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Please, help me to avoid negative thoughts and acts.

Istighfar and Tawbah

Asking forgiveness from Allah

I am 2+ year old male unmarried, I have committed a sin. I have a negative attitude towards my maid servant. Today I hugged and kissed her which is not legal but I could not control myself sometimes. It is sin I know but it happened and I am feeling very much ashamed of myself.

What should I do now to get rid of my problem and I want to get help from Almighty Allah to get me out of this problem. Negative thoughts come to my mind and I can´t concentrate on my studies.

Please I did a sin I want forgiveness from Almighty Allah. please suggest me what should I do now so that Almighty Allah will forgive me and will never touch woman before my marriage and except my wife.

Moreover, what  should I do so that negative thoughts don't come into my mind and I can concentrate in my work and study.

Ornob

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  1. jst zikr a lot

  2. Assalamu alaykum Brother Ornob,

    Shaytaan becomes the guide and we the followers when we obey his whispers.

    But only Allah is our guide to Wise policy and He asks us to repent to Him immediately when we do anything wrong.

    Do ghusl, pray as much as you like, in your sujood, prostration, ask Allah for forgiveness.

    Do good deeds as they annul ill deeds.

    Allah says something about people who have done wrong:

    114. Establish worship at the two ends of the day and in some watches of the night. Lo! good deeds annul ill deeds. This is a reminder for the mindful. - Surah Huud.

    Also He says in Surah Furqaan:

    63. The (faithful) slaves of the Beneficent are they who walk upon the earth modestly, and when the foolish ones address them answer: Peace;
    64. And who spend the night before their Lord, prostrate and standing,
    65. And who say: Our Lord! Avert from us the doom of hell; lo! the doom thereof is anguish;
    66. Lo! it is wretched as abode and station;
    67. And those who, when they spend, are neither prodigal nor grudging; and there is ever a firm station between the two;
    68. And those who cry not unto any other god along with Allah, nor take the life which Allah hath forbidden save in (course of) justice, nor commit adultery and whoso doeth this shall pay the penalty;
    69. The doom will be doubled for him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide therein disdained for ever;
    70. Save him who repenteth and believeth and doth righteous work; as for such, Allah will change their evil deeds to good deeds. Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful.
    71. And whosoever repenteth and doeth good, he verily repenteth toward Allah with true repentance.
    72. And those who will not witness vanity, but when they pass near senseless play, pass by with dignity.
    73. And those who, when they are reminded of the revelations of their Lord, fall not deaf and blind thereat.

    Turn in true repentance, meaning you will not go back to the same sin again, Insha Allah and you deeply regret what happened and seek forgiveness from Allah.

    Read the Qur'an a lot and try to live it in your life in actions.

    May Allah help you and all of us and forgive our sins and accept our repentance. Verily ! Allah is the Forgiver of Sins, Acceptor of Repentance.

    Salaam,
    Your brother.

  3. As salamu alaykum, brother Ornob,

    There is a link on tawbah you will find on the top of the page, and there is some posts that may help you in your journey towards Peace, insha´Allah.

    http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/improved-concentration-prayer-avoid-zina/

    http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/dua-in-islam/the-power-of-dua/

    http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/dua-in-islam/

    This prayer was shared with us by a writer of the site, Stranger,

    It was narrated that Shakl ibn Humayd said: I came to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and said: “O Prophet of Allaah, teach me a prayer for refuge with which I may seek refuge.” He took my hand and said: “Say: ‘A’oodhu bika min sharri sam’i wa sharri baasri wa sharri lisaani wa sharri qalbi wa sharri maniyi (I seek refuge with You from the evil of my hearing, the evil of my sight, the evil of my tongue, the evil of my heart and the evil of my sexual desires),’” until I had memorized it.

    Brother Ornob, the deep guilt you are feeling is giving you anxiety, you have gone against your code of conduct and you are paying for it. Go to Allah(swt) in submission and look for refuge in Him(swt) from the whisperings of evil, listen to the Adhan, do your salat and pray to Allah(swt) in the most humble way your Heart allows you to do and you will see how this distractions will dissapear from your side, everytime you choose the straight way the evil shadows lose strength and cannot get so close to you, Alhamdulillah.

    Don´t punish yourself, fill your Heart with Humility and ask Allah(swt) for help and guidance, insha´Allah.

    Practice sports, keep yourself busy and marry if you can do it, insha´Allah.

    All my Unconditional Respect,

    María
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  4. dear Brother.

    please understand that allha is Rahmanu Raheem and he will forgive you. but please do not disclose your sin to anybody and ask forgiveness to allha.

    please remove your question to avoid seeing other people.

    regards / Shihabh

  5. I am scared of going out,hospital,movies i am having fear of death that i will go i will die i dont go out sometimes i feel like mere aang mein aa raha hain meri saas phul jaati hain like something will happen please give solution

    • Tasneem, you should see a licensed therapist or psychiatrist. It's likely that your fears are treatable through a combination of medication and therapy, and that you could live a normal life with treatment.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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  10. Us salaam waleykum same here negative thoughts always surrounded me.plss suggest any dua for avoiding it.

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