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Mother not approving of marriage to an African American woman

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Alslam alikom.

I am a 24 yrs old Muslim from northern Africa (currently living in the U.S for 15 years) and have been dating an African American woman for 7 years. She is converting to Islam and interested in learning more about my culture. This woman been through a lot with me and was always there for me. Now the problem is that my family does not approve although they knew about her for years. My father said that he doesn't not care but my mom doesn't not want her. She said that she will disown me if I married her. And now she said that if I want to marry her then  I should go but never come back to her. The only reason why my mom is disapproving our marriage is because my girlfriend is not from the same culture as I am; she wants me to marry someone from my country. She is worried about what people will say. My girlfriend wants to come and talk to my mom about how she is willing to learn about Islam and our culture but my mom does not want to talk to her and give her that opportunity; she kicked her out the house and called her a "n*gger". My girlfriend sucked it up and walked out without talking back. Now that I finished my bachelor and she finished her master I ready to marry this woman and I don't want to keep committing sins. I thought about leaving the house and marry her but I don't know what to do. I have been trying to convince my mom for one year and still keep getting the same result. Please help me. Thank you in advance.

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  1. Assalaamualaykum Yassin,

    I would pray sincerely to Allah and do the Salat Al-Istikhara (You can find information on this prayer/dua for guidance in the blue menu at the top of this page), asking Allah to ease the way to marriage with this sister if it is best for you.



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