Problems in getting married
Aslam Alaikum
I have problem in getting married. There is man that I want to marry, but so many problems to do this Nikah.
Problem number 1: I'm in Canada and he in Pakistan. And it will take time to save money to go there, since my family has debts. And Man that I want to marry me is waiting for me like 5 months already.
Problem number 2: My parents has disliked Man that I want to marry and he got mad at them,so now he doesn't want to talk to my familyanymore. He says that He will marry me no matter wat, but he can't tolerate my family. I try my best to make them friends , but it's very impossible. Since My dad hates him and me Bhot.
Problem 3: My family don't even care about my marriage.They don't think my marriage is important. They only care about their money and Canadian citizenship.
Problem 4: My family doesn't understand my feelings. I love that man very much and I can't live with out him. Wallahi Every day with out him is torture for me. I love him more than anything.
Problem 5: But my family dislike him only because he is poor.
Problem 6: I realize that I love him when I came to my parents in Canada. If I would fall in love back home in Pakistan I would at once marry him. I still can't forgive myself for that.
Problem 7: I came to Canada so that my family get Canadian citizenship cuz we have family case and they can't get it without me. My mom promise she will send me back to Pakistan so I can get married in December after we become Canadian citizenship, but we stil didn't get it and it's already December. I afraid that my family try to trick me so that I don't get married to that man. I afraid that they won't let me go back to Pakistan.
Problem 8: I don't know what to do. I'm so helpless. All other girls my age are married and have kids and I'm still not married. I am afraid someone did black magic on me.
So dear brothers and sisters please do Dua that I get married soon. And if you know any Wazaif that would make me get married soon and make this problems stop. And if you know any Sheikh/Imam/Maulana/Molvi/Mufti that I could speak to and share my problems with,than please give me their number. I need someone in Canada so that I can call them and talk to them. I feel very lonely and lost.
Please someone help. JazakAllah Khair
Princess Zareen
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Salam sister all these live feelings are from shaitan.You cant possible love someone when you are not living with them because love grows.These relationships are haram and they will spells disaster.No scholor will agree to this kind of behaviour or relationship. When i met my wife only met her 3 times and out of these 3 times she had a list of questions.Well we both agreed and we felt that our outlook on life was similiar..10 yrs passed and we are blessed i have 2 girls my oldest being 9 .A blk belt in taewondo almost finished the swimming course and madressah fulltime which she knows 30 suras so far and the little one is following her lead.Our marriage is stronger and at timez were tested but because shes a scholor i guess im blessed.You see the point is if you dont obey Allahs commandments and follow the teachings of our beloved prophet then you have taken a path of destruction.Although it my look nice and feel right but its the deception of shaitan .So beware. The other thing is from my knowledge some pakistanis are far away from deen and totally into duniya especially buissness or they have deen.Also some are very abusive and they are looking for away out of the country.Dont you think if a person doesnt fear Allah and comes to N.America and sees a big bust blondy you think hes not gonna look with desire hmmmm i say yes and maybe takes it to the next level and thats fornicate? So think again