Masturbation and sexual thoughts – how do I stop myself?
Asalamu alaykum,
I am 19 years old, male, and living with family. I feel as though it's time that I need to be married, and have spoken to a few families, but it hasn't happened, mostly because I can't financially support myself or a wife yet. My problem is that when I'm in my room and lay down in my bed to rest, I start having thoughts about sex and the intimacy that married people share until they overpower me and I satisfy myself. I want to stop doing this, it is ruining my Islam and my life, and I just got caught in this habit about a few months ago. I know this is wrong, and I repent afterwards, telling myself that I will stop this time. Also, I take the Prophet's(SAW) advice and fast weekly, I pray at the masjid regulary, and I don't know what else to do. Please help.
muslimguy
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Assalaamualaikam
There have been many posts on this site regarding masturbation and suggestions on how to cut down or stop doing this. I'd recommend having a look through them and thinking about whether the suggestions made might be helpful for you.
It's understandable for a young man to have a high sex drive, but there are ways to cope with this; such as fasting, which mashaAllah you are already doing. Make sure that you are avoiding watching or reading haraam materials, and remember to keep things in perspective - your life and faith are not going to be ruined by this; it is an unhelpful habit which you can break with some hard work, inshaAllah.
Midnightmoon
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