Islamic marriage advice and family advice

Please save me from these sins?

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Asalamelkum dear all.

I masturbate a lot, I am not married yet. In last Ramadhan I fornicated with a girl (not intercourse) and in this Ramadhan I did it again with another (not intercourse). In daytime while fasting, I had couple of girlfriends we chat a lot audio, vid etc ...

Whenever I do such stuff I feel very guilty but next time the urge of doing these things comes again. My conscience kills me inside. I have been weeping like anything.

But I know inside me there is a strong devil. I watch porn videos too, I dont know what to do.

Whenever I pray I hate myself because I know I am a sinner, a grave sinner, I hate myself and definitely Allah will be hating me. I try to finish my salah as quickly as possible so that I should face my Allah less. I have stopped making duas because I think it won't be any use because I will sin again and Allah will be angry.

I tried a lot, read books, watch videos etc but I never succeed .... this lust is not leaving me. I know you all may hate me but I swear I never did it intentionally or planned, it is just happening.

Please please please help me, I don't know what to do, I really need help. Whenever I am in salah I weep just what I am doing but after few time I did it again.

Is someone here to save me from these sins? Because I heard tht good and momin people stop others from sins... Allah will give you reward from here and hereafter ...please remember me in duas... This sinner brother of yours need it a lot.....

anonymous_meer

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7 Responses »

  1. brother,

    you need get married asap, masturbation is sort of habit that no man can stop for long time unless he is has a wife.

    • Marriage is not the solution and it annoys me when people suggest marriage.

      The issue needs to be addressed before marriage as once he is married the masterbation and pornography will continue not only affecting him but also his wife. This problem has destroyed many peoples marriages so please dont suggest marriage when someone is struggling with porn and masterbation.

      Yes the solution is Marriage for those who want to fulfil their desires however are not doing masterbation or other fitnas that will most likly continue into marriage.

      May Allah make it easy upon everyone struggling with this disease...Ameen. May Allah make us all the best of humans ... Ameen.

  2. Brother just stop and don't do it when you get those thoughts turn the mp3 on or the internet and listen to Quran god qari basit and go out mix with good people. Have pious company sit in Islamic lectures takin at mosque etc and the best thing get married ASAP all will stop and think Allah once married only Halal way sacrifice your urge pray and listen Quran. Fast three days a month and stay away from sin this act is saytans and Quran kills the devil.

  3. AOA ! BROTHER ...
    Dnt be upset .... Let me give yu few suggestions which wil definately stop yu frm doin such sins .
    1. Dnt try to remain alone anywhere at yr home .. Try to socialize yrself esp those who r pious .
    2. Dnt feel ashamed of yrself while offerin salah , its the shaitan who feel yu like tht , God wil nvr forgive yu , yu r a sinner , stop makin dua ..these r his plans fr makin dua nd astaghfar ... GOD wil definately forgive yu ... Dnt lose hope .
    3. Aviod makin gfs , quit fb , twitter etc where yu r supposed to talk to grlx ..
    4. Daily do xikar axkaar ... Esp astaghfar one.
    5. Daily recite Quran .
    I.A i wi give yu a gaurantee tht yu wil feel much bettet ..nd wil improve alot . God Bless yu . Thnx

  4. Assalam alaikum brother

    My Sincere advise for you to come out of this immediately... please pray 5 times in masjid without missing first takbir. Please join with tableegh brothers in ur masjid and go spend some time. Keep ur soul and body inside the masjid .You will see the changes . When you take step Allah will make it easy.

    I would recommend you to go for 4 months.(Its a kind of course to practise deen inside masjid). Allah has guided millions of people . Trust Allah.

    Society you are living is not going to do it easy so go and practise.

    Get married asap. Convince your parents. Ask Allah. He will open ways

    “And whoever fears Allah, for him Allah brings forth a way out, and gives him provision (rizq) from where he does not even imagine…” (Surah At-Talaq: 2/3)

  5. Salam alejkom brother,
    I know almost what you are going through. Your desires and urges are so strong that you are not able to stop them. You have triggers that triggers you so that you stay on that thought pattern and action. You have to find those triggers and stay away from them. For example if you notice that you use your computer in your room and this things happen. Then stop using your computer or phone in your room. If you stay up late. Try to sleep early. If you have a lot of female friends. Stop seeing them or going to places that they are in. Erase all their contact information. If you are really sincere in your struggle you will succeed brother. I believe in you. I have seen people that did this habits for 15 - 20 years succeed so you know it's possible now. Be a strong man and learn how to be a strong man that is in control of himself. You can do it. Check the NoFap Academy at youtube.

  6. assalamualaikum brother and sisters,

    I know it might be painful but you can do tis

    1- THROW THE ELECTRONIC DEVICES LIKE SMART PHONES SMART LAPTOPS AND BUY CHEAP PRICE MOBILE FOR EMERGENCIES

    2- CAN NOT DO IT!!!
    ONE WAY TO DO LOCK IT UP IN A BAG WITH A LOCKER AND THROW THE KEY
    OR SAY YOUR FRIEND OR SISTER, or brother TO TAKE CARE OF THE KEY

    3-PRAY,READ QURAN AND RECITE DUAS

    HOPE THIS HELPS 🙂

    MAY ALLAH FORGIVE YOU

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