Pregnancy – sisters only please
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Salam,
I am pregnant with my first child alhamdulillah, I am 8 months pregnant. Alhamdulillah. My health hasn't been that great I am very anemic, I get iron IV (intravenously) every week. And the doctor has told me to continue with it until I go into labor. I am scared that I may lose a lot of blood during delivery with my blood being so low. These days my fiends and family have been telling my horror stories of labor and delivery which scary me. I am mostly scared of something going wrong during my labor and delivery. I just keep thinking what if something goes wrong and I die or another complication raises. Subhnallah I know everything is in the hand of Allah S.w.t . I would like to know how can I calm my nerves down and not be so nervous and how to focus on the good. Inshallah.
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Saalam sister InshAllah you will be fine I would urge you to pray read Quran sharif in particular Surah yaseen Surah Maryam Aytul qursi and 4 qul darood shareef 100 times subanAllah every day 100 times darood tanjeena Also I would urge you to talk to your midwives about your worries of course you will be worried about this process The medical team will help put your mind st ease Abd suggest delivery methods for you I urge that you go to all your pre natal classes and do everything that the focyors and midwives suggest A little bit of walking is good everyday it will help you with your delivery I hope this has helped you Rest assured you are not the only one who has worries and concerns others do too take the time to talk to others when you go for your check ups or find out if there is a support group on your area All the best Allah hafiz Fiamnallah
Assalaamualaikam
Pregnancy and giving birth can be scary times, and many people will have horror stories about a friend of a friend, or someone they heard about on the internet, etc. But, with modern healthcare, there's never been a safer time to give birth.
If you've had low iron levels, it's really important to keep taking your treatment for this for as long as your doctor recommends. In some cases, doctors might even suggest taking more iron for a time after the delivery, so that you can replenish your body's stores of it to avoid becoming anemic after the birth.
Talk with your doctor and midwife about your birth plan. Think about what you want to have happen at the birth of your child - will you want someone special there with you? will you want pain relief - if so, what kind and when? will you want to have a c-section? are there things you don't want (eg. music playing, different nurses being involved rather than one person being there from the start)? Having a clear image in your head might help you feel more confident that you will not be powerless in the delivery. Remember to consider contingency plans, so that if something doesn't go entirely according to plan it doesn't throw you too much.
Ask your doctor whether there are any potential complications that you might want to prepare for. If you know in advance that something might happen, it's likely to be less scary than if it comes as a complete shock. For example, you mentioned worrying about losing blood during the delivery - it might help to get some information from your doctor about what would happen if this occurred. For example, your doctor could talk you through how your medical team would decide if you needed a blood transfusion (where you are given blood intravenously, to boost your own blood levels) and what this might involve. Knowledge is power, so find out as much as you can, so that if something happens, you can tell yourself "Ok, I know what's going on and how this gets sorted out".
And of course, make lots of dua and place your trust in Allah that he has brought you to this point in your life for a reason, and His plan for you is best for you in this life and the next. May He protect you and your baby and guide you both to happiness and good health.
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PRAY ALLAH, AND TRY TO ESTABLISH AN ISLAMIC SCHOLAR, BUT BEAR IN MIND IS ALLAH ONLY WHO LOOKS AFTER HIS CREATION.
AsSlamuAlykum. Mubrook sister.InshaaAllah u and ur baby will b alright healthy and happy.think about her/ his presence at ur bedroom.feel her/his Voice. Remember that human body links with food.take healthy food. Take foods who make strong our nervous system. And keep urself in good company. Supportive and positive friends. Specially ur husband. He can give u positive strength .plus recite daily dua for protection morning and evening. May Allah bless u with healthy baby amin
Assalamu alaykum sister. I gave birth 13 month ago allhamdullilah. To be honest I wasn't really scared of giving birth. I mean I did a lot of research, that's important so you feel more confident. Well I read a lot of horror stories of women who give birth and also everyone was telling me how horrible and painful it is going to be but I thought they are oversensitive, like a bunch of women crying about something and it might not be that bad lol ok when it came to me giving birth it was painful but allhamdullilah worth it, trust me if I can do it so can you. Always think positive, women give birth since always so why shouldn't you????you need to think positive and do a kit of dua. This helped me A LOT.
Whilst I was in labor the doctors here in the UK were horrible. The last few weeks (5 or 6weeks) they tried to push for induction and cesarean. I didn't want to,I wanted a natural birth so bad. First they said your water is not enough so we have to induce you before the due date.I did my research and told them if I do drink more water it should be OK. They said no its not possible even if you drink loads of water.I told them I was a bit dehydrated that day when they did the scan and it is possible .I want to have a scam next week before I decide, so they let me have another scan and my water was fine allhamdullilah. Than they said the baby it's too small for its age, keep in mind most babies put weight the last few weeks and I'm quite small and skinny myself so it's my husband.I'm persian and he is Asian so our baby it's going to be most likely small anyway as long as he makes it to 2.500kg its a healthy weight. I was 2.500kg when I was born. Well they wanted to induce sooner but I didn't let them.they really scared us a lot about how our baby is going to die and it's going to be our fault and our decision. Every time they were different doctors and they all said differ thinge. One of them actually said she is Asian herself and her babies are going to be small. At 40 weeks we did our last scan and my baby was 2.500kg allhamdullilah. The same night my water broke and we went to the hospital. I didn't have any contractions, so they said if I don't have any I dew hours they going to induce me and if it doesn't work they will do cesarean which I really didn't want.
We stayed there in the labor room and everytime there were different doctors.they put me on the machine where we could hear my babies heart beat. Everytime I had a contraction they said that my babies heart beat went slower and it's the best if they do cesarean. I did a lot of dua and I really mean A LOT for my baby so his heartbeat won't drop and we will have a natural birth and he will b insh'Allah healthy. Allhamdullilah his heartbeat was fine but when the shift changed some other doctor came in. 3 women and they said I will have to do cesarean without the explanation since my babies heartbeat was fine u didn't know why and before we even could ask they left.than another women who worked there came in and told me I vest choose to do cesarean if my baby dies it's going to be my fault. Ya Allah how can even someone say that to a women who is worried and wants to give birth???at this point I was crying but I knew if it's meant to be I will insh'Allah have a natural birth with a healthy baby since everything is in Allah's hand and only what He wills will happen, no matter what she was saying only Allah could help me. Me and my husband did a lot of dua to Allah and a lot of zikir, I put my trust and everything 100% to Allah. And it helped allhamdullilah. I got my contractions but they came every 15min and they were not close enough.another doctor came in may Allah bless him, he was actually the only one who listened to us.I asked him to let me walk since I did my research and I read it helps a lot for the contractions to come. He didn't want to first but he let me for one hour.I told him the other doctors were pushing for cesarean and I really wanted a natural birth.I told him I know it is much easier for the doctors to do cesarean that's probably why they pushing for it and he actually agreed bless him.well after I started walking my contractions came stronger and closer allhamdullilah. I had a lot of dates to, it's sunnah and helps you have energy for when you need to push.well the contractions got really strong to the point I was screaming and literally strangling my hubby pulling his jumpee lol I didn't want any pain relief lol well that was before I was in pain, they gave me gas and air but it didn't help me at all since my babies head was already half out and the midwifes were shocked.it all happened so quickly within 20min my baby boy was there allhamdullilah. A healthy boy allhamdullilah. The midwifes told me later they didn't think he will be born that night,they thought much later and they were shocked when they realised he is already half out . I know some people gas and air worked for them but you have to make sure to take it before and not late since it won't work thn. You need to do a lot of research before and don't be scared. Think positive, I mean yes it does hurt well in my experience, every one is different but think positive, women give birth all the time and if they can so can you.make a lot of Dua and zikir to Allah. Everything is in His hand and He is the only one who will help you. Eat healthy and do a bit of light exercise or just walking. Walking everyday helps a lot.eat sunnah food. Eat dates everyday they will help you with your iron deficiency and labor .eat dates during labor also.oh and make sure you eat a lot of beet root. Beetroot is sunnah and it also helps if you are anemic. I have a vegetarian friend who was anemic, always taking tablets which were so bad for her tummy. She started to eat beetroot everyday.now she isn't anemic anymore and she stoped taking tablets. So make sure you eat them daily,i promise you won't be anemic anymore.I do eat them since to ☺ don't let anyone scare you, have full trust in Allah. Do your research, have a plan but don't be disappointed if it doesn't go exactly as you wish, be open minded, (remember only Allah has control over evrything)have someone you trust with you(your hubby? ), get some dates (preferably ajwa dates), zam zam water if you can get any .have dates everyday and make sure you take some for during the labor. Read surah Maryam ☺ and make a lot of dua and zikir . Insh'Allah you will have an easy labor and you and your baby will be both healthy and happy ameen
I watched my sister give birth (front row). And she was in a lot of pain and I could tell she was suffering. She cried and it was scary. But as soon as her baby was born and in her arms, subhanAllah, she was smiling and glowing. Like she had not endured any pain at all.
I've never been pregnant but it was truly beautiful to be there for my sister's experience. From what I've read before, Allah makes it so that you forget the pain when you see your child. As a women, Allah has given you this gift. In Sha Allah khair, sis.