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I’m a Muslim man; can I marry a married Christian Woman?

Pre-marital relationships are haram in Islam


I am from Asia. I am so deeply in love with this Christian woman; she is separated from her husband as things didn't work out for them. They have one child and got separated but still they are married because none of them filed an annulment case. Then we met and fell in love. I really care for her; I want to make her happy because ever since she got married to her husband; her life is ruined. Her husband has many girlfriends and she always cries. When I came into her life; I always make her smile. I ask her to marry me and she said yes and she is willing to convert to Islam but our problem is that they are still married. She wants an annulment case but they have lack of money to pay the attorney. Can I marry her even if she is still married? What should I do? I really need your help.

Thanks a lot,


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  1. The best advice anyone can give u is to wait untill they ve d oppurtunity and willingly take d anullment.. . Brother, u are a muslim. and as a muslim, u know what u are doing is absolutely wrong . . . Why would u be dating a married woman, would u like it if someone is dating ur own pasonal wife???. . . . . . U ve done a very big mistake and u must ask Allah for forgiveness. *** in response to ur question, if d lady converts to islam, her marriage with her husband is authomatically null and void (cancelled) if he still remain a non muslim. . . . In other words, a muslim woman cannot marry a non muslim man but d vice vasa is allowed. Ie a muslim man is allowed to marry from d people of d scriptures. . . . . . . . So when d lady converts whilst he's still a non muslim, there can be no marriage between them any more and then u can go on with ur own proporsal... Hope this helps

  2. Hi brother may Allah bless you.

    I agree with brother have done a mistake by making a relationship to a woman who is not your mehram.As a muslim you must know the rules of talking to a non-mehram and this woman is married and had a child and a husband do you think it is right to make relations with a married woman even if she is a muslim woman?and i think you wont be happy if it was done the same to your wife.How ever you love her you cant cross Allahs try to end this relationship and all the contacts with her for the sake of Allah and wait for her until she accepts Islam or it is better to found for you a good muslim wife it will be much better to you.because you cant marry a married woman whether she is muslim or not.and i dont think any religion accept this.

    so Ask Allahs forgiveness and to choose for you the best.may Allah forgive us all.

    • Im christian and married but has been separated for 10 years without legal procedures.I was planning of turning to Islam? can i marry a Muslim man after I converted to Muslim even though my first marriage is not annulled?
      Praise be to Allah.
      We ask Allah to bless you and enable you to enter His religion, and we hope that that will be in the near future.
      If a woman becomes Muslim and her husband does not become Muslim until her ‘iddah (waiting period following divorce or separation) is over, then it is her choice. If she wants she may marry someone else or if she wants she may wait in the hope that he may become Muslim one day.
      Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allah have mercy on him) said: What is indicated by the ruling of the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) is that the marriage contract is put on hold; if he becomes Muslim before the end of her ‘iddah, then she is his wife, but once her ‘iddah ends, she may marry whoever she wants, or if she likes she may wait for him, and if he becomes Muslim then she is still his wife, with no need for a new marriage contract.
      End quote from Zaad al-Ma‘aad fi Hadi Khayr al-‘Ibaad, 5/137

      • Brother Bilal, the answer you are quoting is different because the woman converted to Islam. In the question put by this poster, the woman is still Christian. It's a whole different ball game.

        Wael Editor

    • I am a bit surprised at the answer given. I fully understand that as a Muslim man (or a woman) one cannot make relationship with a married woman (whether Christian or Muslim), but I am a bit puzzled by the conclusion or understanding that loving someone falls under the category of dating or a relationship. Does one really have a control on falling in (or being in) love with someone? Is physical relationship is the only relationship between a man and a woman?

  3. bonecrusher,

    Simply put, you cannot marry anyone when they are still legally married. Until this woman and her husband have an annulment, they are husband and wife.

  4. Assalamualaikum.
    I love a married women. She also love me. she have a daughter and she is pregnant again. But we love each other. Can we marry?

    • Wa Alaikum as Salam Habib, the answer is NO. You are ruining a married couple's life. If you continue, you could as well earn Allah's Anger. Fear Allah and keep away from the concerned lady. Look at the Hereafter and imagine what you will answer Allah.

      For any further advise, please login and submit a new post.

      Abu Abdul Bari Editor

      • Of course they can marry. The woman can simply attain a divorce from her husband, which is her islamic right, and marry the man she loves instead. Divorce is allowed. So I say the woman should not deceive her husband and make him believe she loves him when she loves another.

    • "..And also prohibited to you for marriage are married women.." (Quran surah An Nisa)


  5. Ramadan Kareem. Im a Christian married woman reverted to Muslim...

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  7. gud day everyone. i would like to ask you guys about my situation. i met a muslim man who is married( but he is not staying with his wife for 2 years now and planning to finish their marriage). i love this man and he loves me so much. he is so willing to come with me and ask for my parents permission. but i am a christian. is it possible that we can be together without disobeying God and even laws....thank you so much

  8. Hello guys I'm separated in Christian husband for 5 years and I'm reverted Muslim .my question is can I married a man Muslim he want to marry me but my problem about my marriage in Christian is still because Philippines nothing devorce I have one child there. So what would I do please advise me

    thank you

  9. I'm a new Muslim for ova 7mnths .i met a Muslim lady and wish to marry her but I'm still legally married to my Christian wife however we've been separated for over 4 divorce proceedings is taking much longer than I expected..can I marry this Muslim lady

    • Islamically you can marry her. Legally, however, your country might consider it polygamy, which may nor may not be illegal depending on where you live.

      Wael Editor

  10. Good day...

    I am a married christian girl. I'm separated from my ex husband for almost 3 yrs. I filled an annulment case but my ex husband is not cooperating at me. Meaning he don't agree with the annulment. as for now I am out of the country so I put the case on hold.
    Now I have a relationship with a married man who is not living with his wife cause his wife is living in other country. And he said he don't love his wife cause they are only on arrange marriage. He proposed at me. Can I marry him if I will convert to Muslim?


    • Belle, can you marry him? Yes, you can, as your conversion to Islam will nullify your previous marriage (after a short waiting period). But should you marry him? I say no. He is already married. Instead of marrying you and sealing the fate of his marriage, he should try to get to know his current wife, try to develop a relationship with her, and learn to love her. By inserting yourself in the picture you are making that impossible. It is a serious thing to come between a man and his wife.

      Wael Editor

  11. Hi to all! I am a married a woman, Im a christian, I have 1 daughter. I am married with a man I dont love but still tried to do my role as his wife but after 3 years all we do is fight and argue. until decide to push him work abroad so I can be free from pain and hatred. Before his 2 year contract ends I decided to work abroad to avoid him because my heart wants to explode everytime he is around me. Even we are far from each other we still fight on the phone or chat just everytime we talk we fight and argue so I told him that I dont want to live with him and I want to file an annulment. But he said he will never free me and will make me suffer and will never be happy with anyone. I worked abroad and after a 6 months I met a Muslim guy and been in relationship with him. We are now in 2 years relationship and offered me marriage. I love him and he loves me. We maybe had arguments and misunderstanding but it never caused us to leave each other. Yes he offered me marriage, I love him no doubt. what I felt is different like I never felt before, Please help me. I want to marry my Muslim boyfriend. what should I do?

    • If you convert to Islam, your marriage to your Christian husband will be automatically annulled after a short waiting period, and then you are free to marry the Muslim. I am speaking from an Islamic legal perspective only. I assume from the details of your post that you are from the Philippines. Getting an annulment in the Philippines is another matter, and is something you would have to work on. You may be able to get a divorce from the Shariah court in the Philippines. I cannot advise you on that.

      Wael Editor

  12. Salam,
    Im a muslim woman married to a muslim man for 17 years with 5 kids. He marry a christian married girl with 1 child from her legal husband and now they are living together with my husband with two kids.The christian husband is a sea man after 1 year he discovered that the wife is no longer in manila instead in lanao del sur.
    so i went to sharia and filed for divorced since then he stopped supporting our 5 children. SUBHANALLAH.
    I leave everything up to allah.
    problem is the christian husband cant file annulment because the muslim guy is treatening him.

  13. Hi
    Assalam alaykum
    I am married Christian and converted to Islam, My question is I am legally married in my country but my ex husband is not muslim, and im using his surname in my passport, can I change that to muslim name?? the one in my passport or there is any problem if I will change it, Can I also marry muslim guy in the future> thanks in advance

    • Leena, as far as changing your name, that's a question you should direct to your own passport service or whatever branch of government handles name changes. You can marry the Muslim man but you should first divorce your Christian husband or get the marriage annulled.

      Wael Editor

      • Iam a married woman as well and iam Christian iam dealing with same issue...I was separated with my husband for almost 5yrs...and my passport was stated married and I'm using my X husband on my way of converting to islam... and I'm going to marry a Muslim man...and I want to know if even I was already converted to Islam and my past marriage was invalidated as what I have read from some blogs....Do I still need to file annulment to change my passport status in order to get married to a Muslim man though I was already converted to Islam...

    Bro Wael, I have question I am reverted Muslim and married to ex Christian husband . Is my married annulled? What if I apply annulment in my country is that possible to be annulled since I am Muslim now. Can I marry to a muslim man,? Thanks in advance

  15. Hi

    I am a married Christian woman with two kids. I decided to be separated to my husband 3 yrs pat because he had another girl and he is living with her until now. We don't have communication since then. For now I have a Muslim boyfriend and he is single we've been for 4 months and he told me he wants to marry me. My question is...can I marry him if I will be converted into Muslim even if I am not annuled yet? Having an annulment is too much money in Philippines.

    Hope you can answer my question clearly. Thank you!

    • Maria, we have answered this question multiple times. Please search our archives.

      Wael Editor

      • Im a christian women married divorce and have 3 kids...i have a Muslim bf from Africa...he is living and working here in malaysia...we know each other since 3 months...he love me and i love him...he accept everything about me and i accept everything about him...i respect my religion and so my bf...i can't convert to Muslim and my bf is OK with my can i married him here in Malaysia legally.

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