My parents think I’m too young to get married
I am 21 and I recently met a 25 year old guy. He likes me and told his family about me, and now they are ready to talk to my parents. But my parents think I am too young to get married. The guy is independent and somehow after I met him I feel like I have come closer to Allah, I really want to marry him and don't want to turn it into a haraam relationship. I don't have the guts to talk to my parents about it, there is a gap between us, and being the youngest I can't talk to anyone about it. Besides I have an elder cousin who isn't yet married and my family believes in proper sequence. This guy's family won't wait for long and I really don't want to lose him, he is a very pious guy. I am ready to accept what Allah wishes but I really don't want things to go wrong here 🙁 please help
Ruhaab
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As salamun alykum...
sister ... u need to tell each n everything to ur mom ... ..
she will helps u...
🙂
Assalam wa Alikum
Please don't miss out on this chance you have to get married to someone who you think is good for you. However you must tell your parents as they are your guardian and they can really tell whether this guy is really good for you. Your parents know whether your character and his is a match and can find out if he can provide for you and whether he has a problem if you study or work. They can also find out if your in laws to be are good people that would look after you after marriage ect. Nobody is perfect but they will try to make sure that he and his family are not going to be difficult and that you have a happy marriage as possible.
I advice you to tell your parent with a list of positive things such as why getting married for you now is a good idea. They need to see you are grown up and serious about marriage. Yes you are young but not that young to get married. Maybe they fear your education would be effected if so prove to them it wont, maybe show them your disciplined in studying and getting good grades.
Please don't do the mistake of having a relationship before marriage with this guy as it is haram but it is ok to meet with him with your guardian and his so to get to ask questions and work out whether you two are a good match which I recommend.
I hope I helped
If you don't have the guts to tell your parents you want to get married, you will never get married.
Just do it.
Hello,
I recently gotten married, i am 29 and my wife is 19. We both understand each other very well, and love one another very well. And 21 is not a young age, this the best time for you to get married.