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Oral sex during Ramadan?

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Is it permissible to give your boyfriend oral sex during Ramadan, while one is on menstruation?

- mundi


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  1. mundi,

    Perhaps your question was submitted as a joke? I don't know. It's hard to believe that any Muslim could be this ignorant of Islamic teachings.

    I will answer briefly:

    1. We do not have boyfriend and girlfriends in Islam. It is haram to have any physical contact with a man who is not your mahrem (grandfather, father, uncle, brother, son). What you are describing (performing oral sex on a man who is not your husband) is a serious sin. See our series on the sin of fornication and adultery.

    2. Even for a married couple, sexual contact is forbidden during the fasting hours in Ramadan. For an unmarried couple it is just compounding one major sin on top of another. One of our Editors selected the photo above, but I think it's not quite the right image because your sins here are not small, they are serious.

    It seems to me that you are far from an Islamic way of living. I advise you to read the Quran and study your religion to at least learn the basics, Insha'Allah.

    Wael Editor

    • salam aleykum bro wael

      thank you for your services in this forum

      however please exercise some more discretion regarding which posts to respond to. some, such as this do not deserve being dignified by a response, and why upset yourself and others by publishing what is evidently someone's idea of humour, but is actually rather offensive.

      After all these posts end up as new messages in our inbox so we have to take time to read them.

      thanks again



      • nardar, if it is a hoax or a joke then you're right, it's a waste of everyone's time. But what if it's real? In that case there's someone out there who's deeply confused and committing serious sins out of ignorance.

        Wael Editor

        • It is by of grace from God that you were gentle with them. Had you been harsh, hardhearted, they would have dispersed from around you. So pardon them, and ask forgiveness for them, and consult them in the conduct of affairs. And when you make a decision, put your trust in God; God loves the trusting.
          (Quran 3: 159)

          • It could also be that she is in contact with someone calling himself Muslim, and taking advantage of her ignorance.

            Allah knows best, and being patient and gentle in your response was the best thing to do.

          • Assalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

            I don't think it is a joke. She mentioned "while menstruating" because she knows sexual intercourse isn't allowed at that time.

            The rest comes later.

  2. Assalam. I dont think its a joke because she mentioned in ramadan which means she knows abot sex is haram during fasting. Some people are very ignorant about islam. I know some people that belive that if you cross the red sea to go to saudiarabia, then your marriage is broken and they get married again over there, and when you cross back, then your fomer marriage is back. SubhaAllah and Alhamdulillah. May we know more to be able to teach others. Ameen

  3. In islam can v(husband &wife) do oral sex is it permitted. If wife likes to have oral sex with husband she can do it or no

    • Assalaamualaikam

      There have been several questions asked on this subject - I'd advise reading the answers given there. If you need advice specific to a particular situation, please submit your question as a new post for publication, with (non-graphic!) additional information about the context of your question.

      Midnightmoon editor

  4. I think you should be open to answering any and all questions without closing up. That is why your children in your community are unable to discuss with you the questions they face without being criticised for asking. GOOD LUCK !

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