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My husband use this frequently “myri taraf say tum farig ho”

What does that mean?aslam o alaikum

my husband use this sentence frequently: "myri taraf say tum farig ho" - whenever he is in bad mood or when we fight on any topic.

then after changing of mood he apologizes ....what does it means ?...kia aisay mayn divorce ho gae?

- marinagull

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  1. Walaikum assalam,
    For such issues, you should contact a Mufti.

    I think, the ruling is that since he didnt use the Divorce word explicitly so you have to ask your husband if he intended to divorce or not.

    Again, please ask a mufti for further clarification.

  2. Assalam Alaikum. This is one of the hardest things for me in Islam. My husband has made those comments to me too over the years. I am afraid to even ask anyone if this qualifies as divorce. I do not know but I often find myself wondering if it is still halal for me to be with this man. He often does comment that he is a good man that is why he does not leave. But from what I understand, that if a man says even indirectly, like you are saying, sister, then the marriage is over. I have to say that the western way of doing it certainly does not leave room for any doubt. I wonder how many women are out there, like you and me, who don't know where we stand and if we are in a haraam relationship even though our families think we are married and everything is okay.
    Please let me know what you learn from the Mufti. May Allah make it easier for you and guide us all towards the right path. Ameen.

  3. OP: my husband use this sentence frequently: "myri taraf say tum farig ho" - whenever he is in bad mood or when we fight on any topic....then after changing of mood he apologizes ....what does it means ?...kia aisay mayn divorce ho gae?

    Can mean you are free to do anything. Why not let him "win" the fights? What do you fight about most of the times?

  4. Assalaamualaykum Marinagull,

    It literally means "From my side, you are free." However, it doesn't sound like he really means it, because he apologizes right afterwards. You could just ignore that one thing if he is causing no other problems. Perhaps he just says that when he is angry. If you want to be direct, you could just ask him what he means by that next time he says it. He probably won't have the guts to even say what he means!

    And Allah knows best.

    Hugs,

    Nor

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