Is it a sin to talk to husband and masturbate in situation like mine?
Masturbation in State of Fasting
hi,
I am 20 year old Muslim girl. and i have been married for more than two years now. my husband is in army training in another country , and we he get holiday only twice a year. for a week, so most of the time we talk on phone and or in internet,
my question is . while talking on phone or skype .sometimes we go to other level. we both try very hard to stop but most of the time we can't stop masturbating. we both miss it . we need it .
so is it a sin ?? talking to husband and masturbating.. in my situation. i know im not thinking about other guy. im only thinking about my husband,. and if so. why is it a sin ?!! imagining making love with my husband, can that be a evil thinking ??
im too shy to ask this questions to my mom or with friends. but i desperately need the answer 🙁
my whole relationship depends on this answer now.
fathmathlove.
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Assalamualaikum sister,
May Allah unite you with your husband.
There are differences of opinion about masturbation and you can read posts that we have previously published on this subject.
Masturbation, some scholars say, is to be adoped when there is no other choice, and there is a proof for this : an athar from Ibn Abbas Radiyallahu Anhu. For example, if there is no food except a dead animal, and you will die if you remain hungry, you can eat the dead animal. This is the status of masturbation in my opinion.
You are asking for a fatwa which we can not provide. We can just tell you what we think. You must approach a scholar with your question for a fatwa.
When you talk online on skype or related channel, be careful. Internet is the least privet place to become intimate with your husband. Also, whatever you do should do to help you stay away from Zina. Ask your husband to return as soon as possible. Serving the army is his motto perhaps, but when he has married a lady, giving her some time and all what she deserves is his duty. (Exceptions possible, as we find in the history of Islam.)
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Asalam alaikum sister,
He is your husband, enough said. If you two cant be together when you want to, then its good to at least see eachother over skype. As the editor commented above though, be careful in case you are streaming to the world you intimate moments! Make sure youre staying inside the limits of halal too...dont go as far as watching porn and pleasing yourself without your husband. And always remember Allah knows what is in our intensions.
Peace
salam alikum wr wb
i've heared that husband and wife shud stay away for no longer than 4 months away from each other, my opinion shud b that he should look after his wife and his family first inshAllah Allah will do the best for you two.
Allah hafiz
Yes, there is a limit which is 6 months. But this is waived if the wife permits him to stay longer and if there is a dire need.
Abu Abdul Bari
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Aoa! My question is that my husband dont do intercourse with me n dont allow me to come closer even though v live together . 5 months hv passed in this situation. On insisting abt d reason, he says there is no problem in u or me but u hv to wait. Wat should i do if he dont even tell me d reason. Wat islam says abt it?
heer, I could speculate on the reasons for your husband's lack of interest in sex, but with no communication from him it's pointless. You need to be very firm with him and tell him that sex is one of his obligations as a husband and an important part of marriage, and that you need an explanation. If he still refuses, I think you should consider divorce.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
How long you have been married to him? How was your sex life before 5 months? Has you situation changed in the last 9 months?
My question is, Am living in abroad. I controlled my self. Sometimes whenever i speak to my wife i asked her to send the half nudes and we do some sex talks. Is this fine?
I have been married since last 10 years..
Akbar, please register and submit your question as a separate post. If I were to give you a brief answer right now, I would say it's up to you. You must decide if you can forgive her, and if you can trust her.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor