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My best friend has a relationship with a boy

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Assalamu alaikum. I have a close friend who is so dear to me. She was talking with a guy who is in a city far away from ours. He recently proposed to her and I have advised her not to respond to him because its haraam. But she didn't heed to my advice. They have met only for 3 times and they came to know each other only through facebook and phone contacts I am so afraid that she is in a wrong path and I want Allah to guide her. Both of them are only 18 years old. That guy has promised her that he will ask for her hand to her dad after 5 years. She's trusting him completely but I don't believe this guy. Please help me to guide her. She's angry with me now coz we had a fight because of this 🙁

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  1. MasAllah your really mature and I would love to have you has my friend.

    One question comes to me is why the 5 years to ask for her hand in marriage. Why not ask now before committing more haraam sins. Or is it just to see how far this haraam relationship goes if this is the case then I seriously think this girl needs to wake up before its too late. I wouldnt trust social network sites either and I dont trust this person either espcially how they been meeting behind their parents back. I would advise her politely and if she listens good and if she doesnt then TELL HER PARENTS thats what I would do.

    TELL YOUR FRIEND not to trust any guy before marriage its not worth risking anything especially family respect and not to mention your own respect. If this guy really wants her then best to go through the parents and no parents deserve a child doing stuff behind there back.

    • I have a relationship with a hindu boy since very long..now i am getting pregnant what should i do now. should i merry to him?

      • He will need to convert to Islam
        Muslim women cannot marry anyone other than a muslim
        You should keep the baby and marry him. BUT he will need to convert from hindu to muslim.

      • your name is as our nabi's daugther fatima r.a. how you did that sister even with hindu guy...perform salatul toba for your sin daily and salatul hajat to convert him in islam and marry him....

    • Jazakallah khair sis for advicing me.i told her to think about what she's doing but she's blindfolded right now.may ALLAH guide her to the right path.sorry for replyin too late.

  2. I find myself in a similar situation unfortunately. My advice would be to say to her, listen, let's not throw away our friendship over this, I've said my piece and you've said yours, so let's end the conversation here. Tell her you don't want to hear about her boyfriend but don't end your friendship with her, continue to see her and talk to her as normal. The reason why I say this is for several reasons, one is that you've done your duty as a friend and as a Muslim and advised here, but she is an adult and is responsible for her own choices, so this is really the best you can do. Two is that by staying friends with her but refusing to listen to her talk about this man, you present a continuous reminder that you've warned her about doing this haram thing. Third is that when you stay good friends, you don't isolate her from the people who make good decisions in her life, and hopefully if things escalate she can come to you about that, and you can advise her again and support her. This is what I am doing and inshallah it is the right thing.

    • Jazakallah khair.. In sha Allah I'll do as you told.include her in your duas.

    • Sis/bro..am a female nd i don't want her to fall in any trouble.she's my best friend.jazakallah khairan fr advicing me.include her in your duas 🙂

  3. first of all i would like to tell you here that friendship between a girl and a boy is haraam in Islam. this is kinda double standard you are showing here in guiding the girl that the relationship is haram before marriage on the other hand you are still friends with her?
    please dont try to use Islam as an excuse for your personal interest.
    whatever you have told us, from that i can only guess that you like the girl or may be just getting jealous of the boy because she is your best friend and you cant stand anyone between you and her but my dear one day she has to get married what would you do then?
    you told her that she is not doing good your job is now over, you cannot force anyone, its about telling someone that it can lead to a major sin if she is not agreeing with you then dont force her and my brother please cut off with her as Islam do not allow friendships with the opposite gender non mahram.

  4. I have a relationship with a hindu boy since very long..now i am getting pregnant what should i do now. should i merry to him?

    • Fatima, you cannot marry a Hindu. It is forbidden in Islam. He must convert to Islam, then you can marry him.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. Jazakallah khair sis for advicing me.i told her to think about what she's doing but she's blindfolded right now.may ALLAH guide her to the right path.pls do make dua for her.

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