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My husband has cheated… even during our miscarriage

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I am married for four years. I had love marriage and I know my husband for 8 years. I have had 2 miscarriages and no baby.

I captured my husband's cheating two years before. I got that he texts with some girl and meet her once( assured meeting only one but it can be more Allah knows beter) than he made exuses to me first even he laid his hand on quran and told lies. But when I gave him proof then he apologized to me very much and promise me that he will not do this again.

As time passes I had bad pregnancy for 3 months and horrible miscarriage. I laid rest for some months at my parents house. He frequently come and recently I found that he had affair since my pregnancy again. When I was praying so hard for his baby's life he was sinning with other woman. I think this miscarriage was punishment for him but I suffered it too. I have a message record of his affair of six months. When he realise that I know, my family knows, then he comes again to apologize to me very hard.

It's been a week but I did not come in front of him. I am very disheartened. This time I think that he had physical relation also. I had also some six sense warnings long before but I always ignored those warnings and always trusted him. I even trusted him after proof.

Should I leave him? Or wait for him to be better person? Or forgive him? But I doubt that he will do it again. Please reply... I am very miserable and after help of Allah I want to seek people's opinion too...

ghz


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  1. Salaam Hun, really sorry for the pain your going through. I've been through the same kind of experience but my husband didn't feel any remorse. I know it's painful, but sister from experience I would say leave him and try to move on with your life. He's cheated repeatedly - he has no respect for you, himself or the marriage. He has no fear of God. He will continue the same sin over and over again but will become better at hiding it from you. Also I'm very sorry about the miscarriages but their a blessing in a disguise, at least you won't have any children trying you to him. Get rid of him, even if he apologises and begs you now, he will most likely repeat the same behaviour again.

  2. i think you and your husband should go to a marriage counseler

  3. Salaam alakum sister

    im soo sorry to hear off ur terrible misscarriages anyway i cant tell u wat to do all i can do is say few things let u truly think on it

    You need to think long and hard about everything i dnt knw alot off islamic things to say to you as im still learning about islamic faith i hve entered

    Anyway firstly

    You lost alot babies to this guy ur husband children also

    Allah does things in weird ways but i feel its a blessing but painful one also best that u dnt hve children with this man as if u continue you will end up with ur babies involved in a break up

    He is heartless guy no excuse at all very heartless all sorrys are empty words if he meant it he wudnt repeat same mistakes

    Also he doesnt fear allah one bit to keep repeat it over and over

    One advise i will say is

    Do u really wanna be keeping eye on ur husband all tym and mean be on ur guard all tym

    Second piece off advise is this

    Leapord never changes his spots never

    Do whats best for u even if he begs and aplosigizes

    And when dog sleeps with dogs u always catch flees so go get ur self checked over make sure ur healthy

  4. OP: I got that he texts with some girl and meet her once( assured meeting only one but it can be more Allah knows beter) than he made exuses to me first even he laid his hand on quran and told lies. But when I gave him proof then he apologized to me very much and promise me that he will not do this again.

    -He lies while keeping his hand on the quaran? meaning he gave a false oath on the Quran

    -How can you trust his promises? if he takes false oaths on the quran, how do you think he can keep a promise to a human.

    -He has no idea what he has done, this is Blasphemy to the highest degree. Leave him , you do not want to associate yourself with someone like this

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