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Problems in my family over the past year

Lonely man walking away.

Aslm to all.
I am 16... I've been facing some problems since 1 and a half year. My mother was my half life but everyday she does something in order to feel angry with her... for example while making a joke with her she gets nervous and start to treat me as an animal... and I have a problem that I can't stop myself from bursting out when she yells at me because she gives badua to every tiny thing especially to my sister who she addressed as '". Even though I keep myself calmed. And also none of the family member are in good terms with her as she keeps on talking a lot about people and then says that she didn't say this and that and always when someone discovers her deeds, she starts to talk ill about the person and even pass the message that "The days you did I'll come to see your deadly creepy face and may your children separate from you forever" and by now its been already 1 1/2 YEAR SINCE WE DONT TALK TO EACH OTHER.

I do try to talk to her even my father convince me to talk to her but I can't...

Not long ago, she drove all of us to a lady. I didn't know who she was but when the lady called us she took us to a dirty room full of plenty of lemons, custards, pins, apples.... My sister and I were terrified... Since that day I made up my mind that till she doesn't stop to do black magic I won't open my mouth to her. When we reached home, she went to my sisters room and burnt black beans papers and cut lemons at the centre of her room. I pretended to have seen nothing.

Now she's making another tactics in order to make my father raises his hand on me, by putting the food on the table just when my father passes by but doesn't even call me. It's been already 2 days which I haven't eaten anything. And yesterday itself my father came into my room and told me that the food which I've not eaten I'll pay it in front of Allah... But the truth is that when I went downstairs I found that there was a lizard lying in the food....and now we don't have any communication....they both live for each other and I've been left alone.

Hussein 056

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  1. Asalam o Alaikum sister. You are very strong and brave believe that! Allah is just testing you so just be patient. Allah is with those who do patience. He gives us all tests to clean us from sins and purify us.
    You should make up with your mother because we are advised to be good to our parents and be kind to them and do dua for them. No matter how bad they do, they are our parents and test from Allah that we have to pass. Whatever they do, is between them and the God. I do not advice you this because my life is perfect and very happy. No, my father is extremely short tempered and he sometimes says things to me that are unbearable to hear yet alone forgive but I always apologize to him even though I know I am not wrong rather wronged. Prophet (pbuh) said that if two muslims querrel, the one who says salam first (initiates towards making things better) is better than the both of them. You sure have heard/read the story of Prophet Ibrahim a.s. his father was a idol worshiper but Ibrahim a.s never disrespected him. Prophet (pbuh) uncle abdul mutalib died a non muslim even then he (pbuh) called that year the year of grief.
    Be kind to your mother, talk to her, apologize and take care of her. Dont oblige her if she asks you to do non islamic acts rather decline softly. Your kindness may win her eventuly believe me. Prophet (pbuh) used to walk through a street in Makkah before Islam was spread and there was a woman who lived in that path. Every time he (pbuh) passed by her house, she threw garbage over him(pbuh) from her roof top but Prophet always looked at her, smiled and went on his way. That continued to happen for a long time until one day when he(pbuh) passed and no one threw the dirt. Prophet (pbuh) asked where is that woman? Someone told him that she is sick. He(pbuh) went to her home and asked for her health and helped her in a thing or two. She got so impressed by this kindness that she reverted to islam. So you see, the kindness and forgivness is the best way to win hearts.
    As far as the magic is concerned, its nothing to be afraid of. Nothing can move even a centimeter without Allah order. You just read ayat ul kursi, surah an naas, and surah al falak frequently as it was the way of Prophet (pbuh) to void the magic.
    Eat and take care of yourself as this body is given to you as amanah and you cannot harm it. Ask Allah for peace and happiness. Whenever your mother is angry, ask Allah’s refuge from shaitan al rajim. Read Quraan everyday for it has supernatural powers to cleanse the hearts and homes from satanic things

    .لَا يُكَلِّفُ ٱللَّهُ نَفۡسًا إِلَّا وُسۡعَهَا‌ۚ لَهَا مَا كَسَبَتۡ وَعَلَيۡہَا مَا ٱكۡتَسَبَتۡ‌ۗ رَبَّنَا لَا تُؤَاخِذۡنَآ إِن نَّسِينَآ أَوۡ أَخۡطَأۡنَا‌ۚ رَبَّنَا وَلَا تَحۡمِلۡ عَلَيۡنَآ إِصۡرً۬ا كَمَا حَمَلۡتَهُ ۥ عَلَى ٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبۡلِنَا‌ۚ رَبَّنَا وَلَا تُحَمِّلۡنَا مَا لَا طَاقَةَ لَنَا بِهِۦ‌ۖ وَٱعۡفُ عَنَّا وَٱغۡفِرۡ لَنَا وَٱرۡحَمۡنَآ‌ۚ أَنتَ مَوۡلَٮٰنَا فَٱنصُرۡنَا عَلَى ٱلۡقَوۡمِ ٱلۡڪَـٰفِرِينَ

    إِنِّيْ أَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْهَمِّ وَالْحُزْنِ
    وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْعَجْزِ وَ الْكَسَلِ
    وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِنَ الْبُخْلِ وَالْجُبْنِ 
    وَأَعُوْذُ بِكَ مِن غَلَبَةِ الدَّيْنِ وَقَهْرِ الرِّجَالِ.

    La ilaha illa Allah Al-’Azim, Al-’Alim, la ilaha illa Allah, Rabbul ‘arshil ‘Azim, la ilaha illa Allahu, Rabbus-Samawati wa rabbul ardi wa rabbul ‘arshi karim

    Ya Hayyu, ya Qayyumu, bi-rahmatika astaghithu 

    ‘Allahumma rahmataka arju, fala takilni ila nafsi tarfata ‘ain, wa aslah li sha’ni kullahu, la ilaha illa anta

    ‘Allah, Allah, Rabbi la ushriku bihi shai’an 

    La ilaha illa anta, subhanaka, inni kuntu minadh-dhalimin

    للّهُـمَّ إِنِّي عَبْـدُكَ ابْنُ عَبْـدِكَ ابْنُ أَمَتِـكَ نَاصِيَتِي بِيَـدِكَ، مَاضٍ فِيَّ حُكْمُكَ، عَدْلٌ فِيَّ قَضَاؤكَ أَسْأَلُـكَ بِكُلِّ اسْمٍ هُوَ لَكَ سَمَّـيْتَ بِهِ نَفْسَكَ أِوْ أَنْزَلْتَـهُ فِي كِتَابِكَ، أَوْ عَلَّمْـتَهُ أَحَداً مِنْ خَلْقِـكَ أَوِ اسْتَـأْثَرْتَ بِهِ فِي عِلْمِ الغَيْـبِ عِنْـدَكَ أَنْ تَجْـعَلَ القُرْآنَ رَبِيـعَ قَلْبِـي، وَنورَ صَـدْرِي وجَلَاءَ حُـزْنِي وذَهَابَ هَمِّـي

    Read these duas for peace of heart and mind. Pray regularly and consider all this as a test from Allah and think that your sins are washing away from you every time you get hurt. All will be well inshAllah. May Allah guide us all and keep shaitan away from us. AMEEN.

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