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My dad is abusive and a cheater

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Salam alaykom,

I have a major problem in my household. My parents also argue/fight. In our case my dad is a cheater and cheats and when my mom says why you cheated, he says it's not your business. He is very abusive. I have developed anxiety and depression.

So the other day after jummah he fought my mom, and she was crying, and saying why are you doing this. So I felt very bad for my mom, I just gave him a warning, that I will call the police, I know I shouldn't have said that but, I couldn't handle it it's way too much !!! So after he ran after me to hit me. I have no idea, I feel someone did jadoo, but Allah swt knows.

sameera1


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  1. OP: So the other day after jummah he fought my mom, and she was crying, and saying why are you doing this. So I felt very bad for my mom, I just gave him a warning, that I will call the police.... My parents also argue/fight. In our case my dad is a cheater and cheats and when my mom says why you cheated.

    Police can't do much, unless your father abuses your mother physically. Your mother should tell your dad she will leave him if he does not stop cheating. What proof your mother has about your dad cheating with other women?

  2. sameera1, As-salamu alaykum,

    It's unfortunate that your living situation is so difficult. But it's not your problem to solve. You are the child, not the parent. It's your mother's responsibility to do what is best for herself in this situation. Do not insert yourself between them.

    Instead, I suggest that you try to remove yourself from the situation as much as possible. Spend your time at school, or with your friends. When you are at home, study in your room. I know it will not solve the problem of your father's behavior, but the best you can do right now is to minimize your own stress and depression.

    Wael
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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