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I swore on Quran then broke my promise

Salam Alkum Brothers and Sisters,
I have done something that I swore by the Quran, that I wouldn't never do again, but I still do it. Then after I did it I swore again that I wouldn't do it, but then I still did it. I know that this time I will never do it again, but I feel like Allah doesn't love me, or trust me, or has forgiven me. And it has been horrible pain. Please someone help me. Thank you.

-NooreePrincessa


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  1. Salaams,

    We should not take lightly making an oath to Allah. It doesn't matter if we swear on Holy Qu'ran or just make a solemn oath to Allah. We are accountable to our promises, so it's vitally important that we only make such promises when we know we can keep them.

    That being said, feeling like you can keep an oath should never be a basis for which to make one. Feelings are unreliable and transient, and a majority of choices we make in them will cause us regret. You made an oath the first time, then broke it. At that point, you should've thought more than twice before making the same oath again. Yet you did, and you broke it again. When it comes to such a serious thing as making an oath to Allah, you have to take feelings out of the equation. You have to ask yourself, "What are the chances I will break this oath?" If your past experience shows that you have already broken an oath or crossed bounds in this area, then the chances are already too high that it could happen again. Good intentions for being obedient will suffice without making another broken oath.

    Yet what's done is done, and now you have to work through the consequences. In the Qu'ran it states:

    Allah does not take you to task for your inadvertent oaths, but He will take you to task for oaths you make intentionally. The expiation in that case is to feed ten poor people with the average amount you feed your family, or clothe them, or free a slave. Anyone without the means to do so should fast three days. That is the expiation for breaking oaths when you have sworn them. Keep your oaths. In this way Allah makes His Signs clear to you, so that hopefully you will be thankful. (Surat al-Ma'ida, 89)

    If you want to reconnect your relationship with Allah, make tawbah and complete the outlined expiation. Resolve yourself that you will go forward in obedience and not engage in the acts which you swore you wouldn't. Not only that, resolve that you will never again take such oaths. There is no penalty in living your life without making any formal oaths to Allah; in fact it's better than living a life of taking many oaths that end up broken.

    -Amy
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • sir i take oath on quran to do not bet again but i did it again and again after 4 to 5 months and i fear too much now from Allah almighty what i done 🙁 i read about kuffara i am going to pay that kuffara ... but i am still fearing from Allah that what mistake happened by me intentionally 🙁 .. took oath on supreme holy book Quran... but my bit bit tension release and i committed my self to die but no do again such bad thing in my life again ... may Allah bless all

    • assalam o alaikum

      HEY GUYS I HAVE TAKE AN OATH TO QURAN THAT I WILL NEVER SMOKE AGAIN AND I AM ADDICTIDE OF IT SO IS THERE ANY WAY TO GET RID OF THIS OATH PLEASE TELL ME

      • Assalaamualaikam

        Please read the advice already given.

        Midnightmoon
        IslamicAnswers.com editor

      • Assalmualikum warahmatullahiwabarakatuhu ,
        I wanted to ask that i made two promises to Allah and i didn’t break it but removed it so that i dint break it so what should i do next like how should i proceed further?

    • Salaam alayikum,

      I would like to respectfully post that I don't quite agree with the response made by the website. Sometimes, a person might make an oath to Allah as a safeguard against the evil of their own self in order to try to correct their behavior and create a barrier to it. Then, if they happen to carry through, that is commendable. If they don't, then a poor soul out there in the world will receive the benefit of being fed for at least ten days, or clothed, or the person will get the benefit of mandatory fasting for God's sake. Therefore, I think it is better to make ten oaths and break them (not intentionally, of course) than to not make any oath at all, and not receive the benefits that come with either outcome.

    • salam sisters and brothers I am in great trouble I took oath that iw ill not talk to my boyfriend and not lie to my parents and not to open facebook account but I broke the promise and my mom said that you will not make relation with other boys but I talk with my cousin and he loves me and I opened the facebook what should I do please tell me to take my oath back like I want to leave the oath I fasted today was my first day what should I do please do tell me please

      • i have the same problem i still dnt break my oath but i wnt to talk to him i took oath taht i will not talk to him but i want to talk it was not intentionally meri niyat nhi thi zbrdasti mjse promise liya gya ye kah ke ke wo mar dain gy mjy btayn mai kya krun????
        Allah does not take you to task for your inadvertent oaths, but He will take you to task for oaths you make intentionally. The expiation in that case is to feed ten poor people with the average amount you feed your family, or clothe them, or free a slave. Anyone without the means to do so should fast three days. That is the expiation for breaking oaths when you have sworn them. Keep your oaths. In this way Allah makes His Signs clear to you, so that hopefully you will be thankful. (Surat al-Ma'ida, 89)
        according to this Allh will not take me to mine inadverant oathh and it is inadverantt
        what shuold i do
        plz suggeest meee

  2. assalamalaikum. I read ur post of not breaking promise take on Quran.
    I took an oath that I would never watch porn again but watched it for 2 or 3 seconds and closed it immediately. I read about the kaffara and closed the window of porn for fear of Allah. Did i break my promise, do i still have to pay the kaffara.

    Jazakallah khair

    • abdullah, I think that's up to you to decide. Do you feel you broke your oath? Be honest. If the answer is yes, then you did. If not, then ma-sha-Allah, it's okay, just don't do it again.

      By the way, I think it's great that you have managed to break this pernicious habit.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • jazakallah khair. I felt i broke the promise because while opening the page i remembered about your previous comments to the question regarding kaffara..it was not more than 3 seconds but i did intentionally.

        My question is how do i stop myself in future. My iman fluctuates very easily. I pray regularly but when i'm on off from my work, i tend to go towards this activities. After taking oath, ive alhumdolillah stopped many times but don't know what hapnd at that point of time. After Ramzan with out any oath, i was alhumdolillah very easily sucessful in stopping myself from songs and movies but this new thing came in my life..Help..i want to change myself.. U ppl are doing a great job..may Allah s.w.t help u in every aspect of life and grant sucess in duniya and hear after. ameen.

      • Asslam alekum wa rahmatullahi barkatohu,

        Sorry for writing my comment here on other post but I don't have a way to talk to brother wael.

        Yes you have did right thing to close my post (Link) its means that Allah SWT not want to help me or my be Allah SWT knows I am on wrong path and because of that I am never get any kind of help from anybody, like related to this website brother/sister, my family, my family relatives, my friends no one with my side. every things which I have try to do to overcome my problems it's gone far and far away may be yes all of them right and I am wrong.

        May be Allah SWT not want this, then who I am to make this possible, and if he wants then its happen without struggle of me.

        But before closing my post you have to just inform me about this. I want to thank many people who try to give me right suggestion to overcome this situation. and help me and protect me doing any kind of mistakes, shirk, kufr, Gunaah. Inshaallah Allah SWT gives many swaab for that to my brothers/sisters and Always protect us from going wrong direction and Always with us to guide on proper path siraatemustakim.

        Rabbana aatina fiddunyaa hasanata wa fil aakihrati asanata wa qinaa adaaban naar.O Lord, give us good in this world and good in the hereafter, and save us from the torment of fire.

        Allah Hafiz.

        • misterx, i closed your post because you received plenty of help, and it's time to devote our resources to others. If you want to immerse yourself in self-pity that's up to you, but don't put it on Allah (SWT). And don't put it on us.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • Asslam alekum wa rahmatullahi barkatohu,

            no brother I don't want to prove anything to anybody who I am because I know that I am nothing only Allah Servant, and may be any kind of my frustration or small amount of knowledge my words show you what I don't know. but if I am any where wrong then I apologies and Allah SWT also forgive me.

    • As salaam allailum,
      Yes you have to pay for it. And take medicine to get out of the depression and don't do it. Moreover please stay away from those thing which can lead you towards that path again.keep the wallpaper of the name of Allah . Add the plugin of 'porn terminator' to your browser.attend the sallah regularly.dont sleep late in the night if You don't have any important work to do. Keep the dhikr of 'astagfirullah' whenever yu feel that you are going to commit the crime. Attend the 2 rakaah of tahajjud in the middle of night or after isha .Keep the receiting this dua 'allahumma tabbitni waja-alni hadiyam mahdiyya.Inshaallah you'll be forgiven.
      As salaam allailum.

  3. assalamalaikum..could you please elaborate on kaffara for breking oath on quran..i read the above post but its not clear. I have to feed 10 ppl but is it for one time or two meals. I read at some other place that i have to feed twice..two meals..please reply quickly so that i can get rid of the tension and be on track once again.

    • Wa Alaikum as Salam brother Abdullah,

      I'll mention what Shaikh Abdul Azeez bin Baaz Rahimahullah said about feeding the 10 masakin and the other forms of expiation if you break an oath:

      If a Muslim who reaches the age of Taklif (meeting the conditions holding one legally accountable for actions) repeatedly and intentionally swears by Allah to do/quit doing something, such as to swear by Allah not to visit/visit someone, then breaks the oath; Kaffarah (expiation) of an oath is due, which entails feeding ten Masakeen (needy persons), clothing them, or emancipating a bondsman.
      As for feeding, it is obligatory to offer half a Sa`(1 Sa` = 2.172 kg) of any local staple food such as Tamr (dried dates), rice or the like. This quantity is equivalent to approximately one and a half kilos.
      Clothing is fulfilled by giving any garment with which a person can offer Salah (Prayer), such as a shirt or a garment and Izar (garment worn below the waist).

      If a person is unable to offer any of these three alternatives, they must fast for three days, for Allah (Glorified be He) states:

      Allâh will not punish you for what is unintentional in your oaths, but He will punish you for your deliberate oaths; for its expiation feed ten Masâkîn (poor persons), on a scale of the average of that with which you feed your own families, or clothe them or manumit a slave. But whosoever cannot afford (that), then he should fast for three days. That is the expiation for the oaths when you have sworn. And protect your oaths (i.e. do not swear much).

      (taken from Darul Ifta, Saudi Arabia website)

      I hope it is now clear

      Muhammad Waseem
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  4. Asalam-o-alai kum, i have read your post about kaffara for breaking oath on Quran. My problem is that my husband is very skeptical (shaki) person. he does not trust anyone so I had taken an oath on Quran that I will share everything with him and never hide anything from him. Now it is getting difficult for me to share everything. My question is that if I fast for three days as kaffara, will this oath end or I have to continue it again as I do not know how many time I have broken this oath. I want to finish this oath so what should I do?

    • Mrs Shoaib, please log in and write your question as a separate post, and give us more details about the situation. For example, what does it mean to "share everything" with your husband? And what kinds of things do you not want to share?

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. I make a promise to my boy friend that i wil not date any other person except him, but later found myself dating another person and i love him than the first one.wil i be free and continue with the second person if i do what is stated above.

    • Barakat, we do not have boyfriends and girlfriends in Islam. Both of these relationships you have had are disapproved and wrong. You should stop these relations and look for halal marriage instead.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  6. Ok thank you. If i decide not to marry the man i made promise with and marry the man i did not promise and i did what Allah has said in the Quran for breaking promise, hope i wil be free.

  7. Assalam o alaikum!!

    I need help regarding a mistake I did in past.

    I swore to Allah that I'll do something in future but couldn't fulfill my promise completely. It's like I unsuccessfully tried to keep the promise. I'm in a really bad position at the moment, i'm struggling hard...... very hard... but unable to succeed.
    It's my perception that i'm facing these problems because I didn't fulfill the promise.

    Should I pay kaffara to seek forgiveness or is it just a normal thing to face problems in general?

    • Tasmiyah, the Messenger of Allah (sws) said, "Surely deeds are according to intentions." It sounds like you intended to keep your oath, but were unable. Is it possible to still fulfill it? If not, then you tried, and that's what counts. As for your struggles, who knows. It could be that Alalh is testing you, or that Allah desires to strengthen you and reward you for your sabr. You should not interpret struggle as a punishment. Allah knows best.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Dear Brother

        Can you guide me as well as this thing is eating me

        Its regarding breaking the promise/taken oath/vow- i took on my 'eemaan' that i would never be on any social or other networking site- to prove my loyalty to the man i loved (i am out of that relationship now)

        But now I feel that since I was in a haram relationship, the promises given to him turn to be invalid and if I am seeking Islamic guidance/knowledge or trying to help a Muslim brother/sister in the light of Islam (like on this site) , then there is nothing wrong about it. But I am not sure about it.
        Am i right or should i have to pay any Kaffara for this?

        Please help me in light of Islam. Jazakallah khairan

  8. a.o.a...

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  9. Hello brothers and sisters I need help. About a year or two ago I had been cought smoking and I was about 12. I usually never do things like that I always try and be good. So I swore to my mom that I would swear to Allah that I wouldn't smoke again. About a year later I had done this stupid thing again. I'm always scared that I won't earn forgiveness and will go to hell daily I ask for forgiveness of my sins. I'm now 14 and this is haunting me please help me, thank you

    • As-salamu alaykum Ali. Just make your tawbah again and do not smoke again. It's a bad habit - very bad for your body and brain. TV and movies make it look cool, but it's simply nasty. Don't worry, Allah is forgiving and merciful. So don't be too hard on yourself for past mistakes.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Salam Ali Alhassan. First you didn't have to Smoke In 12 years old age cause you are so young. And Second is that never break your promise which you did with your parents. And Allah Always forgive to people. Allah is Ghaforor Rahim

  10. Hi I swore on gods name that I wouldn't speak to someone any more. I basically said "Wallahi I'm never speaking to you again and if I do I'm crazy" I didn't mean it I was just speaking out of anger. What will happen if I speak to them again

  11. AssalamuAlykom... Im very for such sin that I had made even after making a promise to Allah that I will never do it again but I did it .. and I was trying to stop me but shaytan lead me to do such sin and im regretting .. I cried and prayed to Allah for forgiveness and one last chance so I can keep my promise again.. the question is
    Do i have to pay kaffara?
    I read breaking a promise to Allah is a sin and we have to offer Kaffar but I cant do the first few kaffaras like feeding,clothes and money cause im still a teenager and barely get satisfied of my pocket money as its not enough but I cant fast for three days .. its ramadan and can I do kaffara by fasting in ramadan ? or I have to fast separately? ..

  12. salamualikum brother i am very stressed out i have made oaths one saying i will never watch porn and the other i will never masturbate i have done both, masturbating and porn are similar so my first question is how many kafaras do i pay my second question is i am 14 years old i do not get pocket money so can i just fast for three days in a row i am still young and a idiot i have done tawbah for a week please awnser me jazakallah

    • ninja, we've answered many questions about masturbation and pornography. Please search our archives. As far as kaffara for breaking an oath, read the answers already given on this post.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • but mine is slightly diffrent can i please get an awnser im stressing out crazzzyyy

      • Meri ek friend ne quran ki kasam khae
        Uske mummy ke samne
        Ki wo uske boyfriend se baat nai karegi
        But usne wo kasam tod di
        Maine upar k msgs padhe
        Mera question yeh hai ki
        Kya mae meri friend jagah par kaffara(roza, 10 miskeen ko khana khilan, ya koi gareeb ko kapde dena
        Kya mae karsaktiyu
        Plz brother wael help me

        • I don't understand Urdu, sorry.

          Wael
          IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • Her friend made an oath on the quran telling her mother she wont talk with her boyfruend. But she broke the promise. She has to make kaffara. Fast, feed 10 poor people or clothes to the poor. What should she do?

          • The method of the expiation of an oath has been mentioned by Allah Most High in the following verse:

            “For expiation, feed ten poor persons, on a scale of the average for the food of your families; or clothe them; or give a slave his freedom. If that is beyond your means, fast for three days. That is the expiation (kaffara) for the oaths you have sworn.” (al-Ma’ida, 89)

            Freeing a slave is irrelevant in our times (unless you live in certain African countries). So she should feed ten people, or clothe them. If she cannot, then she should fast three days.

            Wael
            IslamicAnswers.com Editor

          • Translation is as per Ahmed however in addition basically Samreen is asking can she do the kaffara of those things in place of her friend who actually broke the promise.

          • But wael, how can we expatiate an oath that is not even a valid oath? It is absolutely haram to swear by the Quran. All Muslim scholars say this. So the oath in itself is not even valid. So how can you expatiate it?

  13. I have taken oath of Quran Shareef not to do zina but I have broken it please help me out .
    What should I do now

  14. khaja, read the answers already given on this post.

    Wael
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  15. AoA. I'm in a very hard situation and I really need a exact solution of my problem. I made an oath to Quran about something swore to never to do it again. Still I have kept my promise but I feel lianke its very hard for me now.I want to know how can I cancel my oath I mean I know Quran is not an ordinary book thats something which shakes me off to the fear of Allah and maybe thats the reason I'm still working hard to keep it yet I don't want this sin thats why I'm asking how to cancel my oath in islamic point of view. I don't want to be a gunnahgar i request to give me accurate ans. Please.

    • Jannat, if the oath was to avoid something haram, then you should stick to it. If not, then you can break it and perform kaffarah (expiation).

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  16. I don't want to break it. Is there any other solution apart from this? Something that saves me breaking my promise and my wish is also fulfilled.

  17. Assalamulaikum. .. I liked someone in my relative n he to... bt my parents were against so my dad askd me to take oath of quran not to b wit him any more but I broke it and now itz nt possible to leave him.... my dad wil agree for our mariage bt hes just scared of this oath that I had taken... please give me some solution for this so that there wil b no problem in future. .. and I can marry him... please help me

  18. Hi, um i took an oath to Allah that i wont talk to someone cuz my parents told me to take an oath .. I was keeping my promise but i accidentally, without knowing texted that person and then realized i texted him when i took an oath and i did wrong by breaking, i mean it was accidental. What do i have to do? My parenrs have money but i dont work. Do i need to do kaffarah ? I accidentally broke the oath

  19. Can I take oath on Qur'an that I didn't do a particular act when I did that in reality to protect house of my sister... Looking for quick replies thanks in advance

  20. Salam Alakum, I wanted to ask, if you swear in your head (not speaking aloud),and didnt mean it, does it still count? Please help it's scaring me alot and I don't know what to do.

  21. My mom made me swear on the quran to never smoke again, but i didnt do/say it with an intention, i just did it so she can stop lecturing me about it

    Im an addict, and im craving ciggs and i dont know what should i do?

    what will happen if i broke that oath?

  22. Hello
    My mom made me promise and swear on the Quran to never smoke, and stayed after me until i have done it, i finally did it to get her off my shoulders but i didn't have the intentions to quit. but im an addict and i can't not smoke, its been a couple of days and im already craving a cigg and the urge is strong, what should i do?
    what would happen if i broke that promise?

  23. Salam,
    I have a question.
    I have made a promise with my friend to not tell our combine secret to any other person. but i tell it to my best friend later. now do i have to give kaffarah ?? Kindly reply me
    Jazak'Allah

    • If it was not an oath in the name of Allah then it does not require kaffarah, as far as I know. Just make tawbah to Allah.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

      • Sir i have made plenty promisses on Holy Quran and told Allah If i break these oaths please do not give such such things(keeping hand on Holy Quran).So i want to know is my oath valid? Because I want to break it up since not able to maintain, and if I break up will Allah swt will not grant those things which i mentioned during taking oath?

        And oath taken other than Allah is valid?

        please provide me a solution

  24. Salam. I said wallahi uddin but didnt mean to take an oath. do i have to do kaffarah. and my oath was on not to do with relugion rather it was to do with a game.
    this is also a serious question.
    jazakala
    salam

  25. I swear on my lover and on oath on quran that I won't watch bad things and won't do bad things. And I broker it wht should I do
    ....plzzz helpe

  26. Assalàmoalaikum,

    actually I took an oath that I won't use social media. But later I did by saying that I took back my words of not using the social media. I just wanted to know that can we do something like thàt or not .
    Can you please guide me .

  27. Aoa.. after an argument with my husband , .he made an oath on quran in anger...like he will remarry.... so will he have to abide by it or wat kafara v will want to give. it was in heat of the moment and in anger.im so worried
    ..

  28. i took my child oath but i have broken i realize that i am wrong so plz advise what should i do

  29. I've taken a oath on quran that I won't be drinking alcohol. But again I did. I feel bad. Can you please tellme a way out. With some refrence. Thank you.

  30. Salam,
    My friend made an oath in anger to not to talk to his sibling, he doesn't know what to do, he doesnt want to break the oath and be sinned what shal he do?

    • Since the oath is for something haram - it is forbidden to cut off family ties - he should break the oath and do kaffarah.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • When u take an oath u must fulfilled it, and anger is the bad habit, it is haram.
      But Allah is very merciful, he will forgive
      If he already broke his oath then he must feed 10 poor people or clothe them or free a slave or fast for 3 consecutive days

  31. Salaams
    Sincerely apologize for asking this question more than once, it's just that the question itself never really got answered.

    My parents made me say wallahi I won't self harm again, and I said wallah. I broke this oath maybe 2 or 3 times. Must I fast 3 consecutive days for each time I broke it? (Meaning 2 or 3 sets of three consecutive days)?

    Jazaalumullahu khayran to anyone who helps me

  32. Asalam o alikum.

    I want to ask that i like a guy and he likes me too we told home to get us married but my parents are against us as he is not of our caste. We tried everything to convince them nothing was working. And I wasn’t able to leave him either. My dad made me took an oath on Quran after all emotional blackmail now the guy is a mess amd so am i. I just stay online when he is talking or reply him with some kind of hint. Am i breaking my oath?

  33. When I was taking an oath I thought in my mind that I will keep this oath for about one month but I didn't said loudly and then after one month I complete my oath I want to know did I broke my oath ?

  34. My Friend Was Compulsive To Take And Vow Of Quraan While Placing Hand On Quran For Not To Talk To Me By Her Sister.. And My Friend Took An Vow So Now I Want To Know What Is Khaffara Of This Vow..We Want To Talk Again.. Need A Kind Of 100% Solution..

  35. Assalamualaikum,
    Sir
    I swear to allah and want a wish from allah but now I don't want that wish to fulfilled.

  36. Assalam-o-alaikum

    My best friend forced me to take oath by keeping my hand on Quran & made me repeat oaths he want me to fulfill like for example he said "take oath that u won't use instagram" "swear to Quran that u will listen to me & if I say no to do something then u won't repeat it again" . I can't stand on a swear like this for my whole life because I want to get separated from him ,I can't spend my whole life so what should I do of I can't stand on a swear like this Plsss advice m worried alot.. Plss I want to end this oath here because in future I can't stand upon this tell me what should I do.

    • Shehzadi, if you were forced to do it then it is not valid.

      Wael
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

    • Shezadi: My best friend forced me to take oath by keeping my hand on Quran & made me repeat oaths he want me to fulfill like for example he said "take oath that u won't use instagram" "swear to Quran that u will listen to me & if I say no to do something then u won't repeat it again"

      You are not supposed to have a "he" best friend. Sooner or later it will change into some thing else. Why you want to get "separated" from your best friend.

      • I have took an oath by the Quran for not smoking cigarettes and I don't know what I'm going to do. I tried and tried and I kept breaking the oath but I want to stop but the cigarettes are not cigarettes, they are light cigarettes, is this for breaking an oath?

  37. Rae . Salams brother. I made an oath to Allah. That I would not do a certain act. I have not yet broken the oath yet I intend to. When making this oath I was high on drugs and not in the correct state of mind. Was it valid

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