Questions about sex in marriage
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As Salam Walakum,
i would like to Clarify few Point with you as per Islams Pont of View.
1. Is oral sex allowed in Islam between husband and wife?
2. Is anal sex allowed if the wife gives permission?
3. Can a married couple have sex in other rooms of the house, for example in the bath?
4. Can wife remove husband personal hair & husband can remove wife's personal hair?
5. During which days sex must not be done?
please urgent & erliest reply in this matter is highly appreciated in concern to this matter.
plesase reply me in view of islam
- wanna
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Assalamu alaikum - I will try my best to give you direct answers, as these are quite straightforward - however we are not scholars so we do not deal with fiqh issues. May Allah forgive me if I have said anything incorrect.
1) There is a difference in opinion on the permissibility of oral sex between spouses. I recommend you read this link for more information: http://www.zawaj.com/straight_talk.html
2) Anal sex is prohibited (haraam) - again see the link above. Anyone who has done this unknowingly should make tawbah and refrain from repeating it.
"The one who has intercourse with a menstruating woman, or with a woman in her rectum, or who goes to a fortune-teller, has disbelieved in what was revealed to Muhammad." (Reported by al-Tirmidhi,)"
3) Your wives are as a tilth unto you; so approach your tilth when or how ye will; but do some good act for your souls beforehand; and fear Allah. And know that ye are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give (these) good tidings to those who believe. (Quran, 2:223)
I assume as long as the place is clean and private (within your own home) then it is permissible to use other rooms.
4) Between the waist and the knees is awrah except to the spouse so personal hair can be removed by either yourself or your spouse and vice versa - so yes as far as I know.
5) Sex is not permissible while menstruating and of course while fasting and on Hajj. Ghusul must be done afterwards to purify one self. You cannot pray or recite Qur'an in the state or Janaabah (impurity after intercourse) As far as I know these are the only days, excluding Hajj of course.
“Every game a person plays is futile except for archery, training one’s horse and playing with one’s wife (foreplay and kissing) ”
I hope this answers your questions InshaAllah. Please correct me if there is anything I have missed.
Sara
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Sister
Just to add on sex is not permissible during the post-natal bleeding called nifas ( when the blood that flows out after child birth)
Salam,
Dear brothers and sisters i have a question to all of you:
Does the Size of your Husband's Penis matter, e.g if it very Skinny but with good length or very very short? And what if they both are VIRGINS at time or marraige?
If the husband knows that his penis is skinny or thin compared to average and doctors have told him that there is nothing they can do to increase his penis size, how will you react if your muslim husband was a good looking, intelligent and honest man who also prayed 5 times?
What if You both were not enjoying sex because of his small size and his premature ejaculation?
Put yourself in their positions and Please give your honest opinions or experiences,,,,
Thanks
ahmed, the kind of insecurities you are expressing are common among men. Most likely you are completely within the range of normal size. Women care about your character as a husband and a man, not about such things.
If you want more detailed responses, please log in and submit your question as a separate post, thank you.
Wael
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Ahmed, I noticed that you posted some additional comments and questions about this subject. I deleted them. I already told you, if you want a detailed discussion then submit your question as a separate post. However, I think you have already been given good answers and it should be sufficient Insha'Allah.
Wael
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Dear Miss Sara,
Please introduce yourself and then I have some questions to ask?
Regards,
Syed, you can see sister Sara's profile on the About Us page. If you have any questions, please log in and submit them as a separate post. Thank you.
Wael
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Assalamu Aleikum,
-Oral sex, yes
-Anal sex, no, but depending on school of law, there r Shia and Hanafi scholars who allow it with the permission
of the wife; but the majority says no
- You can do it in all areas, I don't think there are any restrictions, but : be careful not to face the qibla
according to Imam Sadiq we know that the child may become a disbeliever or a hypocrite
- I think the idea of removing hair for each other is somehow romantic and sweet-- so intimate, of course you can
Everything that falls into the category of foreplay and mutual pleasure is allowed in Islam, I think on
this website somebody recommended Sheikh Yasir Quadhi who even promotes sex toys; there are
Islam companies who sell them and I saw it on his website.
Allah knows best
totally agree
Assalam,
I wasn't gonna reply to this post because sister Sara has already given a great answer, but when I read Jannah's comments, I couldn't help myself.
I'm not here to judge you but it's been a while now since I read your posts. What amazes me is your interpretation of Islam regarding some of the marital issues. To be perfectly honest, I'm shocked ! I've no idea what school you're following sister but you're really need to be careful. Islam FORBIDS anal sex, and there's no discussion about it ! How can scholars still interpret it differently when the Holy Quran states about it clearly ??!!
Maybe some of you guys (from Islamicanswers) should help her, advise her...Wa Allahu A"lam.
Aicha
Salam Sister,
first of all, don't be emotional as being emotional is a sign of insecurity and you are masha allah a
confident woman. I have qualified my statement by saying: The Majority in the 4 madhabs say
No, but in Shiaism there are individuals who says it is allowed with the permission of the wife, and
I think there are individuals in the Sunni schools who share the same opinion. I'm sure you know
that we have different sources of jurisprudence in Islam. There are individuals who say that eye-
brow plucking was prohibited by the prophet or hair extensions and wigs are haram. On the other
hand, beautification for the husband is a divine law. There are many inconsistencies regarding
jurisprudence.
Concerning my statement about the places where you "could" do it, I don't think that there are certain
rooms in which it is prohibited. And that facing the qibla is not recommended goes back to the prophet
sallalahu alayhi va ale. Removing pubic hair is Sunnah, and mawadah and rahma are Sunnah,
and removing hair for each other is fine and romantic, that's my personal opinion.
I don't know which madhab the sister belongs to. I don't like monopolies, I like diversity. And because
I like diversity, I have given her an answer that covers all areas of jurisprudence.
Wasalam
Why you are saying something about Hanfi people give me even 1 authentic statement which shows us Annel sex is permitted in Islam in any case???
You are totally irrelevant and unauthentic... Give me a single prof. of some thing you are qouting here or i request Admin to block you
Sex toys who permit this in Islam... What type of Islamic world you are living in....
lol you are too funny
people above as already given the correct answer according to what the Koran said just follow the guide lines and ur request will b given..
i agree with fdkenny on tis. if we are given the guidlines, which are in the holy quran, then following it shouldnt be a problem. i knw there are a lot of schools with different ideas, but hey, tis should not be a subject to personal interpretation.
Salaam.
is oral sex only makrooh as read in the above link...its in a hadith that seeing private parts is not permissable untill its needed,so how can oral sex be allowed..please reply clearly coz my hubby loves it and we dont do it because its in our knowledge thats it HARAAM...
please reply.
Laibah.
I hope you haven't been waiting this long, but you just misunderstood the ruling. You cannot look at the privates before marriage because you are not married. But once married you can look all you want when it is needed and that means, anytime you need to have sex, oral sex and/or need to look to please yourselves.
In other words, have all the oral sex you want.
Aslam O Alaikum!
Plz mujay yai guied kr dain k agar larki pregnant ho gai hai to kia us k sath sex kia ja sakta hai k nahi.
i am waiting ur answer.
Regards
Umair Ali.
Yes, if she is your wife.
SisterZ
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Ali dont u want any body to gain from u? I dont understand what is meant by (a room not facing the qibla) pls can u give more explanation is it that u will build a room separately or you in the room will not face the qibla
I have read that you shouldn't do it in the direction of the Qibla and you shouldn't turn ur back to
the Qibla. What I overread was that this only applies to the procreation of an offspring. Normal safe sex
can be anywhere, at anytime, in all directions!! Just wanted to clarify. Islam is of course a perfect faith
and there are times and hours by which it is recommend to produce a child, who is pious and good-looking
from nutrition to duas etc. So only if you want an offspring, that night you shouldn't turn your back on the
Qibla and face the Qibla.
It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The one who has intercourse with his wife in her back passage has disavowed himself of that which was revealed to Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).” [Abu Dawood]
It was narrated that Ibn ‘Abbaas (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah will not look at a man who has intercourse with a woman in her back passage.” [Narrated by al-Tirmidhi]
It was narrated that Khuzaymah ibn Thaabit (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Allaah is not too shy to tell the truth” three times. “Do not have intercourse with women in their back passages.” [Ibn Maajah]
"If anyone [resorts to a diviner and believes in what he says (according) to the version of Musa) or] has intercourse with his wife (according to the agreed version) when she is menstruating, or has intercourse with his wife through her anus, he has nothing to do with what has been sent down to Muhammad."— [Sunan Abu Dawood,]
"[Make love to your wife] from the front or the back, but avoid the anus and intercourse during menstruation"—[Ahmad and Sunan al-Tirmidhi]
"He who has intercourse with his wife through her anus is accursed"—[Sunan Abu Dawood]
No Sunni scholars would ever allow this evil act. Only Shittes
i like jannas open mindedness. sorry your last statement was very narrow minded and infact bordering on ignorance.
some of the posters said the quran forbids it. but failed to provide the surah. if you can that would be great, because you were chastisng jannah on it.
also all the evidence above is from hadith which itself is open to interpretation and debate among the 5 schools.
as for shi'as allowing it, as jannah said, some scholars do but its not highly reccomended and others dont.
i dont seem to understand the frigid pious attitude when it comes to sex with your lawful partner. why so frigid on looking and touching and kissing. is our religion that unaccomodating to the natural urge god has put in us? then why so much emphasis on foreplay in hadiths?
You like sister's Jannah open mindedness but you hate Abu Dawood, Al-Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah, Imam Ahmad and most important of all, The prophet Muhammad (SAW) ??
You say i'm " Very narrow minded and infact bordering on ignorance " because of the last statement I made. But that statement is made upon analyzing the sunni sahih hadiths and coming to a conclusion that a sunni follow the sahih hadith of sunnis and if he goes against it, then WHAT MAKES HIM A SUNNI ??? and I didn't forbid this anal sex act. THE PROPHET HIMSELF DID !!!
The hadith is clear, WHY YOU SAY " itself is open to interpretation and debate among the 5 schools.? This is a complete ignorant statement. There are only 4 schools of thought in sunni by the way. If the shia allows it, then they may have a different hadith to prove this disgusting evil act.
Sunni means the followers who follow the sunnah of the prophet. We are called Ahl sunnah wal jamaat. To follow the prophet we need ahadiths. So basically we have sahih hadiths to follow. According to sahih hadiths narrated by Abu Hurayrah, Ibn Abbass and others, who mentioned that the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) FORBID sex through the anus. PERIOD.
Say: "If ye do love Allah, Follow me: Allah will love you and forgive you your sins: For Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." [3:31]
"And whatsoever the Messenger gives you, take it, and whatsoever he forbids you, abstain (from it), and fear Allah. Verily, Allah is Severe in punishment." (59:7)
"Let those beware who oppose the Messenger’s order! In case some fitnah(trial) should befall them or a painful torment be inflicted upon them." (24:63)
"Nor does he speak of (his own) desire. It is no less than revelation sent down to him." (53:3-4)
READ WHAT I WRITE, because I'm not merely posting my opinions unlike some, I post sahih hadiths and then comment on it.
"Your wives are a tilth for you, so go to your tilth, when or how you will, and send (good deeds, or ask Allah to bestow upon you pious offspring) for your own selves beforehand. And fear Allah, and know that you are to meet Him (in the Hereafter), and give good tidings to the believers (O Muhammad )." [2:223]
Are you a musafir of Quran ? No one knows the Qur'an more better than the prophet himself. PERIOD.
So go an read what Tafsir Ibn Khatir has to comment about this verse of the qur'an. Just read it okay.
Furthuremore, Anus is a place where solid waste material of the body exits. Is it nice to have intercourse that way and then perform oral sex ? Think about it.
Now you may decide, Its all upto you all individuals who wish to practice this evil act. Go ahead and disobey Allah and his messenger and aquire the diseases insha'Allah. Or stay away from it and no harm may fall upon you insha'Allah.
Yes you conveyed the message well, But the thing is you shouldn't get to emotional and say inshAllah you should get diseases what will Allah think of you that you are wishing the worst for your fellow brothers and sisters. But you are very much right that it is wrong and harmful, and haram
I know that anal sex is haram but as Muslims are we allowed to use anal sex toys?
The answer is no.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Is there anything to back this decision?
Thank you
Hanz,
Anal sex in Islam is haram. Therefore any method (e.g., sex toys) used to stimulate that region of your body is also forbidden. It’s like drinking Alcohol in a glass but not from an alcohol bottle. Regardless of how you drink it, it is still haram. The same analogy applies for anything that is forbidden in Islam, including anal sex.
-Helping Sister
Thank you
That makes sense
Oral sex is allowed or not? I am not sure, isn't semen an impurity, so what if it goes into the mouth and is swallowed? Is that fine? I am wondering.
Hamid,
Ahadeeth indicate that sperm is pure. But there is a difference of opinion about oral sex being allowed or not. Insha Allah, I'll post a Fatwa from a renowned scholar of Ahlus Sunnah shortly.
Muhammad Waseem
IslamicAnswers.com Editor
Jazak allahu khairan, I am a follower of Prophet Muhammad's teachings through Imam Shafi, can u tell what Imam Shafi's ideas were? Jazak allahu khairan
I do not know what Imam ash Shafa'i Rahimahullah thought about this. But I read somewhere that he considered it a part of foreplay. Now, I'll mention the Fatwa by Shaikh Mashhoor Hasan Aal Salmaan:
If you have more queries, please login and submit your question separately.
Muhammad Waseem
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Jazak allahu khayr Brother Waseem, thanks for the answer. 🙂 And of course, Allah Ta'ala knows best.
asalaamolaikum .please i want to know that my huby isnot here,he is out of the country,he usually calls me at skype ,we both chat and make love there like touching ourself, is it halal? because this is the only source.
is sex from behind not anal sex bt from behind is it jaiz in islam? because i hv heard in dat typ ov sex coming baby will b considered shytan.? z it ryt?
Vaginal intercourse between husband and wife is allowed in any position. This thing you have mentioned (that a baby coming from rear penetration will be shaytan) is false. There is no basis for this in Islam or biology. In fact, Quran 2:223 was revealed specifically to refute the Jewish claim that rear penetration will produce a cross-eyed child. Allah says,
"Your wives are a place of sowing of seed for you, so come to your place of cultivation however you wish and put forth [righteousness] for yourselves. And fear Allah and know that you will meet Him. And give good tidings to the believers."
"come to your place of cultivation however you wish" means from any position you like. It is important to note, however, that this does not permit anal sex, which is haram in Islam. One sows a seed only in fertile ground, where it will root and grow.
Also note that this ayah is not intended to degrade or objectify women in any way. It is simply a metaphor for the act of procreation.
Wael
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Please answer My Question urgently
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can marriage with my mother in law ?
Sunny, we don't answer questions on WhatsApp, we answer them here. If by "mother-in-law" you mean your wife's mother, then sure, your father can marry her.
Wael
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