Parents are keeping me apart from my boyfriend and my faith
Muslim converts often face challenges from family and friends.
Asalamalaikum.
I am born as a hindu girl. For the past 2 years I am converted to islam since I met a person in my work place we were friends and love came between us and one relationship with him I came to know about islam and after that only I came to know about allah. I liked the religion and started following all like fasting, five times namaz etc.. My boyfriend he went to foreign country 5 months back and his family started looking alliance for him. and in my family also they are looking alliance for me.
Last month the place where I stay I lost my laptop and the lady who took it called to my parents and said I love a boy and converted to muslim all details so I lost my job since parents are not allowing. I am not able to do my namaz and all. My boyfriend also not ready to marriage me but I want him and I want islam. What you can do for this whether allah would help me. insha allah who ever ready please dua for my iman and nikka with my boy.
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Asalam alaikum sister,
It's a tough situation you are facing, so please forgive me if I seem too forward. You sound like a sweet, shy muslimah, and that is good. But right now is the time in your life that you need to stand up for yourself. There is nothing that can come between you and Allah swt, not even parents. On judgement day we will be questioned what we did and why we feared our parents, bosses, ect more than Allah. Respectfully tell your parents that you are a Muslim now and if they love you they will respect you as well.
As for the boyfriend, be careful, very careful. Alhamdulilah he has been physically removed from you so there is no Zina coming soon, but be careful what pictures you share and limit how you talk. Make istikhara and ask Allah to choose what is best for you, while you live your life normally. Please do not marry a hindu man, as this is haram for sweet, shy muslimahs. Instead go to your local mosque and ask the sisters how you can marry this boy. Maybe one of them knows the boys parents? And also ask the boyfriend how long he intends to wait before he is ready to marry. Listen to his response like a stranger, and really ask yourself if he sincerely wants and has a mind to marry you. If the answer is yes, then wait for him!
If the answer is no, then trust Allah swt knows what is best for you. He created every atom in the world, so trust that He can create a wonderful match for you.
Stay calm and keep halal,
Shereen
Wa alaykum salaam WRW sister...
MAY ALLAH BE WITH YOU.
My sister-i know that you are in a very tough period in your life BUT all these happen as for ALLAH to test your new IMAN before raising you in noble status--and YOU WILL BE InshaAllah.
I pray to ALLAH for you to strength for your IMAN on this since you have chosen a correct way of life/ISLAM(Quran. 3:19-20). As the COMPANIONS/SAHABA of our loving PROPHET(PBUP) were facing SIMILAR PROBLEMS as yours after converting to ISLAM-it seems to be the way of pious people.Many of them LOST THEIR JOBS-SOME WERE BETRAYED BY THEIR FAMILIES-OTHERS WERE KILLED-SOME WERE GIVEN SEVERE PUNISHMENT etc.
All those acts happened to them because of the same reason as yours. So advice YOU our SISTER NOT TO GO BACK TO FAKE RELIGION AGAIN even for any price/action to pay. Concerning your parents---They remain as your parents and will ever...YOU HAVE TO RESPECT THEM as QURAN instructs that BUT ONLY in the acts that will NOT HARM YOUR IMAN. You may refer to suratul israa, suratul LUQMAN etc.
When external force increases from your parents/family concerning with reverting...ALWAYS and ALWAYS try to remember and to stick on verse 23 of suratul Atawba.i.e (Q. 9:27).
May Allah easy your difficulties and for HIS MERCY you will get a better job than you had AND a better HUSBAND to suit your IMAN/religion.
Ameen.