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I got the punishment for my deeds in this World itself. What should I do?

Repent before the Day when Allah will Question you

Ok now here is my story.

I was from a modern middle-class family and got married to a rich and handsome Muslim man who came from a VERY, VERY conservative family. However he loved me very much as I was really beautiful at that time. He would pamper me with gifts and outings frequently and was a very loving husband and I used to thank God that I had such a wonderful life partner.

Our marriage lasted for only 3 years. Here's where the problems started - I was failing to get pregnant and my mother-in law and paternal grandmother-in law would taunt me for this. They were great and cruel gossipers. When I was thinking I was infertile I made a grave judgmental error and accused my husband of being impotent to save myself from my in-laws verbal abuse.

They [my in-laws] were also quite strict culturally and wanted me to wear a burqa and not mix with any non-related men. Once I shook hands with my brother-in law in front of everyone and from that day onwards my husband forced me to wear a burqa. When I used to visit my family they were all surprised at this. My family was very modern and therefore I wasn't used to such a conservative lifestyle.

My husband became an extremely moody and strict husband and was now trying to cut off my ties with my family and tried to limit my contact with my family. My sister's husbands were all jealous of my husband's wealth and status and so one of them took advantage of my problems [my sisters were all unaware of this]. They started a horrible game plan against me.

On the occasion of my younger brother's wedding I with great difficulty obtained permission from my husband to attend the wedding [my husband at this stage hated my family due to our modern lifestyle] and when I danced with my family at the wedding party, one of my brother-in laws secretly recorded our dancing on video camera and showed my husband. By then I had just become pregnant and was very happy, that I had finally got what I wanted.

However, upon seeing me dancing and with my male cousins dancing in the midst he got very angry and came to our my family's house [ I was staying at my mom's for the duration of the pregnancy] and insulted my mother with bad words like ; &*%$#@' and '*$%#@!' for letting me dance and that too with male cousins.

My mother got angry and advised me to have an abortion so as to punish my husband by leaving him childless. I didn't want to have an abortion at first but I didn't want to disobey my mother either. When my husband found out he threatened to divorce me over the phone. When his family found out about the matter my mother and brothers burnt the abortion papers and instead made an excuse by telling his family that it was only a miscarriage.

I knew now I would have no respect left in my husband's household if I returned childless so I made a false oath on the Quran in front of my husband that it was only a miscarriage and not an abortion. My husband didn't believe this and he divorced me. I was relieved that I now could have my liberal lifestyle back but at the same time I felt sad as I still loved my husband.

I came to know my husband became a depressed person after all this and I felt so sorry for him. I got remarried and here tragedy reared its head again in my life. The man I married had HIV Aids and now I have received this disease too. I have become miserable wreck and am no longer a beautiful person as I used to be, I am ugly and now I wear a burqa to hide my ugly face.

My mother died of a heart attack when she found out about my condition and my brothers and sisters broke off all familial connections with me due to my condition. I now live with my husband and am waiting painfully for death. I have realized my sin of making fun of God's Holy Book - the Quran- and making a false oath on it and I have repented for it. Ask for forgiveness regularly from Allah every day for all my sins.

I cry and beg for forgiveness. I have become a better practicing Muslim and do worship as much as I can. I even went back to my first husband's house and begged for his forgiveness by dropping to his feet. He refused to forgive me but when I told him of my disease he forgave me. His new wife is a very pious muslim lady and he is living a very happy and contentful life with her now whilst I am in deep misery and am waiting for death and hope of God's forgiveness. Please tell me what to do- I feel like killing myself but I don't since suicide is prohibited in our religion.

badnaseebloser

(Editor's Note: The sister is aware that she has sinned and intends to repent. Instead of being harsh, it will be better if we can comfort her and help her earn the Pleasure of Allah Subhaanah and have all her sins forgiven by The Oft-Forgiving and The Most Merciful, Insha Allah)


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  1. Salam sister, we all erred and sinned but you admitted and repented so I believe god has forgiven you. Whatever action you take sister try to make sure it is LiLLAHI TA 'ALA, including wearing the burqa. Allah loves you.

    • Yes, I forgot to mention this. Do not wear the Hijaab to hide your face, but because Allah has commanded it.

      Jazakillah sister Muneerah.

      Muhammad Waseem
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  2. As Salamualaikum,

    May Allah show His Mercy to you, my sister.

    Honestly, your post put me in place. There's no Might, no Power, except with Allah.

    My sister, before proceeding further, I want you to understand that we are all sinners. And we are all hoping that Allah forgives us.

    This World is a place of tests and trials. Some people succeed in them and some fail. The people who fail are either punished instantly so that they return to Allah (its a reminder), and some are not punished. Their sins are kept for punishment on the Day of Judgement. Allah will punish them then. All this is a part of Allah's Justice.

    And these who fail are given many, many chances to change, until they see the Malakul Maut. Allah is indeed The Most Merciful.

    I'll tell you something I have experienced. This happened in Khamis Mushait, Saudi Arabia. I visited a friend in his shop. A person came in and bought something I believe. He told my friend about this lady who died with her phone in hand and was buried with it. Though I do not vouch for its authenticity, but I heard it with my ears. What? The man said that the lady was a disobedient one and never parted from phone. Adhaan, Salah, nothing stopped her. She was an evildoer. She died with her phone in her hand. People tried hard to separate the phone from her hand, but it was impossible.
    They buried her with the phone in her hand. After some time, somebody called her number. And to their surprise, they heard the lady cry out in pain.
    The man who had come to my friend's shop gave him a phone number to hear this. We called it up and we heard it. The lady cried in pain, as if she was regretting what she'd done. Could it be that she was being punished in her grave?
    Allah knows Best. I do not know if this was true, but I myself heard the lady cry.
    What can Allah not do? He certainly has the Power to do all things.

    My sister, you should be happy that Allah reminded you about where you were going and perhaps wanted to stop you. No one can imagine how Allah Works.

    Just imagine, if this did not happen to you, you would still be in the life of disobedience. Allah is The Most Merciful, insha Allah, Allah will forgive you for your sins. Just do true Tawbah.

    My sister, what is there in beauty? After we die, we are all going to become what we were created from. What is the difference?

    Look at the actresses who are beautiful by face. If they do not die on Eemaan, they will become the fuel of Hell Fire. What is the use of such beauty?

    A Muslim lady who is not beautiful has an obvious advantage over a non Muslim lady who is extremely beautiful.

    Rejoice, O sister, the
    believing women will be
    better than the Hoor Al’Een

    Read the quote below, my
    sister, and rejoice!

    “The situation of the believing woman in Jannah will be better than the situation of the hoor al-‘iyn; she will be higher in status and more beautiful.
    Several ahaadeeth and reports have been narrated concerning that, but none of them can be proven to be sound. But, if a righteous woman from among the people of this world enter
    Paradise, then she will do so as a reward for her righteous deeds and as a honor from
    Allaah to her for her religious commitment and
    righteousness. As for the hoori who is one of the delights of Paradise, she has only been created in Paradise for the sake of someone else, and has been made the reward for the believing man for his righteous deeds. There is a great difference between one who enters Paradise as a reward for her righteous deeds and the one who was created as a
    reward for one who did
    righteous deeds. The former is a queen and a princess, and the latter, no matter how beautiful she is, is undoubtedly lower in
    status than a queen, and she is subject to the command of her believing master for whom Allaah created her as a
    reward.”

    Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen said
    regarding this matter: “It seems to me that the women of this world will be better than the hoor al-‘iyn, even in outward appearance, and Allaah knows best.” (Fataawa Noor ‘ala al- Darb).

    Now, what should you do?
    You should seek Allah's Forgiveness for your sins and earn the Pleasure of Allah. If you can use the time you have, to do Tawbah and have your sins forgiven, and also do Allah's Worship and Please Him, then why wish for death?

    Infact, it is wrong to wish for death. You can read the following dua instead:

    Allahumma Ahyini ma kanatil hayatu Khairan li wa Tawaffani idha (iza) kanatil Wafatu Khairan li.

    (O Allah, keep me alive as long as life is better for me and make me die when death is better for me)

    This is the Islamic way. This is what Imam Muhammad bin Isma'eel al Bukhari Rahimahullah did.

    Now, what do you have to do?

    You have to repent for your sins. I will insha Allah mention what sins you have committed, and insha Allah, how you can repent for them. My sister, by this, in no way do I wish to demean you. Infact, I want you to know them, so that you can ask for Allah's Forgiveness and do sincere Tawbah, and do not keep them for the Aakhirah.

    First, let me tell you the types of sins:
    1. Ones related to the Rights of Allah
    2. Ones related to the rights of Allah's Slaves

    This is a system, which indicates how Just Allah Is.

    For the first type, you need to seek forgiveness from Allah for them and do sincere Tawbah. My sister, know that Allah is The Most Merciful and He Loves you. When you turn to Him in Repentance, He Will surely respond positively (insha Allah)

    The second type is related to the rights of Allah's Slaves. These involve sins such as oppression, stealing, back biting, etc.
    For these, you first need to go to the concerned person and say sorry, and then turn to Allah to do Tawbah.

    Now, your sins. The first one is that you accused your husband of impotency. And then you aborted his child. Abortion is equal to killing a soul, which you have no right to kill. A great sin. Say sorry to him for all this and for lying that it was a miscarriage. Also do Tawbah to Allah sincerely for this.

    Other than these, you swore by the Quran, which is Shirk. Allah's Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said that whoever swears by other than Allah has committed Shirk. So, do Tawbah to Allah for this.

    Apart from these, if you have hurt anyone in the process, then say sorry to them and if you have committed a sin related to the Rights of Allah, then, do Tawbah to Allah.

    This is in an attempt to clear all the stains that you have on you of the sins, and purify yourself, so that you have no liability on yourself on the Day of Resurrection. Tawbah could even convert your bad deeds into good deeds in your register of deeds.

    And one more thing. If anyone reads your post and comes on the right path, it is possible that Allah gives the reward for this to you. Just keep good hopes from Allah.

    Regarding your disease, insha Allah someone else will guide you on how to deal with it and cure it insha Allah.

    If they do not, then insha Allah I will mention some Islamic cure, Insha Allah.

    There's no disease on Earth, for which there is no cure, Alhamdulillah.

    I hope this helps you, insha Allah

    Wassalamualaikum
    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  3. I am really touched by your story.
    You should get treatment for HIV infection. With treatment life expectancy is the same as a normal person.
    Feeling better physically you will have more time to do good things to people around you , in the same situation as you; more time to repent and fing peace.
    Ahah be with you.

  4. 'Repentant slave of Allah',

    I had to read your name twice to understand it - for those who do not understand Urdu, 'badnaseebloser' translates to 'Bad fate, loser'. I have re-named you as 'Repentant slave of Allah', because you have turned back to Allah and Allah loves those who turn back to Him(swt), so Alhumdulillah.

    I am sorry for what you have been through, it is heartbreaking to read. Your mistakes were major, but from what you say, I do not believe that your ex-husband, ex mother in law and immediate family members were faultless. If your husband had dealt with your 'initial' mistakes wisely and with love, if your family had guided you with wisdom instead of ignorance/jaahiliya, if you yourself had been more spiritually awake, perhaps you would not be in the situation in which you are now.

    But, 'if' is the word of shaytan, as what was meant to be 'was' and none of us can turn back time. The main thing is that your mistakes and sins humbled you and made you to turn to Allah. Had you not learned from this situation and had continued in ignorance, then you would truly be a loser. But SubhaanAllah - you admitted your errors, you felt regret and remorse, you asked forgiveness from those you wronged and you turned back to Allah - so Alhumdulillah. And who inspired you to turn back to Allah? Allah(swt) Himself did, through His Mercy and Love. So my dear Sister, even through what may be His Punishment, is His Mercy too - so Praise and Thank Him plentifully.

    I want you to relect on these words of Ibn 'Ataa 'Ilah As-Sakandari (d. 706H), who said: "A (Ma'siya) disobedience that bequeaths humiliation and extreme need is better than an obedience that bequeaths self-infatuation and pride."

    And furthermore on the words of Rasool(sws), when he said: "Allah will accept the repentance of His servant till his death-rattle begins." [Tirmidhi] And: "Allah will turn towards anyone who turns in repentance before the sun rises from the place it sets." [Muslim] Also: "If anyone continually asks pardon, Allah will appoint for him a way out of every distress, and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide for him from where he did not reckon."

    And our Lord Allah the Almighty said: "O you who have believed, repent to Allah with sincere repentance. Perhaps your Lord will remove from you your misdeeds and admit you into gardens beneath which rivers flow [on] the Day when Allah will not disgrace the Prophet and those who believed with him. Their light will proceed before them and on their right; they will say, "Our Lord, perfect for us our light and forgive us. Indeed, You are over all things competent." [At-Tahrim, Verse 8]

    ***

    Having said that, I know things are difficult Sis. You have contracted HIV and hence see no light at the end of the tunnel. But I want you to see the bigger picture. Your ex-husband has moved on and he has verbally forgiven you. Its time for you to forgive yourself now - enough is enough. You are not that person who made all those mistakes before. You are a new person who has spiritually awoken. You have turned back to Allah, so whatever happens from here things are on the up insha'Allah. Your dignity and honour is in your repentance and in Laa illaaha illAllaah. Stick to this like glue, purify your intentions and ensure your deeds are always righteous - and Allah will reward you.

    Regardless of the disease you and your husband have been afflicted with, if he treats you well, stay with him and make the most of your life with him. In this too there is reward for you. Ask Allah to forgive you and your family for their part in what happened. And ask Allah for good things. Ask Him(swt) to bestow His(swt) Mercy on you, on your ex husband, your present husband and on your family. Insha'Allah your pain will turn to sweetness of emaan. While you are still alive, you can still strive for Jannah - its not over for you yet! Please read the following and make use of the dua:

    "Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. "Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people." (Surah Al Baqara, Verse 286)

    Also read and ponder over this poem: http://www.zawaj.com/askbilqis/tawbah-in-islam/poem-turning-back-to-allah/ Making sure to pay special attention to this part:

    'So Move Forward Wisely Oh Muslim,
    With Confidence, Humility and Dignity;
    And Be the Best you can,
    Your Slate is Clean...'

    Insha'Allah it will bring some peace to your heart.

    May what has been afflicted on you, be an expiation for your sins in this life and the Hereafter and may Allah forgive you and grant you with the good of this life and the next and save you from any further affliction in this life and the next, aameen, aameen aameen, Ya Rabbil-'Alameen!

    SisterZ
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  5. I read this story this morning and I wept. I read Sister Z's response later and wept even more but from happiness. God is indeed good and merciful.

    Lydia

  6. GO FOR HAJJ SISTER!!!!

  7. AND DONT LOSE HOPE!!! Nabi Ayoub was afflicted with a horrible sickness..but when it was removed things were better than they ever were before!! insha Allah you will be more beautiful than before and everything will be alright...whatever happened, happened by the decree of Allah..i will pray for you and you pray for me..go for Hajj, make dua and remember........

    O my sons, go and find out about Joseph and his brother and despair not of relief from Allah . Indeed, no one despairs of relief from Allah except the disbelieving people." (QURAN 12:87)

    DO NOT LOSE HOPE!! It may be that Allah will remove your affliction and give you more than you ever would have expected!!..make istighfar..insha Allah you will be fine..nothing is greater than Allah..no sickness, no pain, no SIN, NOTHING..use honey, black seed oil, drink zamzam water..and do not lose hope or give up..Salam Alaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu

  8. don't forget to get hijama done as well...and don't forget SADAQA...you'll be fine insha Allah sister

    • Regarding Sadaqah, I have read the following:

      From Abu Umamah -Radi Allaahu anhu- who said: the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- said: "Treat your sick by giving Sadaqah (charity)." [Collected in Saheeh al-Jamia' No. 3358 & declared Hasan by Albaani]

      Al-Bayhaqi quoted a story of Shaykh al-Haakim Abu Abdullaah -Rahimullaah- who was afflicted with ulcers on his face, and he had tried a number of treatments but they did not go away, and it remained like that for nearly a year. He then asked the teacher, Imam Abu Uthmaan as-Sabooni to make Dua' for him in one of his gatherings on Friday, so he made Dua' and many of the people with him said Ameen.

      When it came to the next Juma' a woman came to the gathering and left a brief message saying that she had gone back home and exerted herself in making Dua' for al-Haakim Abu Abdullaah that night, and that she had seen the Messenger of Allaah -sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam- in her sleep, and it was as if he was saying to her: tell Abu Abdullaah to distribute water amongst the Muslims. I came with that message to al-Haakim, and he ordered that a watering place be built at the door of his home, when they had finished building it, he ordered for water to be poured into it and ice placed into that water, and then the people began drinking from that water. Not a week had passed by, except that it was obvious that his health had been restored, and the ulcers had ceased. His face had become better than it was before, and he lived like that for a number of years.' [Collected in 'Saheeh Targheeb wa Tarheeb' No. 964 Albaani declared it to be Saheeh Maqtu, 1/p.568]

      If I can recall correctly, I have also heard from my Shaikh that one of the pious people had the disease of cancer cured through Sadaqah.

      Muhammad Waseem
      IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  9. Sister Repentant Slave of Allah,

    Salamu'alaiki,

    I'll mention some methods to cure any disease, according to the Qur'aan and the Sunnah. Insha Allah, you can deal with HIV, using these:

    1. Hijamah – Cupping: Look for places where they do cupping in your place. There will be some, insha Allah. The Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, "Indeed the best of remedies you have is cupping (hijama)…" [Saheeh al- Bukhaaree (5371)]

    Check this link for more information about Cupping: http://www.healthmeanswealth.co.uk/Cupping_(Hijama).php

    This is a directory which has a list of Cupping therapists accross the World:
    http://www.hijamadirectory.info/directory

    2. 'Ajwah Dates: Allah's Messenger Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam said: "Whoever has seven Ajwa dates every morning he will not be harmed on that day by poison or magic." [Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (5445) (5768) (5769) (5779)]

    You can look for places where you get these and act on the hadith above.

    3. Black seed/Habbatus Sawda’/Kalaunji: According to a Hadith: "This black seed is a cure for every disease except death." [Saheeh Sunan ibn Majah (3449)].

    Ibnal Qaiyyim (Rahimahullah) said, "It has immense benefits and his statement that it is a cure for every disease except death is like the statement of Allah,

    {تدمر كل شيء بأمر ربها}

    It destroys everything by the will of its Lord.
    [Soorah al-Ahqaaf :125]
    [Zaad al-Ma’aad 4/297].

    Make use of these. These are generally available in many places. If you do not find it locally, you can also order it online.

    4. Honey: Allah Subhaanah says:

    وَأَوْحَى رَبُّكَ إِلَى النَّحْلِ أَنِ اتَّخِذِي مِنَ الْجِبَالِ بُيُوتًا وَمِنَ الشَّجَرِ وَمِمَّا يَعْرِشُونَ (68) ثُمَّ كُلِي مِنْ كُلِّ الثَّمَرَاتِ فَاسْلُكِي سُبُلَ رَبِّكِ ذُلُلًا يَخْرُجُ مِنْ بُطُونِهَا شَرَابٌ مُخْتَلِفٌ أَلْوَانُهُ فِيهِ شِفَاءٌ لِلنَّاسِ إِنَّ فِي ذَلِكَ لَآَيَةً لِقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُون

    'And thy Lord taught the bee to build its cells in hills, on trees and in (men's) habitations.... there emerges from their bellies a drink, varying in colours, in which there is a healing for people. Verily in this is a Sign for those who give thought'.

    [Soorah an-Nahl: 68-69]

    The Messenger Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wasallam said, "There is a cure in three substances, a drink of honey, scarification for cupping and cauterisation by fire. I forbid my community to use cauterisation." [Saheeh al-Bukhaaree (5356)].

    So, insha Allah, drink honey. I heard from a renowned Shaikh from Jeddah that drinking honey every morning improves and enhances one's beauty.

    5. Drinking Zam Zam with niyyah of cure: Allah's Messenger Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: “The water of Zamzam is for whatever purpose it is drunk for.” (Reported by Ibn Maajah).

    Insha Allah, drink it with the intention of cure. Insha Allah, you'll find cure.

    I pray that Allah cures your disease and gives you a long life to do a lot of good deeds and Please Him
    Wassalamu'alaikum Warahmatullah
    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  10. Marsallah when I was reading you post it made me cry for you, I would adivce you to pray to Allah everyday and do good deeds, insallah Allah will give your sins sister.

  11. My dear sister I got very upset by reading your comments may Allah give u sabar although I do have to say your story sounds surprisingly similar to a Pakistani drama serial I have seen called Mein chaand sei (I am like the moon) the only difference being in the drama the lady commits suicide with her husband.
    May Allah forgive all of us for our sins sister.

    • oh.. yes, i'd been thinking to myself, the occurences somewhat sound familiar as if i've seen it or heard it before.. but didn't want to say anything..

      anyhow, the first time i read the post .. i was speechless. i love sisterz answer. May Allah have mercy on all of us.

  12. Jazakallah u Khairun for all byour comments, especially Brother Waseem and Sister Z. You two have been particularly very helpful. May Allah bless you greatly for helping someone in need as badly as me.
    Brother Waseem, I would like to ask where I can purchase black seed from and how much it costs.
    @warrior sorry I do not have enough money to go on Hajj. However I do wish to know where I can purchase Zamzam water from and If I can order it from Mecca here to Birmingham. I have British nationality and therefore me and my husband are here in the UK and have a tight income and we are receiving special treatments that are prolonging our life span.
    @Sister Z my husband is a very loving man and I am very happy in my personal life with him apart from this disease. He is a very innocent m an and did not do anything haram that led him to contrat this disease. He simply had received an unsterilized injection in Pakistan.
    @Brother Waseem your words in particular have ben deeply heartwarming for me and I will remain in debt to you for the rest of my life for the treasures you have given me by the generosity of Allah.
    @Brother Halisad the writer of the novel Mein Chaand Si is a close relative of mine who wrote my story years ago when I privately wished that my life would serve as a moral for all selfish girls. The novel\s writer Meimoona Khursheed Ali is a relative of mine from my in laws. However I have not watched the serial or read the book as I find it deeply painful.

  13. sister, Jazallahu Iyyaki Khaira.

    I am thankful to Allah that I could be of little help.
    I wrote to you, just to earn the Pleasure of Allah, because the Messenger of Allah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said in a Hadith:

    ...whoever brought his
    (Muslim) brother out of a
    discomfort, Allah will bring
    him out of the discomforts of
    the Day of Resurrection, and
    whoever screened a Muslim, Allah will screen him on the
    Day of Resurrection .

    I intend that Allah keeps me under His shade and brings me out of any discomfort on the day of Resurrection insha Allah.

    Regarding black seed, it won't cost you much. But if you are in the subcontinent, then it is easily available; they call it Kalounji. Just ask someone where you can find it.

    Otherwise, here's where you can get it online:

    http://www.darul-ishaat.co.uk/store/BLACK-SEED-HONEY-SKINCARE/
    (look for black seed oil on this page)

    Or you can just google for a store which is nearer to you.

    Wassalamualaikum
    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  14. I found a beautiful Dars on "The Journey of Tawbah" in Urdu. I thought I should share. Must Listen:

    Audio

    Video

    Muhammad Waseem
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor

  15. @wael ... Pls dont delete this, instead tell me what you feel about this. . . . Because i just wish to offer a help to this woman and Allah is sufficient as a witness... I know of a man here in africa treats this HIV illness... He has gave the medication to several HIV POSITIVE patients, and God's willing they are heeled and they test negative to HIV.. Allah knows am saying the truth... So if this woman and her husband are interested, we could give this a try?? I just want to help this woman and her husband as i feel sorry for them... They dont need to offer any of there penny/money before the treatment commences.. If there would be any talks about any fee, then it should be after the treatment, this couples are heeled, and they test negative to the HIV...

  16. Allah works in mysterious ways. And the one thing you need to get clear here..Is that Allah..Is ALWAYS..always..Doing things to protect us.

    Allah does not give a human more trails than they can handle. And even though, sister, even though it feels like you just can't take it anymore, Allah makes a person's sholders heavy so that they could fall on their knees and pray to Him, and beg to him for forgiveness, and love, and realize what mistakes they have made, and why we are all here today.

    Look at you. You became such a better Muslim than you ever were before. I understand, my beautiful sister, that this world may be terrible for you right now, as a matter of fact, it is for all of us because this world is NOT meant to be made into paradise.

    Before any of this happened to you, you were only running after the happyness in this duinya, and Allah said, for those who run after the fame, and the money, and the happyness in this world only, He may even GIVE it to them..But will not give them the hearafter...

    Allah tests the ones He loves most.

    You have come THIS far, don't ruin it by commiting suiside...It's not worth is, my sister..It's not worth it.

    Work every single minute towards the hearafter. 🙂

  17. Lol bro., it sound untrue, is'nt it??? But the truth is there is.. Am telling you this with all seriousness... Am telling you that this man gave a woman (whom her husband had sex with a prostitute, contacted HIV, and later transfered it to his wife) the medication and she was heeled, she tested negative to HIV. There is no lie here, Dont even doubt this, beleive it as if you are there..... There is no reason to lie here. This lady in question is truely remorseful and i really feel sorry for her.. She has given up all hope about this worldly life, whereas there is a strong hope and remedy to her illness in the corner..
    I just feel i should help this woman (though i dont even know her, and everyone on this web site)
    Well i could say i know you since i have seen your picture with your daughter and also your profile... But humbly, you dont even know me in any ways, you dont know who i am, and you are only seeing my comments here... Why not lets give it a try with this couples so that you could be a witness to this???

  18. I have closed the post. Thank you all for your comments.

    Wael
    IslamicAnswers.com Editor