khair
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Salaam.
No its completely inappropriate for a married man (and even an unmarried man) to be chatting with girls on MSN. The best thing to do is to try and advise him based on Quran and Sunnah in a kind and unaccusing manner. I say this because if you act accusing, he will zone out and you will not be able to get through to him.
{ And come not near to the unlawful sexual intercourse. Verily, it is a Fahishah[i.e. anything that transgresses its limits (a great sin)], and an evil way)
Allah did not just say: don't do zina. He swt said dont come near it. So avoid casual friendships with opp sex, do not be alone. There are many forms of zina which lead to full zina which are also grave sins. "The Prophet SAW said it is better for a man to have a steel nail driven through his head then to touch the palm of a strange woman."
This shows the seriousness of this sin.
If your husband continues to disregard this behaviour somme months down the line or if it gets worse, you may want to consider divorce. In the meantime, talk to him if you can.
Sara
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if your friend despite being married and having acces to anything he wants sexually, still talks to a certain girl, then advice him to marry that last girl also.
because a man may feel satisfied with everything he has in his house [ie his wife], but may also yearn for another woman also.
The advice to be given to the man is that what he is doing is wrong and he should stop immediately, and apologize to his wife for causing such distress in the marriage.
If he is sexually unsatisfied or wishes to marry someone else, that is a different issue altogether. It does not justify his decision to visit chat rooms on MSN.
Maryam;
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you're right sister, there is no justification for chatting to women on line, and he should apologise, thats why i said he should marry that woman if he can afford to.
if a man falls in love with another woman besides his wife, his heart will be stained with that woman, and he will be disturbed in every aspect in his life thinking about that woman.he will yearn for her for a long long long time
thats the only reason why i said he should marry her on top of his wife.
I think it is , coz I was also addicted to it not msn but other chatting site which first starts with normal talk often turns to sex talk.
If u r using words which replicate the act of having physical fun its bad
Well for a married and unmarried man the above I explain is bad
But a simple conversation with a friend(girl) for a unmarried person is it ok?
there is no friendship between opposite sexes brother as Allaah has placed mutual attraction between them.it will lead to distruction, weakness of eemaan and loss of memory when it comes to the ur'aan.
brother, if you want a female friend to talk to, to have a laugh with, to joke with, to hold hands with all day long without getting into sin, what better female friend can a man have than his sister(s).
brother, how about we make our sisters our female friends?
if you talk to your sisters, hold their hands, greet them by kissing them on the cheeks, joke with them, make them laugh, spend on them etc, Allaah will be pleased with that greatly as it is building the ties in kinship, making the family unit stronger and it will increase you in levels in paradise.
even after your sisters get married, there is no reason why you cant enter upon her to to have a good time with her.
why do you need some random woman who will avail you nothing but loss to make friends with.
There is a difference between talking to sister and to a female a way big difference
Well I do talk to my sister but as a brother not as a friend. And I like to be as an elder brother and not as a friend with my sister.
And regarding spending time with her , my stress buster is play pc games , watching news and action/horror movies
As for her she does not like any of this its out of question and I don't feel changing my stessbusting option suited for her will be liable .
I do believe talking to non maharam is not allowed in islam as it will lead to zina and other bad stuffs but its still talking I never approach any one with an sexual intention
Still it is wrong and I do accept it
My husband fo to staff parties n lay next to females.and he chat to his female friends over bbm.is it right or wrong