Questions about marriage and nikah
Asalaamu alaykum
I am a recent revert to islam(alhamdulilah) and i have been doing alot of reading since the change.there are still a few unclear issues such as nikah as thus im asking you for knowledge and guidance In'sha Allah.
If i want to get married,what needs to be done? I have a list of questions that i have uncertainty of. Please answer them to the best of your ability In'sha Allah.
1. Does the groom need to still ask my father for permission to get married to me(since. My father is still christian)?
2.does my father have to be present at the nikah?
3.Will we(bride & groom) have to live together after the nikah?
4.Do we need to get married in masjid or can the nikah be performed somewhere else?
5.Do the parents of both families need to know about the nikah?
Please assist me with answers to these questions.
Shukran
Anon786
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Assalamu alaykum Sister,
I was seeing your question with 0 responses since quite a few hours and so I thought let me respond to her. Insha Allah I shall try to answer your questions one by one as below:
1. Does the groom need to still ask my father for permission to get married to me(since my father is still christian)?
Ans. You are free as a Muslim woman to get married now and your husband need not take permission of your father.
2.does my father have to be present at the nikah?
Ans. If he is present, it is good, if not, you can perform nikah without him too. A Muslim of good faith and just nature can act as a guardian of your interests to see that your marriage takes place properly. An Imam would be a good choice as he would be aware of the sharia of Mahr and consulting the bride and the groom.
3.Will we(bride & groom) have to live together after the nikah?
Ans. Marriage is for living together not living in separation. However, if you come to a agreement of staying at different places until sometime, it depends on your truthfulness and the mutual understanding between a husband and a wife. Better is to live together to avoid any fitna.
4.Do we need to get married in masjid or can the nikah be performed somewhere else?
Ans. Nikah can be performed in Masjid and outside Masjid in a good clean place, Insha Allah.
5.Do the parents of both families need to know about the nikah?
Ans. It is good that families are well informed about your marriage and as much people know it by making it public. This is better in your interests and is the way of Islam too.
Secret nikah is done by couples who do not have courage to marry openly, they do all things secretly, this is not the way of Islam. And when time comes to disclose it, they give in to family pressures, usually guys, as we have heard much about such cases on from different people.
So in order to secure your rights as a wife, marry in presence of people, families (if they come) from both sides (if they do not come, you can still marry) and get your marriage registered and get a marriage certificate as well.
Most importantly, choose a responsible man, a man who can marry you and face the world and not turn back on his heels. A man with good faith in Allah and fear for Him in his heart, Insha Allah.
I hope your questions are answered to satisfaction.
Salaam,
Your brother.
Very good answer. . I second that
Jazakallah brother Muhammad 🙂
@ Sister Anon786,
And yes, I tried to answer to the best of my ability 🙂
Other able people may give their advices better than me Insha Allah, so keep an eye on your post from time to time.
Salaam,
Your brother.
I am about to have my nikah done very soon. but i can not get the rukhsati done due
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SisterZ
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Asalumalakum
I am 17 year old girl a muslim girl and I am separated from my family due to my dad's behavior towrds me in a haram way I am in a foster home with Americans witch is hard for me I want to practice my religion but it's hard the only people I have is my mom and boyfriend . (Remainder of the comment had been deleted. Please login and create a separate post so that it can be published in turn and you can receive answers to your question.)
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And I actually told her tell your family and finish this. All this happened on phone conversation. .
salamu alaikum,i am a lady of 24yrs. i wish to b married b4 25yrs,bt m
y fiance n i hv no means of d marriage. pls my question is,can we do d nikkah widout d cncept of my father,bcz we wouldnt want to have pre-marital sex?
Fati, there is no secret marriage in Islam. You must have a wali, and witnesses, as well as the other requirements of nikah such as mahr, etc.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalamualaikum,
I want to marry a widow girl her husband is no more..we r ready to marry she has 3 children. but our both the parents are not accepting. So we planned to marry without saying to anyone. And we also dont want to disclose this to anyone. after i get marry to her can i go for other mariiage as per my parents wish.. and even i dont want to say the girl whom i am get married as per my parents wish.. please respond to my question....
Allahafiz
There is no secret marriage in Islam. And if you do as you suggest you will have to lie to everyone, which is obviously haram and no way to live your life. Marry the widow if you like, but do it openly and accept the consequences.
Wael
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Assalmo Alaikum,
I am interested to know about the following as we got married, but did not know about it. So it is requested to guide the same please
What was the "PROCEDURE" of "NIKAH" in in 1400 years ago? (Please share the References with "Practical Examples" of People/ Sahaba those married in the era 1400 Years ago).
Assalamoalekum
my question is this an Indian muslim man can do nikha from a Pakistani muslim girl in Arab on umrha. Is this is possible if possible there is any special place for nikha in Arab where they can do nikha there please reply
Can anyone please help me here ? One of my friend did nikkah on video call without any witnesses and maulvi,in a proper way but now she want divorce how can it be possible to get divorce on video call without witnesses and without maulvi? If only she is willing to get divorce but her husband is not.
Salam,
Why does she consider the marriage valid? I thought there had to be witnesses, permission of the guardian, her own consent, a dowry, and it cannot be a secret marriage.
it was invalid nikha no any witness nor any other person known about nikha
Sir, please guide me that how a nikah will be completed only saying qabool h to each other or ya iss k lay koi or tareeqa b, please guide urgent basis
If there is a wedding and 3 witness goes to girl and ask about the boy he wants to get marry with you and she say yes after that 3 witnesses came and told to the Molvi that she accepts him as her husband and then molvi just forgot to ask the nikkah conditions from Boy and he suddenly ask to her future wife's father that do you give your daughter to him as his wife and he accept that so this nikkah is valid or not .