Islamic marriage advice and family advice

How do we get our parents to agree to our marriage?

"O Mankind, We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female and made you into nations and tribes, that you may know each other. Verily the most honored of you in the sight of God is he who is the most righteous of you" (Quran 49:13).

Assalam O Alaikum,

I like a sunni Muslim boy. Both of us are Indians and have fine age difference. Everything from our parents point of view should be fine except for the problem that we are not from same state in India.we are of neighbouring states. His mother came to know about our relationship and has blankly asked him to stop. Her reason seems to be same as the problem in my family. They just don't like love marriages but I am too emotionally attached with him and so is he. I want his mum to accept us so that we can be relieved about our future.

Please help,

Zainab 93.


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  1. Salaams,

    This seems to be a very common problem among posters on this site. I am sure you can get a lot of valuable feedback about this issue by reading similar posts here.

    If your mother is supportive of you marrying this person, then I would advise you to have her try to set up a meeting with you, he, his parents and your parents. There you can try to work out any issues of concern that the family has. If the parents would be agreeable to just meeting with your parents (without you and he being present) this can work as well.

    If it stands that both of your parents are in disagreement then you might want to take a step back from this relationship. Often, it's not worth losing the support of your families just to be with one another. It would be helpful for each of you to talk to your own parents about what kind of spouse they want for you, what you are looking for in a spouse, and try to come to a mutual criteria to use while meeting potential partners so that this issue will not come up again in the future.

    -Amy
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

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