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My brother beats me and no one cares

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Mera bhai mjhe bht mnarta hai hai n meri ami usay kch nai kehti wo ye nai dekhta k main baehn hn kahin lag laga na jaye dande se laaton se agr koi b chhoti moti bt pe main kch zabaan chala jaon to us pe mjhe maar parti ia hai bachpan se se main bht pareshan hn abi b meri ek hath ki haddi fractured hai n kisi ko tars nai ataa dil karta hai door chali jaon kahin pls bataen main kya karon kya sief parents k huqooq hain??? aulaad kj kuch nai???

Translated by Editor, from Urdu to English as:

My Brother beats me alot. My mother doesnt say anything to him. He beats me with a stick and kicks me, even if I say the smallest thing. This has been going on since my childhood and I am very upset about this. Just recently, a bone in my hand has been fractured due to the beatings and no-one feels sorry for me. I feel like just going away some far. Please tell me what to do. Do parents only have rights? Do children have no rights at all?

~Iqra Shabbir


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  1. Salaam Iqra

    I feel very sad to hear your story, you do have rights! Can you not get help from a family member or family friend.

    Pray to Allah(swt) every night before you go to sleep for help in this situation, cry in front of your Lord and have yakeen. Inshallah he will find a baithar raasta for you ameen x

  2. DEAR IQRA SHABBIR,
    ASSALAMALAIKUM,
    FIRST WANT TO KNOW FROM WHICH COUNTRY YOU ARE FROM AS THERE MIGHT ME SOME NGO
    WHICH CAN COME TO YR RESCUE,PL INFORM THROUGH SOMEONE ELSE ABOUT THE VIOLENCE IN YOUR HOUSE LIKE SOME CONSIDERATE NEIGHBOURS OR FRIENDS SO THAT WHEN THE VIOLENCE TAKE PLACE THEY CALL AND SEND THE CONCERNED AUTHORITY AND ONCE THEY WITNESS IT THEY WILL WARN HIM AND THAT WILL MAKE HIM SACRED BECAUSE HE CANNOT ACT ON HIS OWN THERE IS LAW FROM ALLAH AND ALSO LAW OF THE LAND AGAINST VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN.

    THIS IS THE BEST WAY OUT TO TEACH THEM A LESSON AND MEND THEIR WAYS.

    REST ALLAH WILL HELP YOU SETTLE DOWN.

    REGARDS

  3. I am sorry to hear that,hum do sisters aur aik bahi hain.I was suffering with same thing like you....kisi b baat pay zuban drazi pay mera b mn krta tha k khain door chali jaun even pass parents b tamasha dekhtay rehtay thay........ya suicide kr loon.kuch smjh nahi ata tha meray pass to copmuter b nahi tha k kisi say mashwara he kr loon.
    fir maine sirf khud ko bnaya khud pr dheyan dia shadi shuda hai wo aj b same hai pr mai bdal gye hun hum dond sisters ko us k honay ya na honay say koi farak nahi prta.....aaj wo akela hai aur mai khush hun apni life mai.
    aap khud ko change kr lo aisi bn jao k survive krnay k liyea kisi ki zarorat na pray.zuban pay zip lga lo koi kuch b khay muskura do apna aim samnay rkho zindagi mai agay brho.......ruko mt
    aur kbi kisi mard ya saheli say bahir apna dukh share mt krna duniya faida uthati hai aur muh kholay bethi hai.
    AGAY BRHO LAKEN IZZAT SAY.
    positive rho replace negative thoughts with positives.
    I you want to cantact me personally see my email
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  4. Wow marsallah I feel sorry for you, is really sad to go threw this with your brother that is so mean. Your parents should say something to him about beating you like that. Do you have relatives you can ask them for help? I mean like the above said pray to Allah that is the only thing you can do.

  5. I have one also..hes much younger than me but still beats me whenever i tell the truth. And nobody dies nything to control him. My whole anger goes to my mom because she does nothing. Im a university student with degree and outside everything seems normal but everyone in the house is misbehaving with me and they like to put me down. Its funny for outsiders to say pray for God. Im an emotional wreck and sorry but over 12 yearss have passed. Nothing ever changes and u cant escape ur family because afterwards u dont have any identity left.

  6. don't believe in god he isnt real. my family is muslim yet when something happens (my brother verbally and physically beats me ) he then blames me. i cant decide to kill him or kill my self just dont believe in god he aint real he aint ever gonna help people like us and when you can run run run as far from these lives we lead okay.?

    • sinan, sorry to hear about your situation. However, it has nothing to do with Allah or Islam. Islam teaches people to respect others and treat them kindly. What your brother is doing is wrong.

      You should neither kill your brother nor yourself. Follow your own advice. When you are able, move out of the house and live on your own.

      Denying your Creator, who gave you life and the ability to choose your own path, will not help you. Allah is certainly real, and He helps people every day, in countless ways. I hope that one day, when you are removed from this toxic situation, you will see that.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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