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My fiancé wants me to get an abortion

Aborting a child is not only socially or morally wrong but also haram in Islam unless practised for right reasons

I know we sinned but only one time. We have been engaged for two years and planned on marrying in one or two years, but I fell pregnant. My fiancé says the baby is a mistake and we can have other children after we marry. I would like us to marry before the baby is born.


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  1. Assalam alaikum,

    Dear Sister,

    The decision to keep this child is yours as it is your body--not your fiancee. Why should the child have its life ended because it doesn't fit your life's timeline? This is one grave sin upon another grave sin.

    You have written: "...but only one time" But this one time of having an abortion will the end all for your child--so one time is sufficient when it is the end. Instead of rationalizing the mistake, accept that it was a huge error, accept the consequences, have this child and tell your fiancee that you cannot consider ending the life. If he threatens to leave you--who would want to stay with such a person on the rough road of life anyways?

    On one hand is your life with this man...on the other hand is your child's life in your hands...if you want the best for yourself, you'll have to begin by doing the best for the very precious, innocent and beautiful life inside of you.

    Please make the right decision.

    I do not envy your difficult decision regardless of your responsibility in this matter. I pray that Allah swt gives you the strength and endurance to choose the best and to not compound your first error. Ameen.

  2. Salam Sister,

    I completely agree with Sister Saba, she said it all. Tthe decision is yours and the baby is with you. Protect her/him, do not abort. What stop you going to get marry now? To admit both of your mistakes in front of the family is hard and maybe shameful. They will understand. Go do a simple registration and a nikah.

  3. If you want marriage you need to tell him. You should keep the baby its your body not his. Having sex before marriage has consequences and he should be man enough to face this. What did he think would happen?. You need to put your foot down and stand up to him and TELL HIM two years is long enough to be waiting for marriage! Repent for your mistakes I know its difficult for you but your child doesn't need to be aborted and I dont agree with abortions.

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