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Assalam u Alaikum,

I have two marriage proposals to consider.

One is from a nice family, my mother's friend vouched for the guy that he "grew up before her eyes," he is "good," and is also good Islamically. The second is from a guy I like who is also good-natured and trying to be a practicing Muslim now.

My mother favors the first one and I the second. After doing Istikhara, at first I thought there were some problems with the second proposal but they will get resolved in a day or two. He was going for a finance job, which is haram, but since I told him it is haram, he will now go for a cost management job.

Another thing: His mother was supposed to call mine for the proposal, but a relatives' problem arose that day so she called the next day. I don't know the details of the rest of his family or what goes on in their house, but it can be a sign of Istikhara. 

How can I make decision? I want to complete my MS degree--it's my dream--but the first proposal's family has some urgency and the second one doesn't, so I'm more inclined towards the second one as I know the guy and that they don't have urgency.

But, truthfully, after saying Istikhara, I don't know what to do.

Please advise me!