Muslim – Christian wedding ceremony
Hi Wael, I respect everything you have said in other posts, it does make sense you cannot raise children in confusion with two religions it will only confuse them.
Anyways I have a question. I am a Christian, I am marrying a Muslim man. We're both in love and we decided to raise our kids in the Muslim faith and I myself have been practicing the faith and I am open to see what it is all about. My wedding is next year and we're having some conflicts planning the wedding.
My question to you is aside from the ceremony at the mosque, I would like to have the sheek at the wedding hall where I will have the celebration. I would like to have our family members sitting with us and for my father to give me away to my future husband. My question would be is this against the Muslim religion? I don't find anything wrong with establishing a little of my culture.
This is a very important tradition for my parents.
- julia123
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Julia, there's nothing wrong with your family attending the wedding and having your father give you away. I hope that no one has given you the impression that it's against Islam in some way. It's not.
Wael
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hi there just wanted to ask,
what a the simlarties on a Christian and Islamic wedding.
Fatima..
I am an american christian. I have been asked by an egyptian muslim man to marry him. I love him and he loves me. I know he is a practicing muslim. He goes to mosque ,practices rahamdan. In 3 years he wants us to be living in a city in egypt. I respect his relgion. He is coming to see me soon. He has an engagement ring for me. Is it in our best interest for me to convert and say shahada? I have been learning about the muslim faith. He is learning english. I am wishing to remove as many problems as possible before the wedding. I would like for the muslim faith to accept our marriage,please help me to do so. please advise me as well on anything I might have missed.
@ elsie.
actually in islam, a muslim man is allowed to marry a christian or jew provided she is chaste not having/as boyfriends.
and like you said he is a commited muslim, so he knows about the rulings regarding this.
and regarding your decision to make shahada, its up to u . if u dont take it before marriage, he can still marry you,. and if you take it before marriage too, then u r a muslim and he can marry you also, and that i'll be happy for u to do.
but u know the precondition of shahada is knowledge, so you just dont rush without understanding fully well, or that u become a muslim because of your husband not because of God (that one shouldnt do).
i'd advise that u ask him to learn more about it and you may also ask question u have on trustworthy websites e.g islamqa.info/en
And hope you join soon in this beautiful way of life (ISLAM).....~~~
With my unpleasant past encounter with muslim suitors,i met a Christian man who has accepted me and we a planning marriage. We have agreed to holud on to each ones own believe.kindly advice because we love each other.Masallah.
You have asked us to kindly advise, and the advice I give you will be the one given in the Quran. It is forbidden for a Muslim woman to marry a non Muslim man. If you do marry him, your marriage may be accepted under worldly law but not by Allah's Law. Any sexual relations you have with your non Muslim partner will be zina/fornication - they are major sins for which punishment has been ascribed in this life and the next.
I understand your pain at not being able to find a suitable Muslim husband, but this is your 'test'. Remaining single and on the straight path is better than having a forbidden relationship. You will be satisfying your worldly needs, but completely ignoring your Hereafter.
It seems that the real issue here is your level of eemaan. If it was strong, you would never consider entering such a relationship that you know is completely forbidden by Allah. It is very sad to see. Our purpose in life is to worship Allah and everything we do in this life should ideally be a means to nearing closer to Allah by doing things He loves. If you leave your non Muslim partner, you will be sacrificing for the sake of Allah and He will give you something better - have tawakkul - trust in Allah.
Alternately tell this man that you can only marry him if he Muslim. Is he willing to convert sincerely? Perhaps if he knew about real Islam, he would consider it. For this though, you need to know your own faith too.
You know what the truth is sister, even though it may be painful for you to accept right now. On the other hand, rejecting what you know is the truth will be more painful in the Hereafter. And if you make that sacrifice, inshaa'Allah it will eventually be very sweet for you.
Its your choice. But you will be accountable for all the choices you make. May Allah (swt) guide you.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Habiba,
This is especially for you. As I just wrote to you, I was also listening to a talk on Islam Channel and it was as though Allah wanted me to hear it just so I could convey this to you:
If you love Allah, you will do that which pleases Him. By sacrificing or His sake, Allah will love you in return. And if Allah loves you, He calls Gibrael(as) and tells him that He loves 'so and so'. Then Gibrael(as) will declare in the heavens that Allah loves 'so and so', and then all the inhabitant/angels of the heavens will also love 'so and so'. What a great honor is this. You will also gain the acceptance from people in this life.
Added to this, Allah will help you with all your affairs, you will gain His protection and He will defend you from any harm. Allah(swt) says in a hadith Qudsi: ‘I will declare war against him who shows hostility to a pious worshipper of Mine. The most beloved thing with which My slave comes nearer to Me is (through) what I have obligated upon him (i.e. Salaah, Zakaah, Sawm, Hajj etc); and My slave keeps on coming closer to Me through performing Nawaafil (optional acts of worship) till I love him. When I love him I become his hearing with which he hears, his seeing with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes and his leg with which he walks; and if he asks (something) from Me, I give him, and if he asks My protection, I protect him.’” (Bukhari)
He, sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, also said, “Allah says: ‘When a slave of mine of Mine draws near to Me (the width of) a hand-span, I draw near to him (the width of) an arm-span; and if he draws near to Me (the width of) an arm-span, I draw near to him (the width of) both arms outstretched. And if he comes to Me walking, I go to him running.’” (Bukhari)
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Sister, you are standing a cross road, one path will lead you far from Allah, the other will lead you to Allah. If this man refuses to consider and accept Islam, he will be continue to be haraam for you. If you take the path away from Allah, you will be happy at first, but will end up feeling immense pain as eventually you will have to face the consequences of your actions. But if you take the path towards Allah, you will feel some pain and maybe some depression for a while as you will feel the gap of the man you want to marry. But eventually you will experience the sweetness of your sacrifice.
May Allah help you through this trial.
SisterZ
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
You know Habiba I am married to a non Muslim man and have 3 children my step son and 2 daughters. Our life is a big test and everything in life we have is with Gods will if he wants us to marry a non muslim then it will be it we won't get the otherway . Allah is great and generous everything is under his command be thankful for everything he granted you with.