Can I marry my cousin’s daughter?
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Assalamualikum wa rehmatullahi wa barkaatuh,
My name is Abdul Bari and I had a question. Actually I've read all the questions and answers above, but nobody asked in detail so I had to raise a question.
I want to marry my cousin's brother's daughter (my father's sister's son's daughter), bur she calls me uncle, I love the taqwa in her, that's the reason I want to marry her. Can I marry her? If yes, please give me a daleel (proof) from any hadees or Quran.
Jazakh ALLAHU khair,
-abdulbari365
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Salaams,
Your cousin's brother is also your cousin. Your cousin's brother's daughter is also your cousin. You may marry your cousin in Islam. It doesn't matter what she calls you, as biologically you are not her uncle at all. You are not the brother of her father or mother.
-Amy
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Assalaamualaikam
Biologically, you aren't her uncle, or another mahram to her. So, as far as I am aware, that would be a permissible marriage in Islam. Make sure that you approach the issue in accordance with Islamic values, and propose via halal channels of communication.
Midnightmoon
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The editors of this website are 100% correct in that Islamiclly, yes you can marry her. However, I would like to suggest a word of caution. You say that she calls you uncle and do not suggest that she has given any indication that she has romantic feelings for you. It is possible that she see you as an uncle, someone who is like a father to her in a way. If you propose to her, she may react very badly. I say this because my father has cousins who I refer to as uncle, and if one of them were to ever propose to me I would be deeply disturbed that they could feel this way about me, particularly since the age gap between us is significant. I would suggest that you proceed with caution, perhaps asking a family member who is close to her to casually suggest the idea to her and see how she reacts. If she is open to the idea, great! If not, you will not have risked your cordial family relations.
ASalamulaykum,
Ali and the messenger of Allah (SAW) were cousins, because Ali's father is Abu talib , the prophets's uncle.
Ali married fatima the daughter of the messenger, (saw) even though it is his cousin's daughter.
However, there is a difference in marriage these days and those days, make sure she would accept first before possibly embarrassing yourself.
What is the big deal she calling you uncle? Many cousins who get married treat each as brother and sister before they get married and do it.
How much is your age difference?
Just think about this more before you proceed. In all honesty I would be petrified if some one I thought of as an uncle asked for my hand in marriage. This could go either way, but it's risky because it could go left and she might not be comfortable around you any more.....or she might agree.