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Please get my husband to come back home

Husband is going astray

I want to bring my husband back

Aslam o alikum,
I need all urgent dua, please to get my husband come back home.
He has been cheating on me and he left me four months ago. I have done everything as a human that we're possible, including reading duas, tasbeehs, asmaul husna,tahajod and Namaz hajat. In Ramadan Mubarak I have cried days, nights and prayed to Allah swt over and over asking for mercy and bringing my husband back home and giving me patience and peace. Instead, he has gotten worse and I lost my job. Now I am worried that Allah is displeased with me!

Please sisters and brothers pray for me and my four year old son and my husband. I don't want a divorce but he says he doesn't want to be with me anymore and his parents are helping him to get divorce and remarry him. Both my heart and home are breaking down but I cry for my son who has to live without one parent always. Please tell me if there is a wazifa that I can do to help me.
Allah bless all of us



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  1. Assalam alaikum,

    Dear Sister, we do not pray to Allah swt only to get what we want. In fact, after repeatedly asking for something and not getting it, we may begin to ponder if that thing we desperately want is indeed good for us--Allah swt is All-Wise, and we should learn to accept the things that we do not have control over. Allah swt is Most Deserving of Praise and our Ibadat/Worship is for Him solely for the reason that He is our Creator. I am mentioning all this because you have given a long list of what you have done in order to gain your husband back, but I'm afraid that your intention for prayers veered off and away from the correct reason. Also, there is no such thing as wazifas---this is an innovation.

    I suggest that you focus all your energy on your life, your son. As difficult as it is, wipe those tears that you have been crying--all for a man who has cheated you and has run to his mommy and daddy for divorce from you. Does this sound like a man? Love yourself, your child and pray to Allah swt...ask Allah for guidance...ask Allah swt to bring about what is best for you and your child. I will risk saying that maybe right now you don't know what is best for you and whatever you are praying for may in fact be detrimental for you--instead, let seek Allah's help, have patience, try to see the reality of your situation through the lens of reason instead of your emotions.

    May Allah swt make it easy for you and your son. May you find peace and joy once again, Ameen.

  2. I agree with Saba, it may not be good for you what you are making dua for. Yes it is very hard and hurtful to hear this. I know the feeling of putting all your faith into one person and loving them and being loyal to them, but they end up hurting you in the end. Yet you are still being loyal and loving that one person only. When you ask for something and Allah (swt) does not provide you with it, it does not mean he is not with you. It mean he has something much better in store for you, so wait and pray for your and your sons happiness and Inshallah you will look back and be grateful of the life you have. Inshallah I will pray that you find your happiness. I understand it is very hard right now for you, but you have to be brave and strong. Fight the lonely feeling and pray, take this chance to become close to Allah (swt) and make yourself better. This is your chance to fulfill your dreams that were being oppressed when you were with your husband.

    • Assalam Alaikum,

      Brothers and Sisters

      Please help me. I want my Husband back in our life with our son.
      We are married for almost 5 years but he cheated on me thats why he left us. I don't want a broken family. I know we could fix everything..
      What Dua will i do?

      • Sister Nadj, please read the comments already given on this post, especially the first three comments.

        Wael Editor

  3. Assalaamualaikam

    I agree with Sr. Saba. Trust in Allah that He hears your prayers. Remember that when we make dua, it is either granted for us, turns away an equivalent amount of harm from us, or is saved for us in the Aakhirah.

    If your husband were willing, I'd suggest that the two of you attend counselling or ask both sets of parents to mediate, but it sounds like he isn't prepared to do that.

    Try to maintain your son's contact with his father, as it is important for him to know his dad if possible. Even if his parents are no longer together, he can still inshaAllah have positive relationships with both of them, and will need reassurance that even though the two of you are separated, you both still love him.

    Trust that Allah's plan is right for you, and make sure you have support for yourself and your son - if you have family and friends nearby, don't be afraid to let them know you're finding this hard and be comfortable asking for help if you need it.

    Midnightmoon editor


  5. Slms I have the same problem two months ago my husbands sister came to visit us in the month of ramadaan
    After 11years and she managed to convince my husband to leave me and my 2 year old baby and return
    Back to pakistan ,and he did he actually left without informing me and after he reached 3 weeks later he phoned
    Me and begged me he wants to come bk home and I was so happy,we have been in contact evr since
    The last week now he asked me to give him time ,or he will lose out on his inheritance we haven't
    Spoken ever since,I am distressed but I am making lots of dua to Allah ,cos Allah will answer
    My duas as my 2 year old baby is ver distraught without his father ,plez remebr me in youl duas
    Ii have been having sleepless night .

    • Fathima: After 11years and she managed to convince my husband to leave me and my 2 year old baby and return back to pakistan ,and he did he actually left without informing me and after he reached 3 weeks later he phoned..... and begged me he wants to come bk home and I was so happy,we have been in contact evr since... last week now he asked me to give him time ,or he will lose out on his inheritance we haven't
      Spoken ever since,I am distressed but I am making lots of dua to Allah ,cos Allah will answer

      Some thing is fishy here. Why your husband left you without informing you? Why he called you after 3 weeks after he went to Pakistan? Did he get his citizenship/immigration thru you. A man who lives a wife without telling her is no husband. Did you file a police report? Are you sure the woman who came to visit was his sister.

  6. Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters...

    Please could I ask you to raise your hands and make dua for me. I got married last August and since then my in laws have always found faults in me... They never accepted me as their daughter in law and have always been the reason to why me and my husband argued..

    They tortured me verbally and mentally day and night, treated me like a slave.. My husband is afraid of his mother and his sisters and does everything they ask him to do.. So many times in front of me my father in law has threatened to get my husband married off again.

    5 weeks ago I told my husband I was pregnant and that was the day he walked out on me... Since then he has not even tried to contact me. I am now 11 weeks pregnant..

    From a very reliable soure I found out that his family are taking him back home to get married to his mothers relative.

    I please ask you to sincerely make dua for me .. For Allah to soften my husbands heart and his families... This hardship is driving me mad.. I love my husband and I cannot believe he is doing this to me..

    Please make dua for me.

    • Aslaamualaykhum

      Sister, my advice to you is to leave your husband's house and go back to your parents home or your own place. Why you would want to remain married to this person is beyond me. Pack your stuff up, move out of his house and go back to your place (or your parents if you do not have a house of your own) and apply for a divorce.

      If your husband cannot defend you against even sisters (it is slightly more understandable for him not to talk back to his mother) then why stay with him? Regardless of what Islam says about respecting parents, as your husband, he should provide you happiness and peace.

      The best thing you could do is get out of this situation and apply for divorce. Let him know that he will always be able to see his child, since I believe a child should know BOTH parents, but if he decides to cut the child out of his life then it just shows how worthless he is.

      Hope I helped.

      • Salaam,

        Sometimes in life, we get mad and we react and that reaction could cost us. It is always better to pray, think about what should be done, try many possibilities before advising anyone to divorce. Brother Asim, divorce is a big thing. I will advise her stay, pray, keep her faith and let Allah guide her to what is best for her. InshAllah.


    • Assalamualaikum Salma,

      When I read your message, I cried. I know in life we seem that our situation is worst than others until you hear someone else's story. Thank to thank Allah that your situation is not as bad as others. I want you to know that you are not alone. I pray to Allah to give you the heart during this difficult time, have faith and double your prayers. iHim the Almighty will brighten your way inshAllah, in the name of Allah and the month of Ramadan, things will work on your favor soon if not already. When I go through difficult time, I turn more to Allah, I awake up in the middle of the night, do my ablutions and turn to Allah, I pray and I cry because at that time, I feel even closer to Him. He has done so many wonders for me. Alahu Akhbar and I have no doubt that He will do the same for you!

      Just get close to Allah and when you least expect it, He will shine your way and your husband will return back when you least expect it. InshAllah.

      • Assalamu alaikum..looks like all Pakistani Muslims husbands are similar..I am wondering if this is something general at Muslims Pakistan..My husband left too..for 1 month now...we don't have no children .We are married in a proper way..for 4 years now.He wanted to separate from me last year..but I make him stay.I believe his family have lot of influence over him..and actually they never liked me.But Inshallah things will get better. We need to make lot of dua and pray a lot...I don't know maybe this was Allah will.

        • It is not only the case of Pakistani men.. I am a Maldivian. I had to face similar problems both from my inlaws and him. We were both students in a middle-eastern countey and we married there. But for totally unrelated reason he stopped his studies and dropped college and did IT and networking courses. And changed the field.. But his family thought he gave up college because of me. And since we came back to Male and his mother asked him to live in their home he listened tobthem and we moved to their home. But it was torture for me.. Mom in low had been trying everything she could to break us apart. Abused me verbally and mentally.. I went to a job and payed for my expenses on my own.. And payed my college on my own. But sha hated me for studyng. Already foeced me to give up study twice. But this later time i struggled and in the last year of my degree i got pregnant and she won and finally he left me and my 3 month old son for another woman who has a child. She herself got a divorce from her husband and kicked me out of my husband's house and they got married..
          Its been 4 years since then.. I love my child.. Snd i could not hate his father rven after he cheated on me.. But within the last four years he never contacted with his son unless i msged him and begged him to come and take him to Friday prayer.. .. Allahul Mustha'aan

    • Did he come back?

      • Is there a dua from quran or hadith that makes a husband love you and fulfill his islamic duties as wel as marital duties and also come back to you?

    • Is your husband dependant on ur parents? I dnt knw ur husband u might knw better if he is not understanding ur pain nw he vl nvr understand....i hv gne thru ds same situation...n still fighting in son 21 months...n i m at my parents place since 2 years...n it was only 2.5 years to our marriage....dse men nvr chng...i hope ur hope n expectations ds joint family system has ruined many grlz houses...May Allah hv mercy on u...ameen

    • I'm going through the same thing now too! It's horrible my husband left me and my 9 months old baby went back home and heard his family is remarrying him and his not contacting me

  7. Assalam alaikum,

    Dear sister, same problem with me also. I can say you that pray to Allah all times one day Allah will hear u.

  8. Same is the prblm going on evrythn happens acording to Allah wills...u believe nw dat mayb my son has to come dats y i met ds man naseeb...nobody can chng naseeb..until or unles Allah wills

  9. I need dua for my husband to come back home he's been gone one year now

  10. I need dua for my husband to come back home he's been gone before one week, this is 4th time he done like that

    • Where has your husband gone? How long you been married? Does your husband have other wives? Do you have a normal sex life? Do you have kids? Do you guys fight a lot?

  11. My husband loves me bt his father doesn't lyk me, nw his father proposed another proposal for him nw my husband is nt talking with me, I am helpless

  12. God bless you and your son. Keep praying Allah is listening. I am going through something very similar and I just pray.

  13. Dear sister,
    Some times allahu will give exam for he want see how we expecting, as either we depended on him or others,
    Here we need to prayer with what our scholars suggested, from there I am suggesting here, you should follow min 29 days, and let me know the status. It will be better in your life, before this prayer starting, fully thawakkal to allah and say, ya allah, "you know what is better for me,"
    Then follow given below Activities,
    This prayer should do after Magrib prayer and behalf of Muhammed (s), Ashabul Badriyeen, KhiDir Nabi (A) and for all mu'emin in insu and jinn
    اللّٰهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ، كَمَا صَلَّيْتَ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَعَلَى آلِ سَيِّدِنَا إِبْرَاهِيمَ، وَبَارِكْ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ وَعَلَى آلِ سَيِّدِنَا مُحَمَّدٍ، كَمَا بَارَكْتَ عَلَى سَيِّدِنَا إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَعَلَى آلِ سَيِّدِنَا إِبْرَاهِيمَ، فِي الْعَالَمِينَ، إِنَّكَ حَمِيدٌ مَجِيدٌ - (1times.)
    لاۤ إِلَـهَ إِلاَّ اللهُ ( 111 times)
    لاۤ إِلَـهَ إِلاَّ اللهُ الْمَلِكُ الْحَقُّ الْمُبِينْ.( 111 times)
    لاۤ إِلَـٰهَ إِلاَّ أَنتَ سُبْحَانَكَ إِنِّى كُنتُ مِنَ ٱلظَّالِمِينَ( 111 times)
    اَللَّهُمَّ يَاكَافِيَ الْبَلاَءِ اِكْفِنَا الْبَلاَءَ قَبْلَ نُزُولِهِ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ - 1 time
    يَااللهُ. times 7
    اَللَّهُمَّ يَاكَافِيَ الْبَلاَءِ اِكْفِنَا الْبَلاَءَ قَبْلَ نُزُولِهِ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ - 1 time
    يَااللهُ. times 7
    اَللَّهُمَّ يَاكَافِيَ الْبَلاَءِ اِكْفِنَا الْبَلاَءَ قَبْلَ نُزُولِهِ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ - 1 time
    يَااللهُ. times 7
    اَللَّهُمَّ يَاكَافِيَ الْبَلاَءِ اِكْفِنَا الْبَلاَءَ قَبْلَ نُزُولِهِ مِنَ السَّمَاءِ - 1 time
    يَااللهُ. times 7
    Sur.Fathiha - 14 times
    After recite 14 times fathiha, ask to allah for better life for you,
    In Sha Allah, he will support you, than your parents, than your frients, only you need to believe him as he won't give up you

    With regards your brother
    Sayed Muhammed Siraj Al Ba'alavi Al Husaini Al Hashimi

    • These are all good dhikr and duas, but I doubt very much that there is any evidence for saying them this precise number of times, or in this order. Let's not make things hard on people by requiring them to spend hours making dua. We should stick to the practices of the Prophet (sws) and the sahabah.

      (Also, please do not include your email address in the body of your comment).

      Wael Editor

      • Dear brother,
        Islam is not only from prophet (s) some times we can get it direct from prophet (s) some times through scholars, as sahaba, thabi'e, thabie' thabi'e and ulamas (imaams etc...)
        Like that some Dikr u can find in Hadees, some Dikir we can get it from Saliheens, some numbers they suggesting we can follow,
        Also some numbers we can get from jumalul kabeer hisabiya, even this is prophet (s) allowed to use,
        This filed called as Thilsamath
        Bismillah rahmani rraheem, as per jumalul kabeer it is coming 786,
        If you want to full fill your wishes, lots of scholars suggested to recite Bismillah rrahmanirraheem for 786 then do prayer, there is more chance to full fill our wishes,
        So this is different field,
        So if any want to follow, it's not mandatory to follow, but should not insult or judge withou unknowingly, some time it's getting out from mu'emin
        See Ja'efar Sadiq (r) is the one Imaam regarding this field, Gazzali Imaam is one of the person, they are wrot lots of kithab regarding this
        Sorry for my comments. Only I dropped because I felt you insulted,

        • Salam Sayed,

          I disagree with what you're saying. The only person that is providing an agreement between Allah and us is the prophet (pbuh). You have no authority to say that now that now you have a new agreement outside the Quran that allows you to repeat a verse a certain number of times to get what you want.

          If you do this then you are no different from the people mentioned in this verse:

          Sahih International: They have taken their scholars and monks as lords besides Allah , and [also] the Messiah, the son of Mary. And they were not commanded except to worship one God; there is no deity except Him. Exalted is He above whatever they associate with Him.

          If a scholar, or anyone else that is not providing revelation, hands out new procedures then the people following that scholar are treating the scholar as a lord besides Allah.

          • Dear brother,

          • Sorry brother Sayed, but everything your'e talking about is bid'ah and is not a part of Islam. The sources of Islamic law and teaching are well known: The Quran, the Sunnah, the Ijmaa' of the Sahabah, Qiyas, and Ijmaa' of later scholars (which must be based on the previous sources). We cannot just make up our own formulas out of guesswork or experimentation, as we are mad scientists in a laboratory.

            For example this 786 that you were promoting and defending is a complete fiction and innovation which is found only in the South Asian community, and not at all among people of true knowledge. Such things are a trick and trap of Shaytan. Instead of saying BismillahiRahmaniRaheem, which is the sunnah, and which brings Allah's blessing and offers protection from Shaytan, we find people instead using a meaningless number, which brings no blessing and offers no protection. So of course Shaytan is very happy about that.

            Let us be careful about whose teachings we follow and what we adopt into our deen.


    • Brother sayed please can u translate for me that dua in English or Arabic because I need it...

  14. I want ma husband back soon...please make dua for me

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